AIBU to think this outfit is inappropriate?

[MadameKali]

Picture of Grayson Perry at a wedding. Posted to Instagram with the caption "I am at a wedding, I didn't want to upstage the bride so went comfy and low key"

AIBU in thinking that in this outfit, upstaging the bride is exactly what he wanted to do? The comments on his post are all "Fab outfit", "You look amazing", "I bet the bride wouldn't have minded being upstaged by you" etc etc. I normally like GP but this is just so me, me, me and selfish.

Who goes to a wedding in dungarees and a hoodie? Am I just being a grump? It wouldn't be completely unheard of

GP is famously eccentric.
Anybody who knows him well enough to invite him to their wedding, isn’t expecting a shrinking Violet.

If it doesn’t bother the bride, why the fuck should it bother you?

@sleepyhoglet

I don't know who this man is and I am clearly judging on appearances but he looks creepy

I don't know if you can still see his program on catch up services, but I would highly recommend Grayson Perry's Art Club. It was a great thing and showcased lots of amateur artsits with learning difficulties and physical disabilities. It was wonderfully uplifting during lockdown. As far as I'm concerned he can do what he likes.

[quote Kanaloa]@MereDintofPandiculation

I’m going by an article I read online, either Times or Guardian. The same article said he used to play ‘bondage games’ with this teddy he is still attached to.

Another article quoted him saying “Claire's pleasure comes from being cooed over and petted like a pretty little girl. "The perfect transvestite experience," says Perry, "would be traipsing along the street with someone holding a gigantic mirror in front of me so that I could see myself the whole time and know exactly what I looked like."

I wouldn’t be telling this person they looked great, I’d be suggesting they need help. That just sounds awful to me.[/quote]
Well, luckily for Grayson he is married to a very well respected psychotherapist. She does a column in the Guardian if you are interested.

Well he's usually dressed like a doll/Shirley Temple in a blue satin dress & white ankle socks so it's more low key than that, but still really childlike. Did he have a grim childhood or something ? I'm sure the hosts weren't expecting a conventional outfit .

Anyone that would expect anything different from him would be the daft one.

Just looks bloody scruffy. Wear a dress by all means, but this looks like something someone might wear to an allotment who the fuck wears dungarees to a formal occasion such as a wedding other than a self absorbed wacky “I’m mad, me” fool?
I knew of him as an artist but he’s not on my radar tbh!
Obviously he was invited there by people who know his usual style, I wouldn’t care if a bloke turned up to my wedding in a dress but i would feel like the day was a joke to the guest if they turned up without even brushing their bloody hair.

What was wrong with what I said? The fucking censorship on here is getting on my nerves.

Thought it was Rod Hull for a minute there! Obviously v v tired ( me that is!)

@Sparklesocks

I’d assume if you knew him well enough to invite him to your wedding you’d not expect him to rock up in a tie! I guess it’s hard to say without knowing the bride/groom/feeling of the wedding etc.

^^This. I assume the social circles he moves in a rather different to mine and that the bride and groom are aware of how he dresses.

I think he looks fab. He’s not known for drab low-key outfits.

@Sparklesocks

I’d assume if you knew him well enough to invite him to your wedding you’d not expect him to rock up in a tie! I guess it’s hard to say without knowing the bride/groom/feeling of the wedding etc.

This!

If you are friends with flamboyant artistic types, they don’t turn up to weddings in something from moss bros!

I mean if being kicked backwards through a Oxfam charity shop was the look he was going for....nailed it 👌🏻

@Monestera

You could easily dislike him for using an official engagement with small children for kicks

If you’re not going to justify this comment @CuriousaboutSamphire, would you link me to one of his well-documented explanations? I like what I’ve seen of him. Obviously, if there’s evidence of him deliberately attending child-centred engagements for sexual kicks I’d like to be informed about.

At the moment it reads like a slur against someone who is a bit different.

I did comment, there is a long thread about the engagement I have in mind here somewhere. It was televised and he spoke about why he chose the 'Alice' dress he wore.

And his comments, explanations of his fetish go back years. Google him, he has been very erudite on his choices.

And you seem to have assumed I dislike him, maybe have no experience of transvestism. As I have written often here, had deletions for, I have a friend, married kids etc, who has worn dresses since we were in our late teens. I know very well why men like GP choose to dress as they do.

I do not need to google him, I’m familiar with his work and writings. I’m quite impressed by him but if there’s evidence of him deliberately attending child-centred engagements for sexual kicks like you claimed then I’d really appreciate you providing some kind of evidence. It’s a serious accusation that you haven’t been able to back up yet.

@Sparklesocks

I’d assume if you knew him well enough to invite him to your wedding you’d not expect him to rock up in a tie! I guess it’s hard to say without knowing the bride/groom/feeling of the wedding etc.

I guess.

I think he looks great and that people can wear what they want to weddings.

YABU.
If you invited Grayson Perry to your wedding he’s not going to turn up in a M&S suit

@EishetChayil

Typical narcissist.

Oh don't be an ignorant twit.

A number of ignorant and narrow minded people on this thread. He's a brilliant artist and his friends love him. But God forbid anyone hop outside the mainstream where grey walls spell chic and up to date. For the desperate and culturally impoverished. And all the inverted snobs who will shriek snobbery: right back atcha.

@CuriousaboutSamphire
They are not understanding because you are talking balderdash. The so-called disease you quote is made up by transphobes and anti cross dresser bigots to justify their hate and paint all gender nonconforming people as perverts. It's EXACTLY the same as the psychiatrists who put homosexuality on the list of mental disorders and justified ' treating them with hormones, shock therapy and drugs. Or are you A-OK with that too? Oh, and they target kids too. Right out of the scared and vicious homophobia playbook.
Can't have anyone who makes 'normal' folk uncomfortable can we?
Your posts are vile and disgusting

You know what you’re getting if you invite Grayson Perry. It’s understated in comparison to his usual attire. YABU. 😬

I wouldn't care what he wore but taking to instagram at a private wedding is just too attention seeking for me