To think it’s not unreasonable to be proud of your appearance?

[Delke]

My brother and I were brought up to be proud of our appearance. Growing up we were always dressed in the latest designer gear and my mother paid hundreds for photo shoots of us. My brother grew up to go into modelling. I married young but always maintained great pride in my appearance. Fast forward to now, I’m a student nurse and for the first time in my life have encountered negativity just by posting photos on social media. Is it really so terrible to be proud of your appearance? I came off Facebook last week after numerous bitchy comments on my posts but I’ve rejoined today. However I dare not post anything as I’m so worried about the negativity and horrible comments!!

It's entirely reasonable to take pride in how you look, IF you still have perspective and are not constantly judging others.

Unfortunately Bragbook isn't about pride. So it does attract negativity.

Though your main problem must be leaving it wide open. Don't have contacts that aren't people you know in real life. That's going to reduce comments to only people who are (ideally) supportive of your need there.

Who is commenting negatively?

What exactly are you proud of? That you’re genetically blessed which is not an achievement but luck. You should be proud of being a nurse rather than how you look I would have thought.

Tbh I don’t really see the relevance of wearing designer gear as a kid and being proud of your appearance

I’m early 20s so selfies will always be normal for me, can’t really see why someone would find them negative. What were the comments saying?

Just come off Facebook. Job done

Taking pride in your appearance or proud of it?

And are people commenting negative just because you post photos of yourself or is there more to it?

You could come across as self-obsessed, conceited or smug.

Proud of dressing tidily I could understand but proud of your own physical appearance is just vanity and not an achievement.
I have no idea why people would want to post photos of themselves so I'm not surprised your colleagues aren't impressed by it.
Shine as a nurse, that's really something to take pride in.

Just because I post pictures of myself. Example asking if I’m on commission for David Lloyd, calling me trout pout and taking the piss out of me. All nursing staff. I never had problems before.

What have you been posting?

It’s not awful to be proud of your appearance but it comes across as smug. And your beauty will fade at around 45. You will then become invisible and then what will you? Also, there’s nothing worse than a gorgeous uneducated person who thinks their beauty absolves them of an education.

You got off lightly with some gentle teasing from nurses. I've read on another thread today graphic details about a nurses bowel movements.

Don’t get how having pride of your appearance equates to superiority. What exactly are you proud of. Is it something natural? I like being clean. Is that the same or do you value designer clothes, nail, hair, etc.
Not sure what your gauge is.

Can we see examples of the pics that are getting negativity?

YANBU
Loads of people brag about what they are good at, what job they do, how generous they are, other qualities. Why not you?
You may as well, as the older you get the more you may find it an uphill struggle.
Good luck with your course, tough career tough culture

I am 43. I just don’t believe I’m passed it yet!! Yeah always encourage others too, I “heart” every selfie I see

@Delke

I am 43. I just don’t believe I’m passed it yet!! Yeah always encourage others too, I “heart” every selfie I see

43 is no age at all. But good luck with the nursing staff they don't sound a cuddly bunch.

Trout pouts do look stupid, though.

Growing up we were always dressed in the latest designer gear and my mother paid hundreds for photo shoots of us. This sounds like vanity.

I think taking care to be well presented is a good thing (although I am definitely in the low maintenance camp personally), but if you are posting pictures on social media specifically about how you look, then whilst I would never make a comment I probably would think .

If you have entered a new social sphere amongst your course mates, maybe they generally value the inner person or other achievements more than looks?

No one should be making bitchy comments though, that is not right.

Why do you put up pictures of yourself posing, to demonstrate your pride in your appearance? What are you trying to say to your FB friends?

Most people only post photos of themselves in fun situations. Candid ones, hanging out with their friends or on holiday with their kids. Photos of them enjoying themselves, rather than 'look at my face and my makeup' photos.

You could come across as self-obsessed, conceited or smug

Or shallow.

Why do you post pictures of yourself - a bit like parading yourself in front of others for comment - seems that's what is happening.

@SalsaLove not sure I agree with the disappearing at 45 comment.45 is no age and most people look 30s at that age nowadays.

@HeddaGarbled

Trout pouts do look stupid, though.

They really really do. I have NO idea why any woman thinks they look sexy when they do that.

I’m guessing a trout pout is something like a lip filler. I have a thirty something colleague who is absolutely naturally beautiful but has just ruined her face with a potential man- pleasing fat lip fish thing that looks like she wants to appear on a porn channel. Great if that’s her feminist choice but I suspect it’s not.

Designer clothes and trout pouts do mean you take pride in your appearance.

It just means you wear designer clothes and pull trout pout faces ,whilst posting on social media.

If selfies are for likes then it never ends well