WIBU to end it over this?

[ilovehalloumi]

Been seeing a lovely bloke for 3/4 months, all going well. Treats me great, loads in common, fantastic sex.

Took me out for dinner tonight, ended up in a few cocktail bars, both got fairly drunk.

Got back to mine, went to bed, I woke up a couple of hours later to him PISSING IN THE CORNER OF MY ROOM!!

He's stayed over a few times, definitely knows where the bathroom is.

I'm properly grossed out, obviously when he wakes he will be cleaning it up. I've hardly slept because I feel properly furious.

WIBU to tell him to leave and not come back? I've texted my bestie but since it's 6.30am I imagine she won't reply for a while.....so I'm asking you Mumsnet

Wake him up right now, make him clean it up immediately. Then chuck him out and never contact him again.

Um if this is for real then wow! No YANBU

Yes end it but be “nice” until he’s cleaned it up first. Gross!

And I agree wake him up now. Get some money off him for a professional cleaner and throw him out.

An ex did this when drunk once. It was like he was sleepwalking; in his head he was in the toilet apparently! I started shouting and he said something like 'It's okay, I'm going back to sleep' and attempted to get back into bed.

He was mortified when I managed to wake him up and spent a long time scrubbing! It only ever happened once, but it was very weird.

So gross buuuuuttt some blokes do this when you're drunk and sleep walk. They don't know they're doing it. Chat with him in the morning.

Unfortunately very real 🤢

Never had agreement on AIBU before

YABU to watch him piss in the corner of your room and say absolutely nothing.

Please tell me he didn't get back into bed with you 🤢

*they're

DD is coming home later from her dads and I feel sick knowing there is a puddle she could step in 🤢🤢

It woke me up, I yelled and he stopped. He did get back in bed yep

Yanbu

Wake him up, get him to clean it and chuck him out

@ilovehalloumi

It woke me up, I yelled and he stopped. He did get back in bed yep

Oh that is utterly vile.

Genuinely expected to be told I was overreacting. Off to kick him out

Presumably he wasn't aware he was doing it? It's not like he was purposefully pissing in your room. If he was sleepwalking or something then it's not really his fault 🤷‍♀️ It might not have been something that's ever happened to him before.

Obviously it's gross but kicking him out? Just get him to clean it and I expect he'll be mortified.

Oh poor bloke! The answer is for neither of you to get that pissed in the future.

I don't think we were THAT pissed. I feel fine (physically) this morning and he was still able to 'perform' last night

It’s not an uncommon sleep walking thing to do, especially in an unfamiliar place and drunk. He’s likely to be extremely embarrassed when he realises. I’d have woken him at the time to deal with it to be honest, rather than silently fume. He’s no doubt completely unaware. Not sure what you had to gain by not dealing with it.

I had an acquaintance at uni who was renowned for doing this regularly. An ex boyfriend of mine also did it once. He was mortified and it didn’t happen again in the five years we were together.

I wouldn’t necessarily bin him off because of this. Agree it’s grim but I can’t imagine there was any negative intent and if he’s amazing in every other way….

I've heard of people doing this before , he won't have done it on purpose and will no doubt be very embarrassed

He's never sleepwalked before. I did shout and he went to the bathroom. I followed him and said 'what the fuck' and he said he thought he was in the bathroom. He knows he did it, he apologised.

I haven't gained anything from seething, I just felt bad waking him up to clean it

Yes, when my ex did it we were staying away from home, so I think there's definitely an element of it being more likely to happen in an unfamiliar place. He was definitely sleepwalking and even though he was communicating with me, he wasn't awake. He wasn't very drunk, certainly less drunk than he'd been plenty of times before. So there was obviously a perfect storm of circumstances! He did it once in six years.

Yeah my DH went to do it in the wardrobe once. I stopped him just before he started and guided him to the bathroom so disaster was averted. It was definitely a sleep walking thing and it never happened again.

A friend of ours would do this very occasionally if he was drunk, like PP said he would sleepwalk to where he thought the loo was. If his partner was there she would speak loudly to wake him.

He is a lovely guy, wouldn't do anything like this on purpose. So I would wait to see how your bloke reacts and obvs get him to do the cleaning! If he is unaware that he did it and suitably apologetic, I wouldn't dump him for it.

Still gross, though

YABU…..it’s not that uncommon! He was pissed/sleep walking and got confused, he did not intentionally pee in your room! Years ago, my exh did this in a hotel, he actually ignored the en-suite, walked out of the room, into the corridor and peed out there….he only fully woke up when he couldn’t get back into the room (door had locked behind him). He was starkers and MORTIFIED!!!

Able to wake up enough to go to the bathroom when you shouted, able to apologise, but not bothered enough to clear it up straight away?

That’s worse than doing it in the first place!