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Original poster

Do you drink when you have a child?

203 replies

Newbabynewhouse · 22/08/2021 21:53

Currently sat drinking a bottle of red wine as its yummy..feeling guilty as I'm looking after my baby (6 months old) who's asleep in cot.. partner is also asleep but she's my responsibility tonight as he's in work early in the morn.... for added context, I'm a large lady so a bottle won't get me 'drunk' is this bad.. am i the only one who does this
...?

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Goldbar · 22/08/2021 23:13

I didn't really drink for the first year or so since DC woke multiple times a night and I was breastfeeding so had to deal with it. Also, my DH was working nights a lot so it was just me and DC for a lot of the time. I felt shit already so didn't need a hangover on top of that. I mostly drank when my parents were staying so there would be someone else to listen out for my DC - my mother is a very light sleeper.

Now that DC is older, I will have a few drinks at the weekend if I feel like it and I don't have any safety concerns. They are old enough to potter around reasonably safely and our house is still mostly child-proofed. In any case, the first thing they do when they wake up if I'm not already awake is come and wake me up by jumping on me. But I still question whether it is worth the awfulness of parenting with a hangover (and my DC no longer naps so that's me up until bedtime).

U2HasTheEdge · 22/08/2021 23:13

[quote Newbabynewhouse]@muddydoor

Thank you.. but no, I have spent the whole thread saying how fat I am.. not that I am tolerant, but that I am fat..

Your spelling doesn't do you must justice really, do you need that number?

The fact it was £6 was a private comment to a poster who said they only buy the wine that I bought when it was on offer for £6... mine was on offer also for £6 so thought it was relevant... I am honestly fine.. but thank you anyway!! Grin[/quote]
I need to try this wine tomorrow!

Darcy86 · 22/08/2021 23:14

I'm cringing/laughing at all these cries of alcoholism Hmm

I also have a 6 month old, OP, and do have a couple of glasses regularly after he's in bed. I rarely drink a whole bottle these days but I have on 1 or 2 occasions when we've had family over etc. As another poster said, a bottle is essentially 3 glasses. Very easy to do over an evening. You are allowed to let your hair down once in a while especially if your husband is there just in case of emergency. I think some of the replies are verging on hysterical.

youvegottenminuteslynn · 22/08/2021 23:14

also I reckon i could still drive a car if need be! Possibly not legally but I could do it!

Fuck me. As someone who had life changing injuries and my life ruined for a good few years (with head trauma that has permanent consequences) thanks to a drunk driver, don't be so fucking flippant about one of the most selfish things you could do. Christ.

Alternista · 22/08/2021 23:14

A bottle of wine whilst in charge of a tiny baby?
No, i wouldn’t do that.

Original poster
Newbabynewhouse · 22/08/2021 23:15

@MiddleParking

Sorry, what is concerning to you about my parenting? The fact that my husband could drive to A&E if needed?

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youvegottenminuteslynn · 22/08/2021 23:18

[quote Newbabynewhouse]@MiddleParking

Sorry, what is concerning to you about my parenting? The fact that my husband could drive to A&E if needed?[/quote]
No, you said you could drive if needed.

KurtWilde · 22/08/2021 23:18

also I reckon i could still drive a car if need be! Possibly not legally but I could do it!

You didn't do yourself any favours with this comment.

Original poster
Newbabynewhouse · 22/08/2021 23:19

Haha, I honestly do need to stop asking for opinions on mumsnet as I'm always shell shocked at some of the replies and never learn my lesson of everyone thinks at completely opposite ends of the scale GrinWink

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youvegottenminuteslynn · 22/08/2021 23:22

@Newbabynewhouse

Haha, I honestly do need to stop asking for opinions on mumsnet as I'm always shell shocked at some of the replies and never learn my lesson of everyone thinks at completely opposite ends of the scale GrinWink
Some people just think it makes you selfish as fuck to either actually mean, or joke about, the fact you'd drive after a bottle of wine.
AlwaysLatte · 22/08/2021 23:23

As long as it's not the whole bottle! - a glass would be fine. I usually think of drink driving limits - you never know if you need to suddenly drive in an emergency.

PrtScn · 22/08/2021 23:23

I stopped drinking for about a year when mine was born but he was a difficult baby and was breastfeeding and cosleeping. He’s still breasfeeding to sleep at night and cosleeping but I’ll have a max of 2/3 bottles of beer of an evening now and then. Don’t think I could cope with a bottle of wine though.

It’s about knowing your limits. If you aren’t co-sleeping so long as you don’t get shit faced and can respond in an emergency situation I say crack on.

MiddleParking · 22/08/2021 23:26

[quote Newbabynewhouse]@MiddleParking

Sorry, what is concerning to you about my parenting? The fact that my husband could drive to A&E if needed?[/quote]
Fairly obviously the fact that you think there’s even a possibility you could drive ‘if needed’ after a bottle of wine.

Alternista · 22/08/2021 23:27

I think you sound drunker than you think you do tbh, OP.

Maybe drink a pint of water and sleep it off, eh?

youvegottenminuteslynn · 22/08/2021 23:28

@Alternista

I think you sound drunker than you think you do tbh, OP.

Maybe drink a pint of water and sleep it off, eh?

This. Think OP will cringe tomorrow especially about the driving comment. Hopefully.
noblegreenk · 22/08/2021 23:31

I have a 3yo dd and I do drink in moderation around her. By this I mean that I'll have a a max of two glasses of wine or two G&Ts if I have her on my own - but I usually only drink a couple of times a week. If dh is around then I might finish a bottle of wine as long as he's not drinking. I am careful not to drink too much on my own with her just in case there was an emergency. I'd also reign in my drinking if dh was having more than a couple.

Original poster
Newbabynewhouse · 22/08/2021 23:40

I wouldn't drive my husband wouldHmm but I could...

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RubyFowler · 22/08/2021 23:43

@Newbabynewhouse

I wouldn't drive my husband wouldHmm but I could...
You really couldn't. You think you could, but you couldn't. Now you sound pissed, go to bed.
KurtWilde · 22/08/2021 23:44

@Newbabynewhouse

I wouldn't drive my husband wouldHmm but I could...
Clearly people who've caused accidents drunk driving also think they could, otherwise they wouldn't be in the car would they.
youvegottenminuteslynn · 22/08/2021 23:45

@Newbabynewhouse

I wouldn't drive my husband wouldHmm but I could...
You could? Anyone 'could' drive. People over the limit can't drive safely. You know who drives over the limit after a drink? Selfish people. And stupid people. Sometimes people who are both. Being so flippant and cocky about it isn't a good look and I think you'll feel embarrassed tomorrow reading your posts back.

Regards,
Victim of a selfish, stupid drunk driver.

TowelStripes · 22/08/2021 23:46

I have done the same. Like a pp said, there is a sober adult in the house if there is an emergency (unlikely). Enjoy it! Mumsnet is rubbish for anything booze related - a bottle is 10 units and as long as it's every now and again, it's fine imo

MiddleParking · 22/08/2021 23:47

@Newbabynewhouse

I wouldn't drive my husband wouldHmm but I could...
Yeah see that’s a terrifying lack of judgement, which generally doesn’t pair well with bottles of red wine and small babies.
EmeraldShamrock · 22/08/2021 23:49

@muddydoor Did you Google the phone number for OP. 🤣

Beautiful3 · 22/08/2021 23:50

A whole bottle of wine isn't good. One or two glasses would be OK.

Putthekettleon2021 · 22/08/2021 23:54

I'm breastfeeding so very rarely have the odd drink, but I would say a bottle is too much. A glass or two would be fine.