to get up early for work and wake the whole family?

[MonsterMunch99]

I go into London once a week for work, and normally I get up at 7 which gets me into the office about 9:30. Occasionally I'm awake early and decide to get the earlier train, so I can be in the office for 8:30. This means I have to creep into our bedroom at 6:15 (I sleep in the spare room, but all my stuff is in our room), grab some clothes, then creep out and shower in another bathroom. Our place is open plan so if I make too much noise in the kitchen it's audible throughout the house. I obviously try to tiptoe everywhere, and even eat my cereal in another room, but it still wakes everyone up.

I can see it's annoying - I also hate being woken up early. But if I'm awake and ready to go at 6am, what am I supposed to do - just lie there for an hour?

Obviously if I planned better I could get my stuff ready the night before, which would alleviate the issue a bit - but I would probably still wake everyone up.

What's reasonable here? I can't be the only person getting up earlier than DP in order to go to work.

leave your clothes out the night before, that's just common courtesy. The rest is fine, although you could eat something on the train instead of having breakfast, although I don't think you should have to

6.15 is hardly "early"!

If your DP is that worried can't they get ear plugs.

You could make things easier for yourself by putting everything you need in the spare room the night before, rather than having to go into the bedroom rummaging around in the morning. It would also be a time-saver.

Are you sleeping in the spare room because you’re getting up early? If so you need to plan ahead and have your clothes/whatever you need for the morning in the spare room too or it’s pointless - thats easily solved.

I don’t see how getting up to have a shower & eat breakfast is waking everyone up apart from that, how is that noisy?

If you showered and got all your clothes the night before I don't see how loud you could be to wake everyone up then.

I really don't think 6:15 is early..... YANBU.
I'm currently on maternity leave but DP gets up for work at 6am. I get up with him and then use the morning to get jobs done etc.

If your partner is working too, why can't you both get an early night together and get up early together? 🤔

Planning is key, as you say. The night before your London day you lay out all your clothes etc and plan to shower in the other bathroom, regardless of the time you wake up. You lay out everything you need in the kitchen so you're not not opening and closing drawers, don't put your shoes on until you're walking out the door etc. Don't clank your spoon in your bowl.
We have the same set up as you, open plan kitchen and each of us commuting on different days and just about manage it, although closing the front door is a bone of contention!

I wake up and go to work most days before everyone else in the house and manage to not wake anyone else up! What are you doing that’s so noisy? Get your clothes ready the night before.

Aren’t their bedroom doors closed?

YABU. Shower and get your clothes ready the night before.

Don’t be selfish and wake up everyone else because you didn’t think ahead. You know this happens, so plan for it.

I do this every work morning. Clothes in bathroom. If they can't sleep through the rest they can get up and make you a cup of tea

Are you waking children who then need to be managed, or just your DP?

I’d make sure you have everything you need from the bedroom the night before, then crack on.

Planning is the key, I used to get up to start work at 2am
I got my clothes ready the night before and hung them in the bathroom.
Bag(including lunch/breakfast )shoes and keys ready by front door.
Basically get up, shower, dress and quietly out the door, I'd get a coffee if I needed it once at work, had water bottle in bag along with a cereal bar for energy on the journey in.
Any housework such as tidying and washing would be done after work.
Being constantly woken up by others noisyness is infuriating in the morning

Get everything sorted and keep it in the spare room the night before - clothes, makeup, bag. I used to leave for work at 7.15am (or head out for a run at 6am), before DP had even woken up.

Take your stuff into the spare room the night before.

By other bathroom do you mean not an en-suite? Surely it’s only basic manners not to shower in the en-suite while the other person is sleeping when you wake up earlier than usual?

Waking the whole family unnecessarily is just rude and unnecessary when there are clearly simple steps you can take not to do so.

It’s hardly the middle of the night. For once a week I think if you’re doing everything you can not to wake everyone up they just have to suck it up.

I also have to go to London once or twice a week and need to leave home around 7am so get up at 6. I leave my clothes, make up, hair dryer etc out the night before. Quick shower in the morning and then get ready in the living room. Once I'm out of bed I don't go back into the bedroom. This seems fair as I also wouldn't like to be woken up earlier than necessary.

You have literally put the solution in the op.

Actually I think it is unreasonable. If you know you will be getting up early, have a shower the night before, sort your clothes out and put them where you sleep, and have a breakfast you take with you, or have it at work.
But I call reverse on this

I get up at 4am for work every day. I leave my clothes on the landing and dress in the bathroom. Not woken anyone yet 😊

I managed to get up this morning at 6.30, shower, get dressed and put some make up on without waking dp or kids, and dp and I sleep in the same room! What are you doing that's so noisy?

I am up the earliest because I have a longer commute but by the time I leave at 7.30 I'm not bothered about waking anyone because it's a reasonable time to be awake.

DH sometimes leaves for work at 6.30. He has everything organised the night before. Yes the 5 30 alarm is annoying (he has to take medication 30mins before breakfast so needs longer to get ready) but he manages not to wake the children.

When i have to get up earlier than everyone else i make sure everything is ready the night before, down to bowl, spoon and cereal box out and on the kitchen worktop and everything else all in one place so I'm not walking around the house, turning various lights on, opening and shutting cupboards etc. DH will get his clothes out but not much else, so he's running around looking for things, up and down stairs, getting his lunch ready, opening and shutting cupboards rattling around in the cutlery drawer/tupperware cupboard. There's not much worse than interrupted sleep, just be as considerate as possible

Leave clothes out at least. Could you shower the night before? Saying this I don’t think 6 is too early!

Keep your clothes in the spare room and prepare a breakfast you can have when you get in - I used to make overnight oats for this purpose. It depends how loud you are in the bathroom, DH insists on having his radio on at a deafening level when he takes a shower.

OP, I understand that the living area is open plan, but surely the bedrooms have doors? What are you doing in the kitchen that makes enough noise to wake people through the door?

@CMOTDibbler Agreed!