To think gynaecologist was a bit harsh ? ***title edited to add a trigger warning for content that might affect those with eating disorders***

[Boysandme269]

So basically I had my ds2 6 months ago and I'm EBF however my period returned 4 weeks ago and it was extremely heavy and then 2 weeks later I got another one

Having health anixtety this alarmed me
I've always had 28 day periods even after DS1 and never heavy so I wasn't expecting such issues nor for them to return so soon

My gp wasn't interested and said as I had a clear smear a month ago it would just be hormones settling down
However due to the health anixety I decided to see a gynaecologist privately

I explained the situation to gynaecologist and at first she was going down the I'm sure it's breastfeeding causing the issue
However I happened to say I've noticed this time I'm heavier than what I was with DS1 could this of contributed?

Now when I say I'm heavier I've always being slim and now I'm not my bmi is 25 so I think pushing overweight but I'm not huge

She glanced at me and looked to my stomach and said well yes you are holding Weight in your middle
She said it is probably making you realise more hormones etc
She went on to say I mean you could literally go 6 months without eating and be fine

By this point I was mortified and she started talking about problems from girls who hold weight around their middles

At this point I interjected and said I don't carry weight around my middle. I hold my weight around my hips and thighs, I've just not shifted all the baby weight yet

So she said well you must have developed insulin resistance because you have tummy fat now

Is it not normal to have a bit of excess fat 6 months after a c section?

I ended up having to show a picture of my pre pregnancy body to prove I do infact usually have a flat toned stomach

She asked if I had GD etc which I didn't
And then she did a scan

Cervix healthy .. womb healthy left ovary perfect but she said right ovary had a couple of follicles so it was trying to ovulate but when on to say my weight meant it polycystic

She also said I see you have a couple of hairs on your stomach so you probably have polycycstic ovary syndrome and you will be insulin resistant and told me to change my diet or I'd be diabetic type 2

Now prior to DS2 my bmi has always been around 21/22 .. I did get a couple of hairs on my tummy when pregnant but I am not hairy
I lose weight fairly easy.. I started gym this week and have lost almost half a stone so I feel il lose last baby weight fine

I have always had regular 28 day periods and conceived both my children on first month without contraception
I did not have GD and as part of a work up by my Gp in relation to another health condition
I categorically know I'm not pre diabetic or insulin resistance my sugars are fine ( needed to know for steroids I have to take)

I asked again at end of appointment if I have PCOS and she said not as such but I have problem induced by my weight it should resolve

I thought pcos was life long ? Also I've had scans on ovaries before and I've never had a few follicles

Do you think I'm being ridiculous to be upset by this manner ?
I basically feel like i look like a fat disgusting beast now
Does it should like I have Pcos ?
Also the smallest part of my body is my waist the fat on my tummy is like a little bit over my c section scar does this sound like I have a problem with my middle ?

Quite devastated with how repulsive this person felt I looked , thought I was doing OK for having had little one 6 months ago

Sounds to me like she was just being matter of fact. Although if she actually said that you could go 6 months without eating and be fine, that's just ridiculous.

@StarryStarrySocks oh yes she said it and someone who battled anorexia for several years it was probably the comment I didn't need to hear

Wow.

Awful manner. Sounds as if she has issues around weight and has transferred them onto you. I doubt you have PCOS.

I am sorry you paid to have that experience.

I can only comment on the periods. I had horrifically heavy periods whilst bf after my cs with my first. It’s not been as bad this time round after a VBAC. But I’ve not had a normal cycle for almost 5 years nows as I’ve always been either bf or pregnant. I did have periods very close together after my first.

@milkyaqua she was very slim and beautiful, maybe she's managed to have children and not gain a pound

And just before going in Ds2 had threw up over my shoulder so I went in looking fat, messy and I must of smelt of baby sick
Pretty sure I repulsed her

I just kept wondering what does she say to ladies larger than me

YABU doctors need to be able to point out weight related risks. I had PCOS and reversed it using Keto diet. Weight around the middle is a risk factor for loads of diseases.

Just because you were healthy before doesn’t mean anything. Health declines slowly with weight gain. She’s helping you by pointing out the risks when you’re still relatively healthy.

Listen to her and prioritise eating low carb to get ahead as of any insulin resistance issues. You literally have nothing to lose and all the health to gain by listening to her.

@mayblossominapril it's reassuring to hear someone else has experienced similar

I didn't have a c section with my first so I did wonder if that could of made a difference

Sorry to hear your periods where also a pain, the joys of being a women

I should of added extremely happy she said it wasn't anything sinister just a bit of a knock to my already emotional state haha

Her comment that you could go six months without eating and be fine was extremely rude and unnecessary. I would consider making a complaint.

she was very slim and beautiful,

She wasn't beautiful. You said she was horrible.

Slim equals slim. It doesn't equal beautiful.

@Cazzovuoi
I understand that but I literally have a small waist, it's just a bit of quite soft fat over my section scar ( actually getting worried it's not going to go no matter how skinny I become)

Is this really Weight around your middle ?

My middle is the smallest part of me, if she had commented on the size of my bum I would not have been surprised

@violetvesper to make it worse she sniggered as she said it

I mean she seemed repulsed by me

I have to say other than my pregnancies and smears I've never visited a doc about lady issues and I'd very put off about doing so again

It’s one thing for medical professionals to be factual and warn about links between weight/certain health conditions. As a fat person that doesn’t bother me. But the comment about not eating for 6 months is completely unprofessional and irresponsible. If fat people repulse medical professionals then they shouldn’t be medical professionals.

@spongedod she was a attractive women to look at but yes she the appointment felt cruel

And I'd be horrified if I made someone feel how I am now feeling

@Asthenia

I did wonder if I was unreasonable to be so upset by this comment

I haven't been able to tell DH about it as I know he will be furious and upset for me

I was anorexic when I was younger so not eating for periods of time is something I've done on occasion and worked very hard not to do

Also my bmi is 25 I'm pretty sure if I took her advice there wouldn't be anything left of me
And I agree people are all shapes and sizes and a medical professional should have no issue with this

She was horrible, OP. Even if what she said was true, there would definitely have been a kinder way to deliver the message. I don’t know why people have to be so rude. Sorry you had that experience. X

Yes it was a shocking thing to say to anyone let alone someone of your size. If I were you I would be making some sort of complaint.

@Cazzovuoi doesn't give her the right to be down right rude, I'd be putting in a complaint about the 6 months of not eating comment for a start - shocking.

@lollipoprainbow
I think I might

I can only imagine the damage this comment would of caused to some

It could even spark a issue for some I'm sure

Also to add there is no one harder on themselves than me

I tried to get back to exercise not long after c section and caused a bleed

And I'm now going to the gym 5 times a week which I told her at the start of the appointment therefore didn't feel I needed a lecture

So YOU OP have decided, that people who carry weight around their middle are "fat disgusting beasts"?

That's what it means to you, if someone carries weight around the middle? Gyna'gist didn't say disgusting. You decided that's what weight in the middle means. That's YOUR Value system.

Own it. I know who is being U here.

Why do you keep drip feeding? You’ve dropped in you ED status and now you’re saying she sniggered. Any more to add?

Make a complaint, what she’s said is both insensitive and factually incorrect on numerous parts.

Did you tell her you had had an ed previously? Agree you are putting your own filter on what was, if somewhat bluntly, said. The ob/gyn will have seen all shapes and sizes without judging. You wanted to know what might be causing your issues and she has given you her opinion. What did you want from the consultation?

fgs, this is not the first time ive heard of a gynae assuming that tummy hair meant pcos. Of course it doesnt. We are mammals. We get hair. A few hairs on the tummy is not abnormal.
I would not go back to this gynae. Sounds like she has no tact and is actually wrong on some very basic issues.