Aibu to think wedding photographer should have said she’s pregnant?

[baddaughter2021]

Just that really. Even if she has a few months to go to due date by the time of wedding shouldn’t she have told us?

Op if you want to check your opinion you simply say I’m a photographer and some clients habe complained should I have told them. The answers would be the same, you didn’t need to lie about it.

Pregnancy is only relevant if it is affecting or highly likely to affect your capacity to work (e.g. by being very close to due dates, or conditions such as HG or SPD affecting stamina)

You get around this with contingency plans.

No couple should complain purely because their photographer (or any other professional) is pregnant in itself.

Why? So you could discriminate and not hire her services due to pregnancy?

YANBU for the reverse. You don't need to dumb it down for us to understand the issue.

*YABU

TBH if you're two months in and feeling OK you're probably going to have an easy time of it. Any photographer could feel ill at the last minute and pregnant women aren't made of porcelain.

FFS. Reverses should get you a (temporary) ban. They are annoying and pointless.

YABU on this alone.

Ah OP you’ve spoilt my fun with it being a reverse, I’d thought up a well bitchy comment! Anyway, tell them you can rest your camera on your bump!

Tell them it's a fake bump, you actually have a surrogate in India doing the actual carrying but you want to convince your family it's natural.

Why do you think the contents of her uterus is any of your business?

Oh FFS. I hate reverses.

Reverse posters should be suspended for being a tit. Really gets my goat.

Totally agree

If this was going to be that she will be on maternity leave and can no longer shoot your day but didnt tell you to the very last minuet... then yanbu

If shes not due for months after your day and having a normal pregnancy then why would it even matter?

Only if it’s very near the due date

It's really sad how many women on this thread support maternity discrimination.

Common sense says that when you meet with a photographer you ask what their plans are in the event of illness or emergency events. Illness or emergencies could could happen anyone. That practical discussion can be had without expecting people to announce their pregnancy status.

If you wouldn't have that practical discussion with any photographer then it's probably time to drop the pretence that the concern is about back up plans and acknowledge that the issue is that you're probably concerned the sight of a pregnant stranger might take guests' eyes off the bride for 10 seconds.

I don’t get reverses you’d get decent amounts of responses if you’d be genuine

@TidyDancer

FFS. Reverses should get you a (temporary) ban. They are annoying and pointless.

YABU on this alone.

Awwww I like them!

Op going against the grain, our photographer was pregnant/had a young baby at the time of our wedding (I can't remember now). We didnt think twice about it when she mentioned she was pregnant. However, the wedding was in June and we didnt get the photos till November. But of course you can't predict who might have problems ahead of time.

This is discrimination against a woman for being pregnant. Anyone seeking to cancel their contract with you because you're pregnant would be in breach of the Equality Act.

Congratulations OP. My guess is the majority of women on here will have worked in very tiring jobs until quite late in their pregnancies. I certainly did.

YABU for a reverse.

I also think YABU generally. I paid £1500 ish 8 years ago for our wedding photographer and after years and years in the workplace seeing pregnant women cry off sick just because they can because,you know, “pregnancy related” then I would be cancelling you.

@Laiste

It's a shame this thread has been messed up by the reverse aspect o the OP. It's an interesting scenario with specific issues.

• Will a good photographer have a plan in place for help or a replacement in case of any type of emergency/physical difficulty (not just pregnancy) on the day of an event?

Yes.

• Should a photographer make a client aware that the above situation is slightly more likely due to pregnancy?

Not sure.

• Would some woman underestimate the possibility of late pregnancy affecting their work and therefore fail to put these preps in place?

Perhaps, yes.

spot on.

I mean, I'm getting married in November, and I am fairly confident my maid of honour is pregnant and due about my wedding. Expecting her to tell me any day now. That's life. We'll deal with whatever happens.

I would not expect any of my suppliers to tell me if they were pregnant. It's a protected characteristic, apart from anything else. There could be many reasons a supplier does not give 110% on the day, or is unable to attend. Absolute worst case scenario, our wedding insurance will fund getting everyone back together with a photographer for pictures.

Why?

Who else needs to announce their pregnancy to you, OP?

I gave birth two months early. I hope you have a colleague on standby, OP, and you are confident that this person will do the job taking into account the couples' wishes. You really should discuss this with your clients, especially the ones getting married towards the end of your pg.

@Sausageroll67

YABU for a reverse.

I also think YABU generally. I paid £1500 ish 8 years ago for our wedding photographer and after years and years in the workplace seeing pregnant women cry off sick just because they can because,you know, “pregnancy related” then I would be cancelling you.

@Sausageroll67 I think that’s a pretty unfair comment to make!! Not all women are off sick during their pregnancy! I was on my feet for 10hour shifts in retail 5 days a week until I was 38 weeks pregnant and never missed even a single hour of work for an appointment or illness or otherwise!