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If your DH is now WFH, does he expect you to now make him lunch every day?

373 replies

mintginger · 17/07/2021 20:54

Just wondering what people do really (particularly if you are SAH yourself).

YABU - yes, you should make him lunch.
YANBU - no, leave him to it and go out and about on your business.

Thanks!

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newbie202020 · 17/07/2021 20:55

This cannot be a genuine post, surely?!?

ofwarren · 17/07/2021 20:56

God no
My husband is a grown up who makes his own lunch

HavelockVetinari · 17/07/2021 20:56

Er, no. He's a grown man, he's capable of managing billions of pounds at work - of course he can handle making a sandwich/pizza/omelette Confused

Topofthepopicles · 17/07/2021 20:56

Gosh no. I do occasionally and he does occasionally but I am absolutely not responsible for his food. He isn’t a toddler.

Feather12 · 17/07/2021 20:56

Do you expect him to make your lunch? He is at home everyday.

Liervik · 17/07/2021 20:57

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imaginethemdragons · 17/07/2021 20:57

So sorry but I really laughed at this!

Nope.
He is more than capable of chucking a sandwich together for himself.
Poor lamb. Working AND having to put 2 slices of bread together! Grin

Jasmine11 · 17/07/2021 20:57

I'm not a SAHM but we are both working from home. Whoever gets hungry first makes lunch for both of us. If you are making lunch anyway, nothing wrong with making enough for two, but if he expects you to specifically make him lunch then that's a bid odd.

Orangedaisy · 17/07/2021 20:57

Depends what I’m doing, sometimes I make his, sometimes I don’t. He sometimes makes me tea when he’s wfh and I am looking after dc. Tbh it really doesn’t matter to me or him, it evens out somewhere along the way.

ketchupman · 17/07/2021 20:58

No he doesn't expect me too and neither do I expect him to make for me but as a courtesy we tend to discuss and agree whether to make for each other or just have separately depending on what we have on that day.

trilbydoll · 17/07/2021 20:58

If I was making something proper I guess I could ask him if he wanted some too. But I only eat homemade veg soup or 2 boiled eggs for lunch and he doesn't like either of those.

LadyCatStark · 17/07/2021 20:58

Yup 🙄 and I’m working from home too. He also asks me every time he wants a brew or anything and doesn’t seem to get the message that I’m not his PA. Of course his job is far more ‘important’ than mine as he’s a manager.

dudsville · 17/07/2021 20:59

Yes. And iron his tie. I also answer his phone for him and take messages.

FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop · 17/07/2021 20:59

When I was married I wouldn't make my husbands' lunch wether he was WFH or out the house, because we didn't get married in 1926 and that's not my job

dudsville · 17/07/2021 20:59
Grin
FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop · 17/07/2021 21:00

@dudsville

Yes. And iron his tie. I also answer his phone for him and take messages.
And put a cherry pie in the oven for when he finished, and tie a pretty ribbon in your hair?
Themostwonderfultimeoftheyear · 17/07/2021 21:00

My DH doesn't expect it but I do make lunch for both of us most days. I am a SAHM of a school age child so have plenty of time.

NoIDontWatchLoveIsland · 17/07/2021 21:00

Is this a joke? No I don't make his lunch, he's a grown man, he can make a sandwich on his own.

ChickenSchnitzel · 17/07/2021 21:01

No and neither do my primary aged DC expect me to either Hmm

User0ne · 17/07/2021 21:01

There's a very easy way to relieve him of his expectations 😂

Leeds2 · 17/07/2021 21:02

I would make lunch for DP if I was home, and making lunch for myself, presuming I was making something he liked. It wouldn't put me off making something for myself that I knew he didn't like, and leaving him to fend for himself, or going out for lunch with friends if that was an option. I would be very pissed off if it was "expected."

ShabbyNat · 17/07/2021 21:02

Sometimes I would if its convenient for me, or if Im doing myself some lunch Ill ask if he wants some of what Im having.
But I would go about my life as normal, he could sort his lunch out before WFH, surely it would be easier now he`s at home???

Fernando072020 · 17/07/2021 21:03

It's not expected at all. But I usually do it as I'm making something myself.

If my DH expected it, I wouldn't do it. That's how stubborn I am! But he never expects it. He knows he's capable of getting his own food like a grown up

Dollpiglet · 17/07/2021 21:03

We both WFH. We rarely see eachother because we are both on calls and/or just head down working. Occasionally we might coincide on a 10 min lunch break so we will make lunch together. Earlier in the year I was lecturing back to back 9-5 some days so he brought me snacks and drinks as I only had 1-2 mins between video calls. I do the same of k know he's got long meetings but there's no expectation of it.

NoIDontWatchLoveIsland · 17/07/2021 21:05

Duds why stop at ironing the tie, do the newspaper while you are at it

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