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I'm not wrong to park here am I?

214 replies

figwine · 22/08/2021 21:20

I have a horrible steep driveway that I never use. Instead I park across its dropped kerb, therefore taking up no more space than if I parked on it. Opposite my house and my neighbour's, which both have drives, there is a row of 4 houses which have no drives, though the end two have garages behind them that are quite tricky to get to so they often park on 'my' side. Usually this is no problem as there's a house next to me on the corner that is side on and has its own drive round the corner, so along its side there is parking for about 4 cars before you get to my dropped kerb.

Nonetheless, sometimes I get home and someone is parked in 'my' space. Don't know who usually as I only know 2 of the cars opposite and 1 never parks in my space and the other does occasionally. So often I'm not sure who it is - may be nothing to do with the 4 houses or just a visitor. Next to my drive is my front garden along which 2 cars can park, so if the dropped kerb space is taken I go there - actually prefer it as slightly nearer my front door! I also park the other side of my dropped kerb, so not in front of my house, if I need to - if all 3 other places have gone. None of that is ever a problem and I'm at my dropped kerb about 80% of the time I'd say.

After those 2 spaces my neighbour's dropped kerb begins. It's a weird one as it's not a traditional vertical drive that goes down towards their house but instead it goes along the front so it's wider than it's long and not very deep. It has to be accessed sideways on. So because the dropped kerb is a lot longer than average, if there's nowhere else I park on the half of it nearest to my house, They have a sign in the window saying 'no parking' but I ignore that as it's not enforceable as far as I'm aware. Anyway, doing that has never caused a problem - though it's only an occasional thing anyway. As an additional complication they are often away and it's not unusual for days or even weeks to go by without me seeing their car at all.

Anyway, yesterday I got back from holiday and there were no spaces apart from one that was further down their dropped kerb than I would normally go. I went there because there was no other room and I didn't even know when they would be back. When I got in my car this morning there was a note asking me to move as 'it's a drive' - there was someone across my drive, which they must have seen, at that very moment, but that's just how it goes sometimes. I was also told they had to carry shopping down the street. Now they had parked in front of my house (a car had moved between me parking and them arriving) so they would have carried the shopping about 30 paces, which I quite often have to do.

WIBU to park there? I would only ever do it if no other option (I'm pretty sure I've done it before but moved before they got back), but should I leave their space empty when there is nowhere else? Surely it's first come first served in this situation?

OP posts:
QueenStromba · 23/08/2021 09:55

I think people are being unfair about the OP not parking on her drive. Forget the steepness, it sounds like she wouldn't be able to get back off it due to the positions of parked cars.

phishy · 23/08/2021 10:36

@PalmsandCharms

I've now read all your posts on here OP. You're not coming across well at all. You came on here for advice yet you attack everyone who tells you (correctly) that you're wrong..

Does it cross your mind that you might actually not be right here?

If you'd read all her posts you'd know she said she wasn't going to do it anymore.

You are not coming across well, joining in the attacking of OP. What is wrong with you?!

Ludo19 · 23/08/2021 10:37

OP is there anyway you could make your drive a bit more accessible for you to use? So it's easier for you in the long run. Could you also get in touch with the local authority roads depot and get a white line like a big shaped I I'm afraid I don't know the correct term across your dropped kerb letting people know it is a drive and you need access and not to park so close to the dropped kerb. I had this done, I was so fed up of people parking over my drive and I used it.

Walkacrossthesand · 23/08/2021 12:56

This may not be the right place to ask, but - if there is a dropped kerb where a driveway used to be, but it's now in front of a wall, does the 'no parking' still apply? Did a PP say they got ticketed for this scenario?

Livelovebehappy · 23/08/2021 13:01

I’d be fuming if someone blocked my drive. You might be ok with people blocking yours, but a lot won’t be.

Shakirasma · 23/08/2021 13:23

While I get really irritated by people who try and claim rights to the public highway outside their house - you can't, if you dont like not being guaranteed a space outside your property then move to a property with a drive or allocated parking Angry - I would actually be really pissed off to get home and find access to my driveway blocked. Whether I'd been away from home for an hour or a month, it's out of order.

billyt · 23/08/2021 13:38

@PalmsandCharms

I've now read all your posts on here OP. You're not coming across well at all. You came on here for advice yet you attack everyone who tells you (correctly) that you're wrong..

Does it cross your mind that you might actually not be right here?

Actually, not 'everyone' is correct.
Fiddliestofsticks · 23/08/2021 13:46

@Walkacrossthesand

Those dropped kerb may still be required for wheelchair users to cross the road. Some areas have very few driveways which factor very nearly face onto another dropped kerb so even if a wall has been built, the kerb still needs to be kept clear for people to cross the road.

Megameg56 · 23/08/2021 16:00

To write an essay about your parking issue....try to do something interesting with your life.I stopped reading after the first paragraph!

Skyla2005 · 23/08/2021 19:24

@figwine

So if I get back and there is nowhere else to park I need to leave their whole dropped kerb free (about 2 car lengths) and drive around looking for another space - would be in another street. Despite there being quite a high chance they won't even be back for days?
No you need to ask the person blocking your drive to move. Just stop parking over each other's drives for gods sake this is bloody weird
SlipSlop · 23/08/2021 19:45

Give the OP a break people about parking on her steep drive.

I visit a relative's new place that has a steep drive. I tried reversing onto it once. My 1 litre car engine didn't appreciate my efforts one bit. Ever since it has made very strange noises, I need to take it to the garage and I'm dreading what it is going to cost me. So some drives really are too steep, unless you have an off road vehicle.

Now as for parking across her own drive, it's up to her, but it does mean that others will think it's okay to park across her drive. Just because she does it, as she has found from others on here it is considered a firing squad matter.

However, it always bemuses me that those of us living in terraced houses, when wanting a chance to park outside our homes are told we don't own the road. But for those with drives, it seems to be the case, at least that part that is car sized. Hmm Hence the rage if someone parks across a clearly empty drive.

DynamoKev · 24/08/2021 14:27

However, it always bemuses me that those of us living in terraced houses, when wanting a chance to park outside our homes are told we don't own the road. But for those with drives, it seems to be the case, at least that part that is car sized. hmm Hence the rage if someone parks across a clearly empty drive.
Why would that bemuse you? Its a simple, legal and very obvious difference.

Hemingwaycat · 24/08/2021 14:29

Of course YABU because you have a drive, you just don’t want to use it. Please don’t park on the pavement, I fucking hate selfish twats who do this.

isthisareverse · 24/08/2021 14:35

However, it always bemuses me that those of us living in terraced houses, when wanting a chance to park outside our homes are told we don't own the road. But for those with drives, it seems to be the case, at least that part that is car sized. hmm Hence the rage if someone parks across a clearly empty drive.

it's not the same at all.
Someone with a drive doesn't own the road in front of their home either, and can't do anything about people parking on it.

Having access to your own property and people not blocking this access is not the same.

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