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Please can someone get me home

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stuckingeneva · 23/09/2021 23:14

I'm in Geneva.

Last minute long weekend with newish partner. Two months.

first night. We came back to the room. I crashed on the bed. I woke to him pushing me in annoyance/aggression. I remember it. Like a shove.

We talked for a bit. He's pissed off. I mentioned it and all hells broken loose. Like I'm a wild cannon. How can I say that.

I just want to go home. I haven't sorted out the tests etc as that was his job and we had a few days. But I'm hiding in the bathroom now. I just want to go home

OP posts:
pelosi · 23/09/2021 23:31

@proudwomansexmatters

Are you sure you weren't snoring and he shoved you to get you to turn over?
Oh seriously go away
lynntheyresexpeople · 23/09/2021 23:33

Can you call reception and tell them you're in danger? They could send security or contact the police? Are you ok? Do you feel in danger? If so please call the police op

trappistkepler · 23/09/2021 23:36

If you are locked in the bathroom with your phone and are that worried, just call reception and explain and get them to send someone up and leave with your stuff when they come. The rest you can figure out after you get out of the room.

DailyMailcanfuckthefuckoff · 23/09/2021 23:36

Just checked TPG's website - the first train from Cornavin to the airport today is at 4.50am.

LegArmpits · 23/09/2021 23:38

Hmmm

PurpleDaisies · 23/09/2021 23:39

Seek help from the hotel reception. They are in the best position to get you to a safe place.

RickJames · 23/09/2021 23:39

Are you still okay OP?

Honestly, you will not be the first instance of this in the hotel. Do not be embarrassed. Even if you are a bit pissed, thats normal for a holiday, right? Just stay calm. Stay in the bathroom with the door locked for as long as you need to. If you've been drinking, he'll knock out eventually and then you can run. Have you told your family or friends what's happening? That could be a good idea.

someonesomewhere7 · 23/09/2021 23:40

@proudwomansexmatters

When you say push you? What do you mean? As in having an argument and he shoved you? Or you were in bed sleeping and you woke up because he was shoving you? Had you both been drinking?

If you're unsafe then you need to leave.

That's crucial info. We need a bit more context to figure out how serious the situation is and what your best course of action will be. Your post is all over the place.

Were you sleeping and he pushed you out of nowhere? Did he purposefully push you in the middle of an argument? What is he doing/saying now?

Original poster
stuckingeneva · 23/09/2021 23:40

I didn't feel in danger until he exploded at me. I thought the shove Wes because I was snoring etc. But his reaction was just so over the top

Like I'm going to the police about him hitting me. That's never come up before.

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Original poster
stuckingeneva · 23/09/2021 23:41

I was asleep. I woke up and he shoved me

No fights before hand

OP posts:
pelosi · 23/09/2021 23:42

Like I'm going to the police about him hitting me.

Why not? Call the police, let them get you out and then you never have to see him again.

Seems like a no brainier to me.

Or just leave the room.

Lockheart · 23/09/2021 23:42

OP, use the phone you're posting with to call reception. They'll be able to give you actual help, which posters on MN can't.

home2012 · 23/09/2021 23:43

What hotel are you in. If it's Geneva city centre then the airports only five min away. Grab a taxi abs get first flight. They start at 6am.

TatianaBis · 23/09/2021 23:44

OP, listen, the only thing you should do right now is call the police.

They will come and get you, help you get your stuff together, and help you find somewhere else to stay.

Don’t fuck about with hotel security, or downloading apps - your focus must be to get yourself out of there quickly and safely.

Call the police from your phone. And then call the front desk and tell them you’ve had to call the police.

someonesomewhere7 · 23/09/2021 23:44

Call reception and get out. Accommodation, transport, testing, all that can be arranged later. You're not stuck. You need to prioritise your safety.

RobertaFirmino · 23/09/2021 23:45

It's been half an hour since your initial post yet you've not called the police or contacted reception. Nobody here is going to send you any money so if you really do need to leave then you need to tell someone at reception.

RickJames · 23/09/2021 23:50

So he shoved you and shouted at you - for snoring? Or for being something else e.g. stupid or frigid or ugly ?

A little push for snoring is one thing, a big shove is another.

Whatever, if you don't feel safe, (and I did not like that comment he made about you would say he hit you), you should not feel bad for leaving.

Call a friend. Give it a few minutes til he sleeps and then go.

avamiah · 23/09/2021 23:50

I hope OP is ok I really do but I have been in a similar situation many years ago with a guy I had been seeing for a short time and we were both very drunk.

I’m not saying this is the case with OP but we can’t rule it out.

If it’s not the case then she should call the Police .

DailyMailcanfuckthefuckoff · 23/09/2021 23:55

I have to go to bed (work in the morning) but stay safe OP.

Here's the English TPG link if you need it (I know people have mentioned taxis but they're astronomical in Geneva and idk what your money situation's like!): www.tpg.ch/en

Original poster
stuckingeneva · 23/09/2021 23:58

Because police seems so drastic.

And I'm all over the place. I don't think I'd make any sense

Thank you for the sites. Yes we are central Geneva. We got the train so I know how to get back to the airport. Just checking flights.

And no we weren't raging drunk. We'd had a bottle of wine with dinner. So not massively drunk. Not enough for things to be so extreme.

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PurpleDaisies · 24/09/2021 00:00

What is the situation right now?

QueenBee52 · 24/09/2021 00:04

Stay focused... he might fall asleep... can you leave safely 🌸

Original poster
stuckingeneva · 24/09/2021 00:04

I'm waiting to him to fall asleep

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TatianaBis · 24/09/2021 00:05

It may seem drastic to you, but you’re in a very vulnerable situation that abuse advice specifically cautions against: getting yourself backed into a locked room with no exit.

None of us know what is going to happen next. All you know is that the bloke on the other side of the door is aggressive.

If you call hotel reception, they may send someone up who knows what they’re doing or they may send up a Manuel.

Call the police, they’re the professionals, they know how to handle this.

home2012 · 24/09/2021 00:06

Just call reception. They will send someone to your room and take you somewhere safe.