Thoughts on baby in nursery at 8 months?

[babyblues21]

Just that really. My baby will be in nursery from this age and I'm struggling with the idea. Any experiences, either positive or negative? Would a childminder be a better option at this age so my baby has more 1:1 care?

My DD was in nursery from 3 months from necessity. She was fine and had good relationships with the staff. She's an adult now and still has find memories.

A good childminder can be great but if they are ill or decide to give it up you can be left in the lurch.

Do child minders not have the same child to adult ratio as nurseries?
After seeing many many childminders completely ignore crying babies in their care I wouldn't leave one of my children with one.
Choose a small nursery who follow attachment led care if possible.

My first DD was in nursery from 8 months. She loved it, had a really nice bond with the staff. It made me a better mum, I could be more present with her. Most people I know go back to work full time and have children in nursery from then as they still want careers.

Mine were - only 2 days a week but from 8 months and they settled in brilliantly

Mine was in nursery from 5 months. No regrets.

@Bagheera222 what a horrible comment.

Mine went at 9 months and was fine. She'd get upset at drop off but that was it. Then Covid hit and she started a new nursery at 15 months and is absolutely thriving 9 months later!

Baby number 2 will be going at 8/9 months as we already have a place reserved.

She will be in anywhere between 3 and 5 days a week (depending on partner's shifts that week). So some weeks will be full time. I'm struggling with the idea she will think mummy has abandoned her with a group of strangers!

@Bagheera222

You're being incredibly rude, insensitive and unhelpful.

@Bagheera222 I've reported this. How dare you.

@Bagheera222

You vile individual. I've been battling the worst postnatal depression for months now and your comment has just made me burst out crying. Thanks

OP you do what works for you - all three of mine where in nursery by 1 (not because I didn;t want kids but because I also have a career I value and as a single parent needed to work) they are all unscathed

@Bagheera222 what a dick to head to say! What if she cannot afford to have more than 8 months off? What if she or her partner was made redundant unexpectedly and she has to back to work early?
What if she has found maternity mentally taxing and lonely and needs some adult interaction?

Can someone tell me how I delete this thread please

Hi OP
My friends all went in around 7/8 months and they settled so much better than the ones over a year.

Mine went at 8 months, I had to go back to work! He settled really well, is still there at 2.5 years old and loves it. I think it's a better age to put them in as they can't really argue about it, won't say it won't be hard on you for the first few times but I'm sure your baby will love it and thrive there 😊

Personally I'd always try and keep vulnerable people ie those who can't speak out of care as much as possible and only use it when absolutely necessary.
I know babies are OK in nursery but if you don't need too why would anyone? They can't tell you what's been going on.

At least from two ish they can start to relay more how e they feel.

Bagheera is trolling - please don;t let them upset you - I've reported that comment - it's only been made to upset and cause a reaction

I don't need that shit, I'm struggling emotionally enough as it is

@babyblues21

Can someone tell me how I delete this thread please

You can't delete the thread without asking MNHQ to do it for you but please don't let that troll upset you x

I put my DS in to nursery 3 days a week at 5 months as we couldn't afford not to really. He's now 7 months and a much happier, developing little boy and as someone else said.. I feel more present than ever as my time with him is so precious now. As opposed to going a bit loopy being in with him myself for most of the day.

As for the crap comment about shoving kids in to childcare, please ignore. I think they are just trying to guilt trip x

Many friends were in the same position and it was fine. Perhaps more traumatic for the parents than the baby! It is emotionally tricky but perfectly common and the little one won't be harmed by it. You can do this (ignore the bastards).