To think gynaecologist was a bit harsh ? ***title edited to add a trigger warning for content that might affect those with eating disorders***

[Boysandme269]

So basically I had my ds2 6 months ago and I'm EBF however my period returned 4 weeks ago and it was extremely heavy and then 2 weeks later I got another one

Having health anixtety this alarmed me
I've always had 28 day periods even after DS1 and never heavy so I wasn't expecting such issues nor for them to return so soon

My gp wasn't interested and said as I had a clear smear a month ago it would just be hormones settling down
However due to the health anixety I decided to see a gynaecologist privately

I explained the situation to gynaecologist and at first she was going down the I'm sure it's breastfeeding causing the issue
However I happened to say I've noticed this time I'm heavier than what I was with DS1 could this of contributed?

Now when I say I'm heavier I've always being slim and now I'm not my bmi is 25 so I think pushing overweight but I'm not huge

She glanced at me and looked to my stomach and said well yes you are holding Weight in your middle
She said it is probably making you realise more hormones etc
She went on to say I mean you could literally go 6 months without eating and be fine

By this point I was mortified and she started talking about problems from girls who hold weight around their middles

At this point I interjected and said I don't carry weight around my middle. I hold my weight around my hips and thighs, I've just not shifted all the baby weight yet

So she said well you must have developed insulin resistance because you have tummy fat now

Is it not normal to have a bit of excess fat 6 months after a c section?

I ended up having to show a picture of my pre pregnancy body to prove I do infact usually have a flat toned stomach

She asked if I had GD etc which I didn't
And then she did a scan

Cervix healthy .. womb healthy left ovary perfect but she said right ovary had a couple of follicles so it was trying to ovulate but when on to say my weight meant it polycystic

She also said I see you have a couple of hairs on your stomach so you probably have polycycstic ovary syndrome and you will be insulin resistant and told me to change my diet or I'd be diabetic type 2

Now prior to DS2 my bmi has always been around 21/22 .. I did get a couple of hairs on my tummy when pregnant but I am not hairy
I lose weight fairly easy.. I started gym this week and have lost almost half a stone so I feel il lose last baby weight fine

I have always had regular 28 day periods and conceived both my children on first month without contraception
I did not have GD and as part of a work up by my Gp in relation to another health condition
I categorically know I'm not pre diabetic or insulin resistance my sugars are fine ( needed to know for steroids I have to take)

I asked again at end of appointment if I have PCOS and she said not as such but I have problem induced by my weight it should resolve

I thought pcos was life long ? Also I've had scans on ovaries before and I've never had a few follicles

Do you think I'm being ridiculous to be upset by this manner ?
I basically feel like i look like a fat disgusting beast now
Does it should like I have Pcos ?
Also the smallest part of my body is my waist the fat on my tummy is like a little bit over my c section scar does this sound like I have a problem with my middle ?

Quite devastated with how repulsive this person felt I looked , thought I was doing OK for having had little one 6 months ago

@TheUndoingProject

I just wanted to know I didn't have cancer I told her that

My bmi is 25 it's a few pounds away from being as healthy as it could be

I lost half a stone this week il lose another half stone this week more than likely

I don't agree I needed a lecture about type 2 diabetes with that bmi 6 months after a baby and a c section
Particularly when I told her I'm going to the gym 5 times a week etc

Without having been in the room and listened to exactly what was said and in what tone I am reserving judgement but have a feeling that you are projecting a lot of your own feelings on to her words

Pointing out abdominal fat and its potential risk to health does not equate to her being repulsed by your body, that is ridiculous

The comment about not eating for months does sound inappropriate

Did she really snigger or is that just your paranoia/anxiety?

And if she did actually snigger, then of course you should complain about that too.

@WorraLiberty

Oh I could

I usually tell my DH everything, I was so mortified after it I still haven't managed to dicuss with him hence posting here

Some people are really gaslighting the OP

@freelions
I'm aware I'm sensitive to Weight related comments

But yes the comment about not eating for 6 months was said and she did snigger as she said it

The fact its hard for some to believe it was said makes me think it really was quite bad

I was mortified, had this not being said I would be trying to reassure myself I was being paranoid

She doesn't sound very nice, but as PP's have said, your reaction makes it sound like you should be recieving help for your ED. showing a picture of yourself in a bikini to 'prove' a point is a bit odd. You seem to be winding yourself up.

[quote Boysandme269]@TheUndoingProject

I just wanted to know I didn't have cancer I told her that

My bmi is 25 it's a few pounds away from being as healthy as it could be

I lost half a stone this week il lose another half stone this week more than likely

I don't agree I needed a lecture about type 2 diabetes with that bmi 6 months after a baby and a c section
Particularly when I told her I'm going to the gym 5 times a week etc[/quote]
You lost half a stone last week and will lose half a stone this week ? This shows that you have some unrealistic ideas about weight and what a suitable fat loss is. I can see this is an issue to you but I do not believe for one minute that the doctor was repulsed by you .

@Branleuse
I defo wont be going back
And yes so many women I know have hairs on stomach etc
God I've got friends who lips etc waxed
I'm actually very unhairy and fair too hence not bothering to shave much

Crikey, just read you updates in which you said you're losing half a stone a week. You need to get help before you harm yourself.

She sounds deranged. The body hair - PCOS thing is ridiculous. A scan would have shown her if you have PCOS and you don't. (I don't either, have been checked, do have a few hairs on stomach. No gynaecologist has ever suggested a connection)

Given how wrong she was about that, think of her as fallible, complain if you want to, but don't take her comments about body shape on board. You're doing what you need to do there.

Good that you've now ruled out anything major and put your mind at ease. I wouldn't expect your body to behave the same way after both pregnancies. They just don't - hormones aren't like that. Are you sure your iron levels are okay too? Hope you'll stay well

@DinosaurDiana
That's what I thought
It was scary probably worse than the after birth blood bath we experience
Not pleasant
Relived to hear it settled down

The doctor cares about your health now, not what you're body was like pre-pregnancy, that's irrelevant. At the moment you are carrying too much weight around your middle, that's why the doctor said that.

Sorry, also missed the half stone. Please slow down with that and find a GP you can trust for more general advice. Don't mind this woman.

She went on to say I mean you could literally go 6 months without eating and be fine

I would complain about this comment. Unacceptable.

@DinosaurDiana
Goodness that is awful.. poor girl
Such a dangerous attitude to take, could of caused a whole other health issue
My ED started at 14 and was prompted by a silly comment

My mums friend daughter had a situation where a larger bust was causing her issue
GP hardly looked after and told her to lose a few stone and she would be fine
She was already very slim !!

My bmi is 41, all weight around the middle, she'd love me

@Candyfloss99

The doctor cares about your health now, not what you're body was like pre-pregnancy, that's irrelevant. At the moment you are carrying too much weight around your middle, that's why the doctor said that.

You can’t tell someone that they could literally go 6 months without eating. That is NEVER acceptable to say to someone

I’m really shocked by some of the comments on here, OP you were the only one in the appointment and you know what she said and how her manner made you feel.

Some of these replies are downright patronising and offensive.

You paid for this appointment, and that includes being treated with respect and dignity, I think you should complain, if only to give some feedback and perhaps allow this doctor to reflect on how she talks to people.

I’ve had some awful experiences with medical staff and I know others have too, so it does happen, and will keep happening unless it’s called out in an appropriate way.

@Vallmo47

I gained more weight in this pregnancy than my last and it has became apparent I'm not as ok as I thought about things regarding Weight
So I do know I have a issue here but yes I wasn't expecting her attitude if I'm honest

On the other side of things, I’m not medically trained, but losing half a stone a week and going to the gym 5 times a week sounds excessive to me.

@lljkk

So YOU OP have decided, that people who carry weight around their middle are "fat disgusting beasts"?

That's what it means to you, if someone carries weight around the middle? Gyna'gist didn't say disgusting. You decided that's what weight in the middle means. That's YOUR Value system.

Own it. I know who is being U here.

Yes what the GYN said was disgusting. Could you go 6 months without eating?