AIBU to think this outfit is inappropriate?

[MadameKali]

Picture of Grayson Perry at a wedding. Posted to Instagram with the caption "I am at a wedding, I didn't want to upstage the bride so went comfy and low key"

AIBU in thinking that in this outfit, upstaging the bride is exactly what he wanted to do? The comments on his post are all "Fab outfit", "You look amazing", "I bet the bride wouldn't have minded being upstaged by you" etc etc. I normally like GP but this is just so me, me, me and selfish.

Who goes to a wedding in dungarees and a hoodie? Am I just being a grump? It wouldn't be completely unheard of

He looks like a toddler after a painting session.

It's a classic I'm so wacky and out there look that is favoured by some big personalities. I find that attitude to be a little attention seeking, but equally if I was friends with someone who was known for dressing in that way I'd not be surprised if they attended my wedding in an outfit that is a bit wacky.

He always likes to be different, he is livening up the wedding. although he might look like a circus entertainer.

YABU, as you've admitted.

More unreasonable is the poster who thinks he's 'weird' and has changed her mind having 'used to like him' because he's admitted to enjoying dressing as a woman. Why on earth did she think he did it????!

I mean... what would you expect if you invited Greyson Perry to your wedding?!

That really is low key for him. Doubt he owns anything formal or subdued.

I don't really understand upstaging the bride. No one gets upstaged at their own wedding - the entire day is about them getting married. Even if someone was wearing an outlandish outfit, it would be a very odd guest who cared/focused more about/on that than the people getting married.

If any one wants a pair of those dungarees...

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I would have been thrilled if he had come to my wedding dressed like that.

@Ghosttile

This is upstaging the bride (image from google)

Oh my word!

@texasss

If Grayson Perry was at my wedding I'd be gutted if he turned up in a suit for the photos!

yes exactly this!!

If he were a friend of mine, I'd just be relieved he didn't turn up into a better bridal gown than mine.

But then again, I know there are people who would always dress for attention, whether it's in an arse skimming, cut to the navel polythene dress, a pair of Hawaiian shorts and flip flops in the snow (because they're so whacky and different when they aren't wearing a two grand suit and announcing their latest attempt at election as a Conservative councillor, so it's only their wife's business social) or, because of ASD, they're only comfortable in their usual jeans and long sleeved, baggy t-shirt. If you invite them, it's what you're going to get - so it's up to you if you want them there behaving as they always behave or not.

Well that’s one way to stand out in the wedding photos!

I don’t understand the trend for dungarees on adults though. Great for babies/toddlers as you can change nappies easily.

I think it's fine. Loads of women would wear loud prints to a wedding but obviously he is eye catching as it's v casual and we don't expect it from men. But I doubt the bride will have been too surprised, or care!

He always dresses flamboyantly so I imagine the bride expects it and won't feel upstaged.

This.

I think he always looks dreadful but I'm sure the bride knows him and doesn't care what he wears. Infact it's quiet compared to most of his clothes. We are all more important than our outside appearance.

It's Grayson Perry - no one inviting Grayson to a wedding is going to expecting anything less and, he's not an arsehole, im sure he will have asked if they want the full works or him to tone it down a smidge.

It is also relevant whose wedding it is, what they are wearing and what their dress code might be - if everyone ELSE is going brightly coloured and wearing bonkers clothing then in comparison, Graysons outfit might very well be extremely toned down!

Judging by the other guests in the background it isn’t a formal morning suit wedding so I expect GPs outfit was not unexpected. Though personally I would have loved to have seen him dressed as Claire maybe that would have been upstaging the bride. I wonder what Phillipa (Mrs Perry) wore.

What a beautiful setting too.

You can't dislike him because you recently found out he has long been honest about his fetish. He has been very vocal about it.

You could easily dislike him for using an official engagement with small children for kicks.

Or for his initial mimicry of his wife - though she didn't seem phased at the time.

Or for his somewhat wishy washy replies when asked about TRA behaviour.

But his open discussion about why he cross dresses, that he is male, heterosexual with a kink? That's kind of what many feminist posters want acknowledged, loudly, about many men who choose to step outside the stereotype of masculinity.

It's Grayson Perry - no one inviting Grayson to a wedding is going to expecting anything less

This

We honestly didn't care what anyone wore to our wedding. If one of our friends had turned up in that, I'd have said, "love the outfit! Have a drink!" We had a handfasting though, so very casual.

There is a ‘correct’ way to dress though. We all know weddings have dress codes, most of us follow them. Dressing like a 6-year old girl to someone else’s wedding just isn’t for me. As I said, I just think it screams of a person who’s desperate to be ‘different’ and most of these people seem to base their personalities around their ‘quirky’ dress style. I just think it looks daft.

But, as I said in my post, I’m sure the bride knew what to expect and wasn’t bothered. I was just saying I personally don’t like this style and would expect him to be a very ‘look at me’ type of person.

@whatswithtodaytoday

I assume he brands he didn't feel it would be appropriate to arrive in a flamboyant dress, which he might normally wear. So yes, quite low-key for him really! And maybe it's an informal wedding. He looks great.

Yuck. An old man wearing toddler dungarees looks great? Why do people pander to this rubbish?

Is he related to Mr Tumble?

@Toomuchtodoo

I agree. He can wear what he wants but I don’t think most people would think he looks ‘great.’ It’s especially jarring because it’s such a little-girly outfit with floral dungarees and a frilly pink top, then a grown man’s face. As I said, my 5yo dd wears this type of outfit.