Please can someone get me home

[stuckingeneva]

I'm in Geneva.

Last minute long weekend with newish partner. Two months.

first night. We came back to the room. I crashed on the bed. I woke to him pushing me in annoyance/aggression. I remember it. Like a shove.

We talked for a bit. He's pissed off. I mentioned it and all hells broken loose. Like I'm a wild cannon. How can I say that.

I just want to go home. I haven't sorted out the tests etc as that was his job and we had a few days. But I'm hiding in the bathroom now. I just want to go home

You've gotten good advise here, OP.

As a PP advised, you will not be getting any money from any of us, so do what you need to do to get home, or if you are just trying to get the cash, then .

I’m in Geneva. I live here. Send me a DM if you need somewhere to go to for a few hours

I push my partner when he's snoring, he often wakes me up, I give him a prod and it stops.

Hope you have got out of the bathroom now.

@Bettyboopawoop

I push my partner when he's snoring, he often wakes me up, I give him a prod and it stops.

Do you do it in a Hotels, screaming aggressively at him in his face, so much so He has to hide in the toilet to escape your fury in Geneva ? Does he have to consider calling for assistance ? or the Police ?

Call reception. In a fancy hotel they should be able to send someone to help you. I hope you’re ok.

Hope you are ok

Doesn't make any sense
But I hope if your ok

Did you get anything resolved? Please update to let us know you are OK?

Hope you’re OK OP

OP, how are we supposed to help you get home. If you want to go home get yourself a flight and go.

Are you unable to leave the room safely op?

What a strange thread. OP posts, asks for advice, seems to ignore all advice, disappears.

Oh well, hope everything’s OK, OP.

Just because a man shouts at a woman doesn't make him abusive. Men by their very physical characteristics come across more dominating - he can hardly help that - especially when faced with a hysterical person who is claiming/accusing and demonising him

Thinking of you OP. Hope you are OK and feeling safer.

perhaps the op has disappeared to the airport?

Hope you're ok OP

@tiggerwhocamefortea

Just because a man shouts at a woman doesn't make him abusive. Men by their very physical characteristics come across more dominating - he can hardly help that - especially when faced with a hysterical person who is claiming/accusing and demonising him

Taking her word for the situation, as none of us were there: I woke to him pushing me in annoyance/aggression. I remember it. Like a shove.

He was extremely angry - "pissed off", "over the top" - and asked if she's now going to say he hit her too, implying that she's lying that he shoved her. Why not just admit her pushed her and he didn't mean to hurt or startle her, just to wake her up or move her so he could get into bed or whatever? I wouldn't assume that she's "hysterical" (often a misogynist dog whistle) or "demonisng him" and he's some innocent angel. There are red flags all over this.

You are lucky you have your phone… but most people would have resorted to ringing up reception (security will be there all hours) before logging into MumsnetWhy and how did he “explode” at you?

Just because a man shouts at a woman doesn't make him abusive. Men by their very physical characteristics come across more dominating - he can hardly help that - especially when faced with a hysterical person who is claiming/accusing and demonising him

What apologist drivel is this? Yeah you're right, just because he has a penis he isn't responsible for any of his actions. Especially when it comes to dealing with a hysterical woman eh?

@tiggerwhocamefortea

Just because a man shouts at a woman doesn't make him abusive. Men by their very physical characteristics come across more dominating - he can hardly help that - especially when faced with a hysterical person who is claiming/accusing and demonising him

Wow. Hysterical? Poor men being so dominating and shouty by nature..

Morning OP. I hope you’re ok. Look at the offer of help from @LapinR0se above. Pack up, go somewhere for breakfast, and try to book a flight. An Ibis Budget hotel isn’t too expensive (by Swiss standards). And honestly, I wouldn’t call the police. I live in Switzerland and social attitudes are like the 1970s here. You will indulgently be told to try to get along better and left.

Yeah physical abuse and threatening behaviour is fine if it stops someone snoring 😳 some fucking idiots on MN, honestly.

Even with the OP disappearing I'll give this thread the benifit of the doubt, so would like to ask, at what point did the OP say she had woken up and was hysterically shouting at her partner? Or is that the usual MN posters making up their own story?

I read it as the shove woke her up, she turned and talked to him for a bit not mentioning the shove he thought she hadnt realised he shoved her. Then she asks him why he pushed her and he gets defensive, calls her names like wild cannon and becomes hysterical. He knows what he did was wrong.