Please can someone get me home

[stuckingeneva]

I'm in Geneva.

Last minute long weekend with newish partner. Two months.

first night. We came back to the room. I crashed on the bed. I woke to him pushing me in annoyance/aggression. I remember it. Like a shove.

We talked for a bit. He's pissed off. I mentioned it and all hells broken loose. Like I'm a wild cannon. How can I say that.

I just want to go home. I haven't sorted out the tests etc as that was his job and we had a few days. But I'm hiding in the bathroom now. I just want to go home

[Burnamer]

OP - glad you’re ok.
How do you feel about your boyfriend now? I cant tell if your post means that you feel better about the options to get home or fee better about him?
Either way - look after yourself.

[QueenBee52]

Glad you are safe OP... 🌸

[PennyRoyal]

Half you're ok this morning. What has he said about it?

[fourandnomore]

Glad you’re ok OP and going to get home ok.

[stuckingeneva]

@ChicChaos

I'm always suspicious of a poster who is too 'all over the place' to speak to the Police yet can register/namechange on MN to a name that applies to their dilemma. I'm surprised this thread is still here *@MNHQ*

They've spoken to me. But feel free to email them again instead of troll hunting.

I've posted quite a lot on these boards over the years and no matter what the subject. Even being attacked. Someone will come on and say I'm a troll.

Thanks for all the help and advice. Especially the kind offers in Geneva. Im not after money. More the practicalities of testing etc. Which I know nothing about. The gov website overwhelmed me.

I have a history of physical abuse so I wanted to ask if it was just me. I can't tell.

It wasn't so much the push/shove. If he had said I was snoring. Or i was squashing his arm. Or even no I didn't that would have been fine. It was his reaction to get so angry that upset me. The accusation that id be saying he'd raped me next I couldn't get my head round.

I slept in the end. I'm having breakfast downstairs now. Going to look at all my options. There are some afternoon flights with availability. But everything seems a lot better with daylight.

[ChicChaos]

@PurpleDaisies

Yes, I am surprised too. I had a LOT of emails this morning.

That's very tactfully worded, I also received a similar amount of emails this morning. Masses, in fact.

[soniamumsnet]

Hi - just dropping in to say that we had a few reports and can confirm that OP is not a troll. We took the thread down briefly to have a look behind the scenes.

[PurpleDaisies]

Yes, I am surprised too. I had a LOT of emails this morning.

[ChicChaos]

I'm always suspicious of a poster who is too 'all over the place' to speak to the Police yet can register/namechange on MN to a name that applies to their dilemma. I'm surprised this thread is still here @MNHQ

[merrymelody]

I know Geneva very well also. Hotel staff are usually helpful, courteous and kind.

I hope you're feeling safe now, OP.

[DavidRosesJumpers]

What's with all the shoving?! Pushing/moving your long term partner to roll them over fine. Shoving a new girlfriend of just two months on first weekend away does not sound ok at all to me? And when asked about it, surely you apologise and explain they were snoring. You don't blow up as she described. Surely you would want to reassure the person you only recently started dating and are sharing a bed with that you didn't mean to startle them/worry them.

Being away from home in a hotel room with someone who acts aggressively must leave OP feeling very vulnerable, because the reality is OP barely knows him and this must be sinking in. And she is in a vulnerable position.

As to not replying, she hasn't started the thread as entertainment and could be busy doing anything, or could be asleep.

It's not surprising that she posted on MN trying to gather her thoughts, and given the range of reactions not surprising she didn't know whether she is overreacting or not, or whether it's worth reporting.

[ilovesooty]

I hope she's called reception and explained her situation. She can then decide on practical next steps.

And yes, I agree that offering your home to someone you don't know is foolish.

[Cam77]

@rwalker
Could be something like this. The fact they don’t know each other very well, meant it’s quickly escalated into accusations and defensiveness rather than being either laughed off or dealt with a quick rebuke “next time I’m snoring/lying on the remote wake me verbally rather than with a nudge/shove”.

[abouquetofsharpenedpencils]

I hope you are ok OP.

[Cam77]

What’s his reaction to you saying he pushed you while you were asleep? Is it possible he thought you were sleeping on the remote control or something and was just trying to move you an inch? Then got embarrassed and defensive for some weird reason. I mean that’s not a good way to handle it obviously, but it’s a different ball game to some crazy bastard pushing someone for no reason at all while they sleep.

[nimbuscloud]

some fucking idiots on MN, honestly.

Yep.

[rwalker]

I can't workout whats gone on was OP asleep snoring he shoved her to stop her snoring and it startled her when she woke up.
That a in a complelty different league then threating violent assault .

Then she's accused him of assaulting her and he taken objection to this .

I've been shoved and have shoved someone to stop them snoring, it does startle you as you don't know whats gone on but wouldn't say I'd been assaulted .

I think anyone would get defensive it they were accused of assault for this I would .

[FrankieDobie]

@FloconDeNeige

I’m in Vaud (outside Geneve) and I think it’s a bit fool-hardy of a poster to offer their home to a random on the internet, on a questionable thread.

When I read the dramatic title, I expected it to be someone who had lost their passport or was stranded somewhere where it was kicking off, not in a hotel in central Geneva!

I’m in Vaud (outside Geneve) and I think it’s a bit fool-hardy of a poster to offer their home to a random on the internet, on a questionable thread

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Totally agree. Very naive

[BoreiPuriHagafen]

@LakieLady

Even if this isn't real, I have been hugely impressed by the support and advice offered by PPs, especially the kind offer of somewhere to stay in Geneva.

What lovely people you all are.

I'm not sure that 'lovely' and 'impressive' are the words I'd use for offering your home to complete strangers on the Internet.

[FloconDeNeige]

I’m in Vaud (outside Geneve) and I think it’s a bit fool-hardy of a poster to offer their home to a random on the internet, on a questionable thread.

When I read the dramatic title, I expected it to be someone who had lost their passport or was stranded somewhere where it was kicking off, not in a hotel in central Geneva!

[sashh]

Are you still in the bathroom?

Call reception, get them to send up security, pack your bag and go to reception. Get reception to call the British Embassy / consulate they can help you get home, you will have to pay for a flight.

www.gov.uk/world/switzerland

Swiss info on domestic abuse in English

www.opferhilfe-schweiz.ch/en/i-am-victim/domestic-violence/

[LakieLady]

Even if this isn't real, I have been hugely impressed by the support and advice offered by PPs, especially the kind offer of somewhere to stay in Geneva.

What lovely people you all are.

[ittakes2]

Just call reception and ask for a man and a woman to come up to the room and to ring you when they are at the door so you can be sure they have sent a man and a woman. Ask them to unlock the door and come in and watch while you get your things.

[Billybagpuss]

Hope you’re ok this morning op