So he washed the sheets

[Wowhewashedthesheets]

and he cleaned the front door, and hoovered, and took the meter readings, and sorted the bin. He told me all this after I’d gone to the dentist in a strop because I was pissed off about something completely different and unrelated. I’ve just told him I have put loo rolls in his bathroom. He gave me an odd look, so I said well you told me you’d hoovered.

I’ve a good mind to keep this up right back at him so tonight it will be
“I’ve cooked you dinner” instead of “dinner is ready”
Tomorrow it will be “I’ve ordered , x y z on the online shopping for you” instead of it just appearing where he wants it.

I know I am not the only one who lives with this but today it’s really really annoyed me and I feel the need to say it somewhere.

Happy Friday everyone.

Have some 🥂🥂 OP

I've done a wash, cleaned a windowsill and a hand basin and done some weeding. Can I have a sticker?
Why do men need effusive praise for doing household tasks, in their own houses?
We just get on with it.

Is this his olive branch, having pissed you off before you went out? It is interesting how some men think that doing the chores in their own house is somehow a present for you

My partner has a name for this: it’s a ‘Manouncement’

Oh god, sometimes threads like this are so helpful if only so I know it's not just me/ my household My DH does this and seems to expect huge praise for doing something and then seems a bit hurt when I'm a bit meh, not least because I don't get effusive praise for everything I do (nor do I particularly expect it) so I can never understand why I'm expected to give it 🤷‍♀️

@Oldtiredfedup

My partner has a name for this: it’s a ‘Manouncement’

Love this.

Mine does the same, wants a medal for doing a thing I always do every day on my way to doing the other million things.

I completely understand why you’re annoyed.
I’ve got a good mind to start doing this with teenage DS’ but I don’t expect any response tbh. I’ve just put fresh towels out, cleaned the sink and loo. Here’s my MN medal 🥇

if I'm annoyed at my husband about anything, he cleans the house. It's bizarre but maybe I'll start pretending I'm annoyed.

I love that 'mannouncement' @Oldtiredfedup

DH made one of those when he emptied the smelly kitchen bin. I said I already knew because he hadn't replaced the bin bag. Soon shut him up.

I like the idea of telling him everything you've done too to prove a point.

A big question is whether he completed 'the card'. So when he did the sheets, did he wash AND dry AND put them away/re make the bed? Did he also note how much washing powder and softener there was left in case it needs to be added to the shop?

Because my DH would have washed the sheets....and I'd find them wet in the washer the next morning and have to make the bed at 11pm when I just want to go to sleep

Mine is emptying the dishwasher right now. I’ll go downstairs and get told he did it. He will only do half a job and not actually put any of the dirty dishes in though!

My ex used to add the words ‘for you’ to his manouncements. He’s lucky to be alive.

Tell him

I remembered to flush the loo and close the lid.

I fed the cat/dog/plant/baby

See how plumped-up the cushions are? Are you pleased ?

Manouncement best word ive come across today..
my husband who will wash up without being asked, has to leave the dirty water in the sink so that i notice ! what !! have i not noticed the pile on the draining board.

Urgh yes my DH is guilty of this - ‘I’ve emptied the bin for you.’ ‘I’ve hung up that washing for you.’ 😡😡

I never understand people’s relationships. In a million years, my husband would never mention household stuff he’s done, not expect thanks. And vice versa.

He just gets on and does it.

The worst is “I looked after the children for you” 🙄

@PrimeraVez I think the 'for you' part of that sentence would send me over the edge!!!

@Oldtiredfedup

My partner has a name for this: it’s a ‘Manouncement’

Fabulous. I love this.

“for you”

Never were two words more guaranteed to induce rage than those.

When my dad does this my mum goes into the kitchen and gets some tin foil and a makes a circle with it and presents it to my dad as his 'medal'. At first it was a joke but now there's a hint of violence in the way she slaps it on his chest....

@Tablow

A big question is whether he completed 'the card'. So when he did the sheets, did he wash AND dry AND put them away/re make the bed? Did he also note how much washing powder and softener there was left in case it needs to be added to the shop?

Because my DH would have washed the sheets....and I'd find them wet in the washer the next morning and have to make the bed at 11pm when I just want to go to sleep

I am looking at the basket filled with the dry sheets etc, he balanced on a pile of magazines at the end of the coffee table. I am going to sleep in the spare room tonight, he didn’t wash those sheets, and it’s a lovely single. Lol.

@tootiredtobother

Manouncement best word ive come across today.. my husband who will wash up without being asked, has to leave the dirty water in the sink so that i notice ! what !! have i not noticed the pile on the draining board.

He does this as well. I leave the bleach spray and the cloth in his bathroom sink when I clean, just so he knows I’ve done it.

@Oldtiredfedup

My partner has a name for this: it’s a ‘Manouncement’

Stealing that for my DH who feels the need to tell me when he's put his own office bin out.

Thanks everyone, I’ve had an enormously crap day but you’ve made me laugh a lot!