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AIBU?

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I'm not wrong to park here am I?

214 replies

figwine · 22/08/2021 21:20

I have a horrible steep driveway that I never use. Instead I park across its dropped kerb, therefore taking up no more space than if I parked on it. Opposite my house and my neighbour's, which both have drives, there is a row of 4 houses which have no drives, though the end two have garages behind them that are quite tricky to get to so they often park on 'my' side. Usually this is no problem as there's a house next to me on the corner that is side on and has its own drive round the corner, so along its side there is parking for about 4 cars before you get to my dropped kerb.

Nonetheless, sometimes I get home and someone is parked in 'my' space. Don't know who usually as I only know 2 of the cars opposite and 1 never parks in my space and the other does occasionally. So often I'm not sure who it is - may be nothing to do with the 4 houses or just a visitor. Next to my drive is my front garden along which 2 cars can park, so if the dropped kerb space is taken I go there - actually prefer it as slightly nearer my front door! I also park the other side of my dropped kerb, so not in front of my house, if I need to - if all 3 other places have gone. None of that is ever a problem and I'm at my dropped kerb about 80% of the time I'd say.

After those 2 spaces my neighbour's dropped kerb begins. It's a weird one as it's not a traditional vertical drive that goes down towards their house but instead it goes along the front so it's wider than it's long and not very deep. It has to be accessed sideways on. So because the dropped kerb is a lot longer than average, if there's nowhere else I park on the half of it nearest to my house, They have a sign in the window saying 'no parking' but I ignore that as it's not enforceable as far as I'm aware. Anyway, doing that has never caused a problem - though it's only an occasional thing anyway. As an additional complication they are often away and it's not unusual for days or even weeks to go by without me seeing their car at all.

Anyway, yesterday I got back from holiday and there were no spaces apart from one that was further down their dropped kerb than I would normally go. I went there because there was no other room and I didn't even know when they would be back. When I got in my car this morning there was a note asking me to move as 'it's a drive' - there was someone across my drive, which they must have seen, at that very moment, but that's just how it goes sometimes. I was also told they had to carry shopping down the street. Now they had parked in front of my house (a car had moved between me parking and them arriving) so they would have carried the shopping about 30 paces, which I quite often have to do.

WIBU to park there? I would only ever do it if no other option (I'm pretty sure I've done it before but moved before they got back), but should I leave their space empty when there is nowhere else? Surely it's first come first served in this situation?

OP posts:
JaneTheVirgin · 22/08/2021 21:40

Are you new here? MN is usually VERY clear that parking across a dropped kerb is never ok.

Fiddliestofsticks · 22/08/2021 21:41

Stop parking across any part of your neighbours dropped kerb. It doesn't matter if they're in or not. Stop being a dick.

If you cant find a space then that's your problem. It is not your neighbours. They have a drive they are happy to use and you are making that regularly difficult and now you made it impossible for them to access their own land!

Stop doing it. Why do some people behave like such entitled, selfish treats.

dementedpixie · 22/08/2021 21:41

@figwine

Ah - my drive hasn't got gates (and neither has the neighbour's) - does that change things?
No
Fiddliestofsticks · 22/08/2021 21:41

*that was meant to say twats!!

DeathStare · 22/08/2021 21:42

@figwine

Okay, so am I dreaming that people here often say that you can park on a dropped kerb as long as you're not blocking anyone in? Doesn't matter as it's wrong but I feel like I'm in a parallel universe now - none of those people have commented and very few have voted Grin.
I've never heard that said on here. I've only ever seen "it's illegal to park across a dropped kerb". LOTS

I'd still like a diagram Grin

RubyFowler · 22/08/2021 21:42

YABU but so is the person who parked over your dropped kerb.
I understand tricky parking situations and would still park over your own dropped kerb if its easier than on your drive.
You might have had to go looking for a space on another street. Sometimes it happens. But I'd also leave a note for the person who parked over your kerb as they started the whole chain of events!

Indecisivelurcher · 22/08/2021 21:42

@figwine

Okay, so am I dreaming that people here often say that you can park on a dropped kerb as long as you're not blocking anyone in? Doesn't matter as it's wrong but I feel like I'm in a parallel universe now - none of those people have commented and very few have voted Grin.
I don't think this is true! You can't park over a dropped kerb. Irrespective of if they're there or not. (Or whether a skip is there.) Surely!
flowery · 22/08/2021 21:42

Of course you shouldn’t park across someone’s dropped kerb. Whether you can legally get away with it or not, morally of course it’s wrong. You’re blocking someone’s access to their property!

Why are you “in shock”?

Blindstupid · 22/08/2021 21:42

As you now know, you CAN’T park over a dropped kerb. Forget about what you’ve read others saying … you know now you can’t do it. Oh, and your OP was definitely long to read! Loads of blah blah for no reason Grin

MountainAshley · 22/08/2021 21:43

YABU

figwine · 22/08/2021 21:44

So if I get back and there is nowhere else to park I need to leave their whole dropped kerb free (about 2 car lengths) and drive around looking for another space - would be in another street. Despite there being quite a high chance they won't even be back for days?

OP posts:
dementedpixie · 22/08/2021 21:44

It's never OK to park across a dropped kerb whether there is a car there or not. We had to call the non emergency police about a car obstructing our drive/dropped kerb as we couldn't get past it

HandScreen · 22/08/2021 21:45

@figwine

So if I get back and there is nowhere else to park I need to leave their whole dropped kerb free (about 2 car lengths) and drive around looking for another space - would be in another street. Despite there being quite a high chance they won't even be back for days?
Yes.
dworky · 22/08/2021 21:45

@figwine

Okay, so am I dreaming that people here often say that you can park on a dropped kerb as long as you're not blocking anyone in? Doesn't matter as it's wrong but I feel like I'm in a parallel universe now - none of those people have commented and very few have voted Grin.
Depends where you are. In London it's an offence to block any dropped kerb & if someone parks in front of my drive I can phone parking control & request the vehicle be towed.
Flatdisco · 22/08/2021 21:45

@figwine

Okay, so am I dreaming that people here often say that you can park on a dropped kerb as long as you're not blocking anyone in? Doesn't matter as it's wrong but I feel like I'm in a parallel universe now - none of those people have commented and very few have voted Grin.
I've never seen this on here. But also you shouldn't just believe any old shit you read on mumsnet if you have read it.

YABU to park over someone's dropped kerb. My mum once got a parking ticket for her bumper overlapping a dripped kerb (not to a driveway) in a industrial area. So it's definitely not ok.

I feel like what you are doing is making your problem (of somone parking on your dropped kerb) into your neighbour's problem (you parking over their dropped kerb).

Im honestly a bit baffled as to why you could possibly think this would be OK and make sense. Even if you had read it on mumsnet. It still makes no sense.

JaneTheVirgin · 22/08/2021 21:45

@figwine

So if I get back and there is nowhere else to park I need to leave their whole dropped kerb free (about 2 car lengths) and drive around looking for another space - would be in another street. Despite there being quite a high chance they won't even be back for days?
Yes.
icedcoffees · 22/08/2021 21:45

@figwine

So if I get back and there is nowhere else to park I need to leave their whole dropped kerb free (about 2 car lengths) and drive around looking for another space - would be in another street. Despite there being quite a high chance they won't even be back for days?
Yes.

It's really not that complicated.

SoundBar · 22/08/2021 21:46

YABU to have a drive and not use it. Parking on the kerb is an obstruction for pedestrians and traffic. Get it landscaped so it's level with the street and has steps down to the house.

MrsEricBana · 22/08/2021 21:46

Yes, parking across dropped kerbs is not allowed. Of course you can't do it even if there's no car parked on the drive as they may need to get on their drive!

figwine · 22/08/2021 21:46

@JaneTheVirgin

Are you new here? MN is usually VERY clear that parking across a dropped kerb is never ok.
Not new though name change a lot (don't want to do that cringey thing where people quote 'famous' threads.) I'm not a huge parking thread fan but definitely got the idea it was okay (ish) as long as not blocking anyone in. Seems not, which I accept.
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OddBoots · 22/08/2021 21:46

@figwine

So if I get back and there is nowhere else to park I need to leave their whole dropped kerb free (about 2 car lengths) and drive around looking for another space - would be in another street. Despite there being quite a high chance they won't even be back for days?
Yes. Or use your drive.
Blindstupid · 22/08/2021 21:46

So if I get back and there is nowhere else to park I need to leave their whole dropped kerb free (about 2 car lengths) and drive around looking for another space - would be in another street. Despite there being quite a high chance they won't even be back for days? - CORRECT

Blueeilidh · 22/08/2021 21:46

Correct

Disneycharacter · 22/08/2021 21:47

You can park across any dropped curb provided there is no car in the driveway as you are then obstructing the highway. ie the parked car can not access the road if it is in the driveway. It's super frowned upon though and you are likely to have a very irate neighbour or homeowner.

As it's your own driveway, of course you can park on your dropped curb. You are obstructing no one. Bit silly though to be scared of parking in your drive. Handbrake on and into gear. It won't roll anywhere.

LavenderPink · 22/08/2021 21:47

Diagram please.
Why are people blocking your drive?
Sort your drive out then you can use it.

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