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Wowhewashedthesheets · 2021-08-20T16:01:15+00:00

and he cleaned the front door, and hoovered, and took the meter readings, and sorted the bin. He told me all this after I’d gone to the dentist in a strop because I was pissed off about something completely different and unrelated. I’ve just told him I have put loo rolls in his bathroom. He gave me an odd look, so I said well you told me you’d hoovered. I’ve a good mind to keep this up right back at him so tonight it will be “I’ve cooked you dinner” instead of “dinner is ready” Tomorrow it will be “I’ve ordered , x y z on the online shopping for you” instead of it just appearing where he wants it. I know I am not the only one who lives with this but today it’s really really annoyed me and I feel the need to say it somewhere. Happy Friday everyone.

Xyyxxx · 21/08/2021 18:34

I always say " what do you want, a f*ing medal"?

Littlepurpledragon · 21/08/2021 19:05

Saw this on one of the online card shops , I think of it every time my husband "achieves" something!!!

surfergrl · 21/08/2021 19:18

The response from me would be, "What d'ya want, a Chufty Badge and a round of applause?" This is a NW 80s thing...which Welsh DP doesn't understand anyway. But it amuses me, at least.

LouH1981 · 21/08/2021 19:54

@LouLou789 This is sooo true!

LouH1981 · 21/08/2021 19:57

@SparksAndLarks This is the funniest thing I’ve read in a long time! What a drama queen he is!

Toomuchtrouble4me · 21/08/2021 20:06

Get a little pack of ‘well done’ stickers and thrust one at him every times he tells you.

Ddot · 21/08/2021 21:49

Mine is allergic to pot washing 🤬not really just an arse

LovelyIssues · 21/08/2021 22:26

Manouncement is one of the funniest things I've read on MN

Yesitsbess · 21/08/2021 22:43

@Littlepurpledragon

Saw this on one of the online card shops , I think of it every time my husband "achieves" something!!!

HAHAHAHAAAAAAA! Bloody love that.

GYNisaliarWTF · 21/08/2021 23:30

I just did a full week (DP works away) at work, sole care with no help for DD1 (just) and he spent the entirety of today 1 hour away working on someone else’s car. Came home to mannounce that he’d emptied the bin. I was like MF U REALLY DO NOT WANT A THANK YOU

Sammyclaire22 · 21/08/2021 23:46

This struck a real cord! I get a whole list of (imo v minor) chores of what he's managed to achieve, (for me of course 😬 not just because he's the other adult) yet if I then try and list all the chores I've achieved whilst also looking after the baby and after only 3 or 4 hours broken sleep on a good night, I get told its not a competition and that he does loads around the house... Oh and half of my chores are actually me having quality time to myself apparently.

His current pisstake is to go in a major huff and refuse to speak to me if I ask him to wait to ask me something pointless (like where he left the talc) until I finish doing what I'm doing, such as giving a screaming, writhing baby medicine, trying to feed both toddler and baby breakfast, trying to remember and find what to pack for a day out for the family. Yet if I dare to ask him a question or try and have a conversation when he's playing the xbox I'm being unreasonable for not patiently waiting 10 mins, and it's not double standards at all. Those missions are very important, whereas I'm expected to hold 3 conversations at once.

DeflatedGinDrinker · 22/08/2021 01:51

Yanbu. Does he want a 'good effort' sticker?

supersop60 · 22/08/2021 04:27

@MincePieandBaileys

When my husband vacuums the house, he always shows me how much dust he has picked up!

Oh, this! " look at all the dog hair in here" Well, yes, we've got a dog. I get manouncements too, but I rarely say thank you - I'll say 'great' or, ' oh good, I hate that job', or 'it looks so much better'. There's also lots of half jobs done eg, emptying the dishwasher means leaving most of the stuff on the side, or doing the washing means putting it in the machine. He also queue jumps with his washing, ignoring the stuff that's already in the wash bin!

LunaAndHerMoonDragons · 22/08/2021 04:40

@HestersSamplerofCarrots

“for you”

Never were two words more guaranteed to induce rage than those.

Very much rage.

OldieButaGoodie · 22/08/2021 08:07

Mine once told a friend he couldn’t meet up as he was babysitting - I asked who’s children was he babysitting? Ours! I asked him if he considered me their babysitter too - of course not! Well, you’re not either mate! You’re parenting your own children, like I do.. ugh

csigeek · 22/08/2021 08:46

The bar for men is so low that they think it’s normal to do every day things, announce they did them like a proud child and expect praise for it. Men “help” women do household tasks.
How the hell do men who live alone cope? They have no one to announce their achievements to and no one to pick up the slack of their shortcomings!

Oldtiredfedup · 22/08/2021 10:26

They cope perfectly fine because they’re perfectly capable - they just expect the is replacement mothers to do it when they live with women

Oldtiredfedup · 22/08/2021 10:28

@Sammyclaire22

This struck a real cord! I get a whole list of (imo v minor) chores of what he's managed to achieve, (for me of course 😬 not just because he's the other adult) yet if I then try and list all the chores I've achieved whilst also looking after the baby and after only 3 or 4 hours broken sleep on a good night, I get told its not a competition and that he does loads around the house... Oh and half of my chores are actually me having quality time to myself apparently.

His current pisstake is to go in a major huff and refuse to speak to me if I ask him to wait to ask me something pointless (like where he left the talc) until I finish doing what I'm doing, such as giving a screaming, writhing baby medicine, trying to feed both toddler and baby breakfast, trying to remember and find what to pack for a day out for the family. Yet if I dare to ask him a question or try and have a conversation when he's playing the xbox I'm being unreasonable for not patiently waiting 10 mins, and it's not double standards at all. Those missions are very important, whereas I'm expected to hold 3 conversations at once.

Sounds exactly like my daughters father

JulesCobb · 22/08/2021 10:33

My partner has a name for this: it’s a ‘Manouncement Amazing!!!!!!!!

My dh early when we had first moved in together did this once. I looked puzzled and asked if he wanted a medal. He never did it again, unless it was necessary. Since then, despite having many other faults, he has been great at housework. But like I said, he is shit in other areas.

Sunshinealligator · 22/08/2021 10:38

Haha just get him back, but add "for you" at the end of everything.
For some reason it incenses me when DH does it. I'm like, it's not for me! This is part of being an adult.

Better yet. Tell him if its such an undertaking he needs to arrange a cleaner.

MakeMathsFun · 23/08/2021 22:57

Manouncement certainly can be annoying. However, you stated that you went to the dentist "in a strop". Maybe he is just communicating with you that certain chores have been completed, so that they don't get done twice. Maybe he thought it would be useful for you to know, to help ease your stress. At least you have a DH who takes on these responsibilities. Which is better, a DH who does nothing, or a DH who contributes and communicates with manouncement? Sounds to me that the "strop" is on-going and the poor man can do nothing right. I know its not for me to judge - I am just trying to play devil's advocate here because many people seem to have overlooked the fact while some partners are annoying because they don't communicate, there are others who do. This goes for both men and women. Without knowing what the strop was about, none of us can judge the DH either. Unknown strop vs known manouncement. Not a fair trial.

NewlyGranny · 25/08/2021 00:09

SparksAndLarks, yours doesn't need a medal, he needs an Oscar, doesn't he? I double dare you to get an envelope and do a best actor presentation when he comes back with a glass for you next time. And call for a speech where he cries and thanks everyone he's ever met.

susisoo · 25/08/2021 02:33

@DagenhamRoundhouse
I actually did do this house recently because we had visitors and I happened to notice it

susisoo · 25/08/2021 02:34

Sorry forget the( house} I miss typed.

DoWhatYouWantToAndShh · 25/08/2021 03:05

@Tablow

A big question is whether he completed 'the card'. So when he did the sheets, did he wash AND dry AND put them away/re make the bed? Did he also note how much washing powder and softener there was left in case it needs to be added to the shop?

Because my DH would have washed the sheets....and I'd find them wet in the washer the next morning and have to make the bed at 11pm when I just want to go to sleep

Yeah that's the problem. Summed up.

People who announce they've done the washing or done the dishwasher etc. When what they really mean is they've switched on a machine.
Not emptied and hung up laundry, not folded and pit away dry laundry, not emptied ways her they put on and hung it out to dry etc. But literally switched machine on.

Same with cooking dinner. I cooked dinner... becomes just that... turning meat over in a pan etc. No emptying a dishwasher before they start so filthy dishes can go back in, utensils and food chopping left out, job spattered with oil. Dishes left, table not cleared, stuff ripped out of cupboards and thrown around and not sealed back up, leftovers left in the pan.
If I say I cooked dinner I do all the jobs above.