AIBU engagement ring

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I split with my ex in November last year after 15 years together, engaged for 8, he's now demanding the engagement ring back after initially telling me to sell it. I told him despite what he paid, £3k, it won't be worth anywhere near that, in fact the highest valuation I've had was £500 which I told him. He thinks I'm lying and has asked for the ring or £3k and will not let up. I don't think I should have to return the ring or pay him any money but AIBU?

Surely just be done with it and hand back the ring- let him struggle to sell it at an unattainable price!

Tell him to fuck off. IT's yours, not his.

An engagement ring is a gift and yours to keep I thought.

I don't think you should have to give it back either, but why do you want to keep it?

Is giving him it back worth never having to see him again?

I'd give it back

And yanbu.
He's being a bully.

I do think it's your to keep too but I'd give it back if it meant he fucked off for good.

The ring was given in promise of marriage you didn't marry him so he gets it back.
If you don't give it back and sell it he can take you to court for the retail cost of the ring and he will win.
Yabu and grabby by wanting to keep it give it back

Why would you want to keep it? I’d just give it back tbh.

You have every right to keep it, but why not just give it back and have done?

www.thisismoney.co.uk/money/experts/article-7256151/amp/Do-engagement-ring-called-wedding.html

However, the law says, under the Law Reform (Miscellaneous Provisions) Act 1970, that 'the gift of an engagement ring shall be presumed to be an absolute gift; this presumption may be rebutted by proving that the ring was given on the condition, express or implied, that it should be returned if the marriage did not take place for any reason.'

Does he have any gifts from you that you'd like returned? Make a list.or save yourself the effort and tell him to fuck off.

I don't think it's normal for him to expect the ring back, although I could possibly see it if it were a family heirloom.

Jewelry never holds its value because it has a massive profit margin.

I'm not being grabby at all, it was bought for me. No I didn't marry him for a number of reasons but surely after 8 years he's unreasonable to ask for it back

@Cabinfever10

The ring was given in promise of marriage you didn't marry him so he gets it back. If you don't give it back and sell it he can take you to court for the retail cost of the ring and he will win. Yabu and grabby by wanting to keep it give it back

Absolute nonsense. An engagement ring is no different to any other bit of jewellery, if you give it to someone, it's theirs.

@namcybotwinbloom

Is giving him it back worth never having to see him again?

Unfortunately that's not an option, we have young kids together

I mean jewelers make a massive profit margy, which is why you will never get close to the purchase price, unless you buy very wet, or buy something genuinely collectable.

Legally the ring is yours. It was a gift. He has no leg to stand on. You can Google it and send him a link.

@tttigress

I mean jewelers make a massive profit margy, which is why you will never get close to the purchase price, unless you buy very wet, or buy something genuinely collectable.

Oh I know, most of the offers were around the £350 mark, £500 was the only one above that

Do you want to keep it or sell it? @Googlewasmyidea1

You only get to keep the ring if you marry an engagement ring is a conditional gift, you are no longer planning to to marry him (the condition) so you don't get to keep it.

Legally its yours, but why not just give it back and move on. It's really not worth being childish over.

Sell it for £500, spend the £500 on your dc, and tell him to get fucked.