Sister doesn't want to spend time with us

[Jennybeans401]

My dsis lives about three hours away, we haven't seen her or her husband for at least 28 months due to Covid. She's not brilliant at keeping in touch but I do try to send emails and phone her to stay in contact.

Shed mentioned us going to visit a long time ago. Dh is working a lot of weekends do I said I would bring the kids down on my own and we could go out all together. Dsis emailed yesterday to say that she was looking forward to our visit and hoped we would enjoy whatever we'd planned for the Saturday. She and her husband had chosen to play golf that day but we would maybe have dinner together.

AIBU to think this is a bit off? I am driving down to see them (I'm not a brilliant driver so worry about it!) and we would probably get down there Fri evening then be leaving Sunday midday. She hasn't seen her nieces for 18 months!

It's been on the cards for a while, we'd agreed the dates and she said she was looking forward to seeing us in her email.

Honestly I’d phone her up and tell her how you feel. What a total waste of time she is.

I’d text back and say. “Well you know where I am, let me know when you want to see us.”

Then leave the ball in her court.

I'm pathetically non-confrontational but I wouldn't be able to resist replying to that 'don't worry' message with a big fat LOL, you are so very rude and I'm not sure what you thought you were playing at suggesting we visit you in the first place.

She’s rude, you don’t arrange for people to come and meet you and go out for the day

Personally I would go back and say sorry you won’t be there, as it’s you we are coming to see it’s better we cancel, what dates are you free to rearrange

That's a shame OP but I wouldn't waste more energy and thoughts with writing or texting back, I'd leave the ball in her court now.

Hope you have a nice weekend and some treats at home with your DC.