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I'm not wrong to park here am I?

214 replies

figwine · 22/08/2021 21:20

I have a horrible steep driveway that I never use. Instead I park across its dropped kerb, therefore taking up no more space than if I parked on it. Opposite my house and my neighbour's, which both have drives, there is a row of 4 houses which have no drives, though the end two have garages behind them that are quite tricky to get to so they often park on 'my' side. Usually this is no problem as there's a house next to me on the corner that is side on and has its own drive round the corner, so along its side there is parking for about 4 cars before you get to my dropped kerb.

Nonetheless, sometimes I get home and someone is parked in 'my' space. Don't know who usually as I only know 2 of the cars opposite and 1 never parks in my space and the other does occasionally. So often I'm not sure who it is - may be nothing to do with the 4 houses or just a visitor. Next to my drive is my front garden along which 2 cars can park, so if the dropped kerb space is taken I go there - actually prefer it as slightly nearer my front door! I also park the other side of my dropped kerb, so not in front of my house, if I need to - if all 3 other places have gone. None of that is ever a problem and I'm at my dropped kerb about 80% of the time I'd say.

After those 2 spaces my neighbour's dropped kerb begins. It's a weird one as it's not a traditional vertical drive that goes down towards their house but instead it goes along the front so it's wider than it's long and not very deep. It has to be accessed sideways on. So because the dropped kerb is a lot longer than average, if there's nowhere else I park on the half of it nearest to my house, They have a sign in the window saying 'no parking' but I ignore that as it's not enforceable as far as I'm aware. Anyway, doing that has never caused a problem - though it's only an occasional thing anyway. As an additional complication they are often away and it's not unusual for days or even weeks to go by without me seeing their car at all.

Anyway, yesterday I got back from holiday and there were no spaces apart from one that was further down their dropped kerb than I would normally go. I went there because there was no other room and I didn't even know when they would be back. When I got in my car this morning there was a note asking me to move as 'it's a drive' - there was someone across my drive, which they must have seen, at that very moment, but that's just how it goes sometimes. I was also told they had to carry shopping down the street. Now they had parked in front of my house (a car had moved between me parking and them arriving) so they would have carried the shopping about 30 paces, which I quite often have to do.

WIBU to park there? I would only ever do it if no other option (I'm pretty sure I've done it before but moved before they got back), but should I leave their space empty when there is nowhere else? Surely it's first come first served in this situation?

OP posts:
flowery · 22/08/2021 21:57

”definitely got the idea it was okay (ish) as long as not blocking anyone in.”

I don’t understand. Why would you think it would be ok to block someone out of their drive?

user1493494961 · 22/08/2021 21:58

You can't even park on it 'at the end', how can you not understand?

Fiddliestofsticks · 22/08/2021 21:58

@figwine

OddBoots

Well I couldn't use my drive if someone was parked across the entrance to it, could I?

Then you need to drive around until you find a space to your car which does not cause an obstruction to anyone or block anyone's property.

You do not get to block someone else's property.

Are you actually willing to accept this and stop doing it completely? Because everyone has told you to.

If you're not going to listen, then why ask?

Driftingblue · 22/08/2021 21:59

You shouldn’t even be parking across your own dropped kerb. It contributes to a culture of poor parking behavior in the neighborhood as you have experienced. People see a car parked in front of your drive and assume it is a valid space so block your drive. You are experiencing the consequences of your own actions.

Flickeringgreenlight · 22/08/2021 21:59

@figwine

So if I get back and there is nowhere else to park I need to leave their whole dropped kerb free (about 2 car lengths) and drive around looking for another space - would be in another street. Despite there being quite a high chance they won't even be back for days?

YES!!! You still should not park on a dropped kerb. Ever. They should be kept free. At all times. That's just how it is. No matter what way you are asking the questions or where the neighbours are for however long. Just leave the dropped kerbs. They are off limits. Use your drive or another ACTUAL parking space. The end.

ShuddaBeenMe · 22/08/2021 22:00

Just park on your drive. How bad can it be?

LavenderPink · 22/08/2021 22:01

Leave a note on the person parking in front of your drivers car. Don't go and pass the problem on to someone else.

EastWestWhosBest · 22/08/2021 22:02

@figwine

Okay, so am I dreaming that people here often say that you can park on a dropped kerb as long as you're not blocking anyone in? Doesn't matter as it's wrong but I feel like I'm in a parallel universe now - none of those people have commented and very few have voted Grin.
It’s often said that it’s not illegal. Not illegal is a different thing to not a dick move.
Redarrow2017 · 22/08/2021 22:02

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saraclara · 22/08/2021 22:05

This is astonishingly basic. How did you even pass your theory test, OP?

figwine · 22/08/2021 22:05

Alright, Jesus... 'outrageously disgusting...' slightly ott for the circumstances.

Can I just say endlessly going on about my drive is a bit daft since I can't park on it when it is blocked can I? Though a poster did blame me for starting 'a culture of bad parking' or something, well maybe, but one of the regular culprits is an elderly man who lives opposite and there is no way I'm putting a shitty/passive aggressive note on his car, despite being a twat and outrageously disgusting person.

OP posts:
LavenderPink · 22/08/2021 22:06

Park on your drive and this won't be an issue.

LavenderPink · 22/08/2021 22:06

there is no way I'm putting a shitty/passive aggressive note on his car maybe a polite one?

figwine · 22/08/2021 22:07

@Redarrow2017

You sound so entitled
Maybe, but a lot of the replies sound pompous, deranged, bloody rude or all 3. I get the point - I'm being UR and won't park there again.
OP posts:
Littlebelina · 22/08/2021 22:08

@ShuddaBeenMe

Just park on your drive. How bad can it be?
Ours is bad. Can't open doors wide enough to get kids in car seats plus steep and angled. So we park over drop kerb and sort of accept neighbours parking over a little bit of the dropped kerb as well (because God forbid they park 2/3 cars on their own drive) but accept we are in wrong as well. Hoping to get drive widened now we have 2 cars so we can use drive more easily as it's pain in arse.
figwine · 22/08/2021 22:08

@LavenderPink

Park on your drive and this won't be an issue.
How do you know that? You don't, and maybe I'll actually get blocked in to add to the difficult parking situation.
OP posts:
Bythemillpond · 22/08/2021 22:09

I thought dropped kerbs were fair game unless there are lines

The fact it is a dropped kerb is the same as a double yellow line.

TolkiensFallow · 22/08/2021 22:09

But you have started a culture of bad parking!

What’s so terrible about your drive? Can we have a photo? Presumably being a drive it was intended to be parked on? Did you not take parking into account when you moved there?

category12 · 22/08/2021 22:10

Presumably sometimes your drive is not blocked. At which point start using it, and then like magic, you have somewhere to park all the time.

I really resent people that have drives and don't use them.

callmeadoctor · 22/08/2021 22:11

Get your drive fixed so that u can park. If its too steep then you need to get a car space levelled at the bottom.

whynotwhatknot · 22/08/2021 22:11

Tell your neighbours to stop blocking your drive and use it yourself

you knew waht it was like when you bought it

waitingpatientlyforspring · 22/08/2021 22:12

@figwine

So if I get back and there is nowhere else to park I need to leave their whole dropped kerb free (about 2 car lengths) and drive around looking for another space - would be in another street. Despite there being quite a high chance they won't even be back for days?
Yes of course you leave it free!

I think you parking over your dropped curve and not ever using your drive has given other neighbours the impression that its ok to park there.

Leave your neighbours drive alone, either start using your drive, challenge people parked on your dropped curve or accept that sometimes you will have to walk further.

Candleinthewindae · 22/08/2021 22:12

I don’t understand why you can’t park on your own driveway. Even if it’s steep you should start using it. Make sure your handbrake on and leave it in gear

tywysoges · 22/08/2021 22:13

OP, the fact that you don’t use your drive have made your neighbours think it’s ok to park on your dropped kerb. Your neighbour uses their drive, so it’s not ok to block the entrance.