To not really care I’ll be 60 when my youngest is 18

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Why is this relevant?

Will be 42 when I have my last child and people have said the above in incredulous tones.

What am I missing?

Much less chance of them stealing your clothes

You’re not missing a thing. Clearly these people have an issue,dossnr mean you need to. Congratulations on your pg (am I reading this correct? Are you pg or planning to be pg)

I will be 59 when dd is 18..

People are just stupid. Ignore - it's a pretty crass way of congratulating you on (I assume) a pregnancy you're happy about. Wish you all the best

I'm 59, ds is 19.

It means you will be going through the menopause when they are a teenager. It's not a great combination.

@Uniontea

Much less chance of them stealing your clothes

So true.

My mum was 60 when my youngest sister was 18. Would she have preferred younger parents, yes. Has it had a detrimental impact on her life, no.

Though mum recently had a stroke. I dealt with everything necessary so she, at 22 didn’t have to stress. I’m mid 30s, work in healthcare so although it was a stressful time, I felt able to cope. Had she been an only child or an eldest it would have been very stressful for one so young (still away at uni).

It doesn’t sound like this DC is your eldest though OP, so don’t worry about it. It doesn’t matter what others think so long as you’re happy with your choices.

So will I. My some said to me today that he thinks I am really cool

I was 34 when my son was 18…. your side of the coin is much better

Most of my social group didn’t start having children until they were in their 30s. It seems totally normal to me.

DH will be 62. He has more energy than anyone I know.

My dad will be 82 when his ds is 18, no you are not too old.

Screw people

I will be nearly 60. Don't see this as an issue at all!

'Much less chance of them stealing your clothes *
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my 16 year old has just pinched my ball-gown for her prom. I'm 58 this year.

Oh, but I want to go to the ball!! (Would never fit me these days though)

42 is a totally normal age! I can only assume that the comments about being 60 are to do with nearing retirement just as your child enters adulthood? I agree with you though I don't see why that's a bad thing, there will be many pros to being that age.

I'll be 39 when dd is 18, I'm so glad I had my kids when I did.

I don't think anyone is judging, it's probably just that they can't imagine going through the teens / twenties stage when they're 60ish.
I imagine when I'm that age I might be close to retiring/travelling/looking after grandchildren even. It doesn't mean those dreams will come into fruition, but at least I should (hopefully) be past the kids in uni / drinking / wild time phase.

@22Giraffes

I'll be 39 when dd is 18, I'm so glad I had my kids when I did.

I’m so glad I had my kids when I did, too. Would have hated to have had them at 21. But that’s me.

Meh 🤷‍♀️. But lm immensely having more IVF, if it works then l would be 60 when baby turned 18. I’m sure they will keep you young!

Immensely = imminently

I'm 61, DD is 18. We get on brilliantly. I might not have chosen our age gap but circumstances...

I will be too, ds is 8 and I will be 50 later this year. It only bothers me that I may need to work a bit longer if he needs financial support. Other than that I am okay with the timing.

I'm a bit younger, but dh is 62 and we have 14 and 16 y.os. he's a much better teen parent than I am. He is very fit and active. Age isn't important.

My mum had me at the same age and it was fine. We are really really close. And she has loads of money so always treating me 😂