So he washed the sheets

[Wowhewashedthesheets]

and he cleaned the front door, and hoovered, and took the meter readings, and sorted the bin. He told me all this after I’d gone to the dentist in a strop because I was pissed off about something completely different and unrelated. I’ve just told him I have put loo rolls in his bathroom. He gave me an odd look, so I said well you told me you’d hoovered.

I’ve a good mind to keep this up right back at him so tonight it will be
“I’ve cooked you dinner” instead of “dinner is ready”
Tomorrow it will be “I’ve ordered , x y z on the online shopping for you” instead of it just appearing where he wants it.

I know I am not the only one who lives with this but today it’s really really annoyed me and I feel the need to say it somewhere.

Happy Friday everyone.

Yes! Same here!
Also when we are doing chores together for ex tidy before guests arrive or unpack after a trip, he’ll stop when he has had enough, when I point out that there are still things to do he will say «but I already did a lot!»… he then strops when I tell him that 1) I did «a lot» myself as well and 2) the task is not finished regardless

I always tell DH what housework I’ve done. I like to make sure it’s appreciated!

To be fair he does the same.

Love manouncement 😂
Also love the making a medal out of tin foil idea I'm going to steal that one.

This is my DH. He gives no shits if the house is messy, the sheets aren't changed, his empty bottle of shower gel sits in the bottom of the shower for days etc. However, when he can't find his keys in the morning when he's rushing out the door he suddenly cares and moans about how untidy things are 🤷🏼‍♀️

I pop my husband’s clean washing in a bag and put it in his office because that’s where his casual clothes storage is. He seems to have interpreted this as clean clothing should be brought to wherever said individual is at that time to be proudly presented…

@Tablow 😂🤣 Literally every time! He often "Does the washing"... If I'm lucky that means his pile of dirty clothes that can't possibly make it into the laundry basket turn into a pile of clean dry clothes in a large IKEA bag that's also in the bedroom.

Admittedly DH is great and does his fair share in most respects. But things like that really do annoy me.

I don’t mind this mostly because we always tell each other what we’ve done because we’re a team? But then DH has ADD and I have ADHD so saying we’ve done x, y, z and crossing them off the list actually makes us feel better and that we are staying on top of things.

I leave the bleach on the toilet seat like a prize trophy when I have done the bathroom, if I am feeling spiteful (after Manouncements...love that word also!) I do it last thing at night BEFORE dh comes to bed, cos using a freshly bleached toilet is NOT ALLOWED, and he has to traipse off downstairs instead.

@withinacceptabletolerances

When my dad does this my mum goes into the kitchen and gets some tin foil and a makes a circle with it and presents it to my dad as his 'medal'. At first it was a joke but now there's a hint of violence in the way she slaps it on his chest....

Love this!!! Yes the "for you" gives me the rage!! The absolute worst for me is when dh complains about finding something in the fridge that's has gone slightly out of date and why it is still there. No idea when I became the fucking fridge monitor!!

My H used to behave very unreasonably about a certain issue to the point where I insisted we went to counselling. We talked it through there and he realised that his behaviour was unreasonable and causing me a lot of stress. So he worked on it and stopped behaving unreasonably.

BUT he wanted thanks and praise. Not just once either. It came up several times after "But I stopped doing X but you didn't thank me"

So I'm supposed to thank you for stopping being a twat am I?

Sometimes I just don't get men.

DH made one of those when he emptied the smelly kitchen bin. I said I already knew because he hadn't replaced the bin bag. Soon shut him up.

My DH does this too. Claims he can't find the bags, which have lived in the same place for 13 years.

Once my husband washed up his own plates and cutlery, then announced that he had done the washing up for me! I told him that he had in fact, washed up his own plate! I proceded to tell him that I had made dinner/cleaned the bathroom/made sandwhiches/cleaned the glass "for him". He didn't like that and hasn't said it since.

DH was one of those who said “for you” for many years. “I’ve done the dishwasher for you” “I’ve done the hoovering for you”. I pulled him up on it every time. I’d always say “why is it for me? Aren’t you ever going to use a cup or plate again?” and he’s gradually stopped.

Part of the problem, I think, is in his mind it is for me because he wouldn’t give a shiny shit if he ate off dirty plates and never hoovered the place again for the rest of his life.

He still makes “Manouncements” though. I think I’m going to start listing every single thing I do in the day.

I would actually go to a trophy shop and get a massive medal with "Congratulations, you did some housework" and make him stand on a step while the national anthem plays in the background.

Urgh yes my DH is guilty of this - ‘I’ve emptied the bin for you.’ ‘I’ve hung up that washing for you.’
DP did this once. ONCE.

It's not just men! I know so many people who can't just say "I did some housework"

They have to tell you everything they did like it's some sort of accomplishment and not just standard day to day housework that everyone does 🤦‍♀️

LaurieSchafferIsAllBitterNow

I have a special "Do not use, bleaching in progress" sign that I put on the closed toilet lid, and I leave it there for as long as possible (ie until I want to use the toilet). That way everyone in the house knows that I've cleaned the toilet again.

The only time 'for you' is acceptable is when he comes home with wine, and for that I'm happy to give praise

Made the bed for you, done the pots for you etc ..... sod off

Maybe he's just telling you so you don't do it again? Your post doesn't say he said he did it for you, specifically.

Manouncement, loving this! My dh just gets on and does stuff especially cleaning so he's very unlikely to announce it, but then he is one of the good guys in life.

@Oldtiredfedup

My partner has a name for this: it’s a ‘Manouncement’

@Oldtiredfedup manouncement - is my word of the day/weekend/next week! Thank you!

"Cleaned the front door" - are we all supposed to be doing this?!

I did get 'I changed his nappy for you' - Paddington hard stare activated!

How do people feel about being thanked for doing housework

My DM used to retort “no need to thank me, I’m not doing it for you”

When ds was about 6 months old I had my first night out with friends. Next day he mentioned " I babysat for you!". oh the fury he got. First and last time he said it

@2bazookas

Tell him

I remembered to flush the loo and close the lid.

I fed the cat/dog/plant/baby

See how plumped-up the cushions are? Are you pleased ?

'See how plumped up the cushions are? Are you pleased"

That really made me laugh

i would love to come home and find that my OH had done any housework without being asked ,he just dosent notice all the little things that need doing each day so unless i have specifically asked him to do something while im at work ( hes retired) i end up coming home and doing it myself and hes not going to change so no point in angsting about it , but if he does something i say thank you and when ive done something he says thank you to me no big deal