Abiu To put 1 year old to bed hungry?

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Abiu to put my 1 year old to bed hungry if she doesn't eat the meal I make, this last week she has decided she doesn't want to eat anything I give her on a spoon she doesn't even look at it or smell it and definitely doesn't try it, it's just straight away shaking had and crying she's hungry because she takes her dummy out then cries. This last week Ive given in and made her toast before bed and I feel like shes just waiting for the toast.
Would I be unreasonable to just not offer her anything else but the meal I'm making tonight (cottage pie) and if she doesn't eat it then she goes to bed hungry with her bottle of milk?

She’s so little. I know it can be frustrating but just feed the baby what she wants.

Ya u, but I hope you know that already 😞

Give her a bit of cottage pie and praise any she does eat. Give her toast with it though.

My kids are primary age and soooo fussy. It really annoys me but I try to give them something they will eat but also get them to try something new every time.

Is it possible she's teething or unwell?
Personally I think she's a but too young not to have anything. Have you tried just leaving it in front of her to see what she does?

I also bribe with pudding

That's unpopular on here!

At a year old mine had tea about 5 and 1or 2 weetabix and a bottle or bf before bed! Yabvu to send a hungry baby to bed...
Your very small dc makes no connection between refusing tea =get some toast...

Way too young for such lessons- have default meals you know she will eat on standby, even if cereal or beans on toast.

I wouldn't be getting into food battles with her! If she doesn't want it fine it's not the end of the world. And if she likes her toast for supper then so be it.

Poor thing, she’s 1! Food is the only thing they can control and so they do. Yes it’s frustrating but having a hungry baby awake in the night isn’t much fun either.

My motto is to give some of the main meal and also something I know they’ll eat as well. And we always have yogurt or fruit after no matter what. Food is sustenance not punishment.

You can't put a 1 year old to bed hungry, it is possible she is teething and her gums hurt but she isn't refusing cottage pie to be 'naughty' or upset you so just go with the flow and offer toast if that's what she wants.

I think the priority needs to be giving her enough food so yes YABU

Surely she will be up more during the night if she is hungry. It would be cruel not to feed her.

She’s 1. A tiny, tiny human being.
Please don’t send her to bed hungry.

Of course you cannot send a 1 year old baby to bed hungry.. How very cruel..

YABU. It’s frustrating when you’ve spent time cooking and your DC doesn’t even try it. However, at that age she lives in the moment and can’t understand that refusing a meal then equals hungry hours later. Even a much older child won’t be motivated by that. Food should never be used as a punishment. I would be worrying she was unwell or there was something else at play that you’re missing.

Yes YABU, she’s 1.

Oh my this has made me so sad for that little baby ☹️

YABU but I feel your pain.
I love one-pot meals: curries, casseroles, pasta bakes etc but hardly ever make them any more. With three small kids, two of them choosy, it's much more successful to serve meals with more components so that there's at least one thing they will eat. I also don't go to huge trouble, rather serve several simply cooked items side by side. It's a better experience all round.

YABU of course you can't but a hungry 1 year old to bed with no dinner. Give her toast if that's what she wants and will eat. Or a plate with toast and a bit of cottage pie.

At that age she's still tiny, she doesn't understand and it's actually quite cruel to think of putting her to bed hungry.

Have a look around for details of your local children's centre, they will often run courses based on meal times for children, they might have some helpful advice.

I agree that she is too young to associate the concept of refusing food with the consequence of getting toast.
At one year old, she is likely to wake up crying if she's hungry, which will only exacerbate the problem.
You could try giving her egg or cheese on toast, or giving toast as an accompaniment to the main meal. The important thing is that she eats something.

I think it's important to remember how horrible hunger feels especially when you're not in control of being hungry. And thats when we're adults and can understand.

She's 1, no you shouldn't ever deliberately make her hungry as a punishment.

She's far far too little to understand why she's being sent to bed hungry :( plus there are so many reasons she may not want to eat.

Please do not to this. She is 1 and does not and will not understand that she needs to eat what is in front of her or there is no alternative.

That's so cruel. You can't just not feed your baby because it's too hard.

Offer different foods. If she won't eat off the spoon give finger foods for her to try. Cereal is usually popular or porridge.

If you put her to bed hungry she will just wake up because she needs food.

She’s 1 fgs. You absolutely cannot put her to bed hungry, it’s cruel and abusive.