I always think this too, I didn't drive until after I'd had my second child and neither do lots of other people. So no matter if I was drunk or sober we would have had to get a taxi to the hospital if such a situation arose. Didn't make me a bad parent.
It’s not really about getting to the hospital though. Would you want to be stood in a hospital in the middle of the night, smelling of alcohol or clearly under the influence, trying to take in info about your suck child and possibly make medical decisions?
I’m the least likely person in the world to catastrophise and spend my time worrying about what ifs, but even I can see that when you’re the person in charge of a child’s care, even if that child is currently sleeping, you should be in a fit state to care for them. Kids can and do become ill quite quickly, even if it turns out not to be anything serious. In the past couple of months since restrictions eased, at least half of the eight families in my mum group have been in hospital with their toddlers for one thing or another.
I’m not saying it makes you a bad parent if you have one, two max drinks, but drinking a bottle of wine, alone, late at night while knowing if your six month old wakes up then you’re the one looking after them, knowing you need to get up with them the next day, does paint someone in a certain light that is very worrying.
Then you add in the drunken ‘I could drive if I wanted to!’ protests and... yeah. Not a great look. Poor baby.