Spent so much on a night out - regret.

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I'm 26 and trying to save for a deposit. I have £5000 saved so far
I don't usually drink. Haven't been out in 2 years. And only really drink in meals.

Went out with friends last night and I'm not sure if it's because I haven't had drink in a while but it really went to my head and I feel so embarrassed today after realising I was speaking to random people and I even bought a random woman a shot.
I wasn't even going to drink but after someone bought me a shot , I just kept buying more alcohol.
And I bought for other people too.

I just got so happy and jolly.
Checked my bank account, and I've spent £40. £40 that I didn't want to waste on alcohol.
Doesn't help I already have bad money anxiety.

I know I'm unreasonable to regret this but I just feel so much anxiety about how much I've spent after not drinking for 2 years.
I gave up alochol after hating who I become when drunk and I just feel so much regret and like I've reverted backwards.

You’re 26, give yourself a break. It’s no big deal to have had a night out and spent £40 with friends

You've got the hangover regret. Honestly, 40 quid is not that bad, and you've done a great job of saving. Allow yourself this ( very minor) hiccup and move on. When the hangover wears off this feeling will too!

Christ I wish I spent only £40 on a night out. Last night out I had I spent £150

£40 on a night out really isn't much. Give yourself a break you haven't been out in 2 years! One blow it won't do much harm in the scale of things.

When I was younger I could easily blow £100 on a night out, I didn't go to flashy places, and that was 10+ yrs ago.

You've got the post-alcohol doom thing going on.

£40 is annoying if you didn't plan to spend it, but it's not a big hole in your deposit money and a great reminder that you'll feel happier the next day if you rein it in when you go out.

I thought you were going to say you spent £200 or something!

Don't beat yourself up. You've done very well ins saving that money for a deposit. This is a teeny, tiny blip so give yourself a break.

If you don't like the person you are when you drink then you don't have to do it.

£40, I wish my nights out cost £40, relax, its fine to treat yourself while saving money.

It sounds like you had fun. £40 is a very small price to pay for a good night out and won't make or break your house deposit.

I'm saving at the moment too and leave money in my budget for frivolous spending. I'd go crazy if I didn't. Don't live in misery, especially when you're only 26.

£40 is nothing, really.

Did you mean to type £400? Forty quid would only buy about 6 drinks...

I think you're going a bit overboard on a very small amount.

Gosh I thought you were coming on to say you spent several hundred too!!
£40 on your first night out in two years sounds incredibly restrained to be honest.
Give yourself a break!

It's bloody annoying looking at your bank account in the morning but £40 isn't too bad in the grand scheme of things. Next time you want to buy something like a new pair of jeans, say no I spent that on a night out instead. And then you're in the same position as you would have been albeit one less pair of jeans.

Don't stress. You relaxed and enjoyed your night. Don't ruin that by regretting it now.

Be happy you had fun. £40 could have been a lot worse. I was expecting at least 3 times that.

How on earth did you go out, get drunk, buy OTHER people drinks and only spend £40?

That’s a bargain!

I thought you were going to say £200 too.

Yes thought I was being silly I think it's because I'm self-employed aswell as it's a quiet time of year for me so it just adds to the money anxiety haha

When I clicked on this thread, I was not expecting the amount to only be £40.

Sounds like you've got the fear. 40 quid in the grand scheme of things isn't a large amount and you haven't had a night out for 2 years. If its not something you do regularly then just see it as a treat to yourself and stop panicking about spending such a small amount.

Did you leg it to the loo every time it was your round?

Bloody hell, I also thought you were going to say £200. Even I could spend £40 and I’m not a big drinker at all!

Firstly, well done on the correct usage of the word ‘bought’: that’s rare to see on MN lately!

I thought you were going to say you’d spent £200! £40 is nothing, I can’t believe you managed to get so drunk on that amount! Divide it by the number of months you’ve been saving and not drinking and you’ll see it’s a pittance.

As for the anxiety, it’ll ease in a few days. We’ve all been there. Chances are everyone else was tipsy too and nobody else will be thinking about you!

I thought you were going to say you spent £500 or something. I appreciate it is a lot of money to you, but no harm done. Its done now, and its a learning experience not to do the same thing again if you don't want to.
However you do need to let your hair down a bit sometimes and have fun. Dont waste your 20s panicking about money all the time, enjoy yourself a little (within reason)

Take cash on a night out if you want to limit yourself. (Plus an emergency tenner in a different place for a taxi home).

I am with others. 40 is like 3rd I can spend👀 I do usually keep it under hundred. 40 might be a pub session, 80-100 a club and god forbid there is a dinner.
I don't party out often🙈

You had a bargain if you managed to even buy shots for others😂 Hope you had fun!

I just have really bad money anxiety. Boyfriend and I are going on holiday to Lake District next week and I've already spent on hotel and some new summer clothes. I don't know how to get over it though, it's like every time I spend, I panic