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AIBU?

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I'm not wrong to park here am I?

214 replies

figwine · 22/08/2021 21:20

I have a horrible steep driveway that I never use. Instead I park across its dropped kerb, therefore taking up no more space than if I parked on it. Opposite my house and my neighbour's, which both have drives, there is a row of 4 houses which have no drives, though the end two have garages behind them that are quite tricky to get to so they often park on 'my' side. Usually this is no problem as there's a house next to me on the corner that is side on and has its own drive round the corner, so along its side there is parking for about 4 cars before you get to my dropped kerb.

Nonetheless, sometimes I get home and someone is parked in 'my' space. Don't know who usually as I only know 2 of the cars opposite and 1 never parks in my space and the other does occasionally. So often I'm not sure who it is - may be nothing to do with the 4 houses or just a visitor. Next to my drive is my front garden along which 2 cars can park, so if the dropped kerb space is taken I go there - actually prefer it as slightly nearer my front door! I also park the other side of my dropped kerb, so not in front of my house, if I need to - if all 3 other places have gone. None of that is ever a problem and I'm at my dropped kerb about 80% of the time I'd say.

After those 2 spaces my neighbour's dropped kerb begins. It's a weird one as it's not a traditional vertical drive that goes down towards their house but instead it goes along the front so it's wider than it's long and not very deep. It has to be accessed sideways on. So because the dropped kerb is a lot longer than average, if there's nowhere else I park on the half of it nearest to my house, They have a sign in the window saying 'no parking' but I ignore that as it's not enforceable as far as I'm aware. Anyway, doing that has never caused a problem - though it's only an occasional thing anyway. As an additional complication they are often away and it's not unusual for days or even weeks to go by without me seeing their car at all.

Anyway, yesterday I got back from holiday and there were no spaces apart from one that was further down their dropped kerb than I would normally go. I went there because there was no other room and I didn't even know when they would be back. When I got in my car this morning there was a note asking me to move as 'it's a drive' - there was someone across my drive, which they must have seen, at that very moment, but that's just how it goes sometimes. I was also told they had to carry shopping down the street. Now they had parked in front of my house (a car had moved between me parking and them arriving) so they would have carried the shopping about 30 paces, which I quite often have to do.

WIBU to park there? I would only ever do it if no other option (I'm pretty sure I've done it before but moved before they got back), but should I leave their space empty when there is nowhere else? Surely it's first come first served in this situation?

OP posts:
dementedpixie · 22/08/2021 21:25

Nobody should be parking on anyone's dropped kerb

DeathStare · 22/08/2021 21:31

YABU. You didnt provide a diagram.

ghostyslovesheets · 22/08/2021 21:31

basically your super long post is 'I parked over my neighbours dropped curb AIBU?' - yes you are!

Seeline · 22/08/2021 21:31

You should not park across someone's dropped kerb. I know of people who have been ticketed parking across their own dropped kerb.

WhatisanODP · 22/08/2021 21:32

No one should be parking over a dropped curb!

ghostyslovesheets · 22/08/2021 21:32

also - use your drive way

Overthebow · 22/08/2021 21:32

YABU to park over a dropped kerb.

figwine · 22/08/2021 21:33

Right, well I'm in shock, shaking etc. I'm sure I've read on here several times that you can park across a dropped kerb as long as no one's parked on the drive, but have just Googled and seen that's not the case and apparently I shouldn't even park across my own... Certainly don't want to park on my shitty drive though...

OP posts:
Blueeilidh · 22/08/2021 21:34

If it's a dropped kerb, you shouldn't park there, equally no one should park on the dropped kerb at your driveway.

figwine · 22/08/2021 21:34

Yes, sorry it was long Blush. Not really long to read though.

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Indecisivelurcher · 22/08/2021 21:35

Yabu I think! Personally I think, use your drive... I am however pissed off because someone parked across half my driveway last week and stopped my full skip being picked up, so I'm now paying for 2!!!

DynamoKev · 22/08/2021 21:35

I'm not wrong to park here am I?
Yes you are.

Hankunamatata · 22/08/2021 21:35

www.newparkinglaws.co.uk/post/Parking-Next-to-a-Drop-Kerb

Yes it is classed as obstruction to park over dropped kerb. Use your drive 🤦‍♀️

Hankunamatata · 22/08/2021 21:37

If you dont want your drive. Remove gates and change it so there isn't an entrance to park over

figwine · 22/08/2021 21:37

Okay, so am I dreaming that people here often say that you can park on a dropped kerb as long as you're not blocking anyone in? Doesn't matter as it's wrong but I feel like I'm in a parallel universe now - none of those people have commented and very few have voted Grin.

OP posts:
icedcoffees · 22/08/2021 21:37

You shouldn't be parking across anyone's kerb. It might not be illegal but it's shitty behaviour.

Elouera · 22/08/2021 21:37

A ridiculously long post to say you parked on their dropped curb rather than your own driveway Hmm

DoThePropeller · 22/08/2021 21:37

You parking across your neighbour’s dropped kerb is still illegal, even if you have someone blocking your drive. Your neighbour is not BU to ask you not to block them in.

You would be well within your rights to report the car blocking your drive or leave a similar note.

Or start using your drive occasionally to send a message - if you never use it then other neighbours obviously don’t see it as a problem to block. Or get a no parking sign.

figwine · 22/08/2021 21:38

Ah - my drive hasn't got gates (and neither has the neighbour's) - does that change things?

OP posts:
frerecoler · 22/08/2021 21:38

WHERE IS THE BLOODY DIAGRAM???

Also do not park on a dropped Merv

frerecoler · 22/08/2021 21:38

Merv??? Hahaha. Kerb

figwine · 22/08/2021 21:39

Your neighbour is not BU to ask you not to block them in.

I didn't block them in - they weren't there.

OP posts:
DoThePropeller · 22/08/2021 21:40

Police are typically only interested in dealing with it if someone is blocked in their own drive. Not that it’s actually ok.

girlmom21 · 22/08/2021 21:40

That was a real arse-about-face way of asking if you're wrong to park across someone's driveway.
Yes you are.

DoThePropeller · 22/08/2021 21:40

Block them out, block access etc same same.

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