Abiu To put 1 year old to bed hungry?

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Abiu to put my 1 year old to bed hungry if she doesn't eat the meal I make, this last week she has decided she doesn't want to eat anything I give her on a spoon she doesn't even look at it or smell it and definitely doesn't try it, it's just straight away shaking had and crying she's hungry because she takes her dummy out then cries. This last week Ive given in and made her toast before bed and I feel like shes just waiting for the toast.
Would I be unreasonable to just not offer her anything else but the meal I'm making tonight (cottage pie) and if she doesn't eat it then she goes to bed hungry with her bottle of milk?

I honestly don't think I'd be able to put her to bed hungry but I'm being told by various family members and friends to not give in she's currently sat in her high chair Infront of the TV to occupy her with her food and she won't even try it I'm so frustrated she just will not eat anything unless it's sweet stuff or toast but when she's at her child minder a she eats everything they give her.

I really don't think she's poorly as she's perfectly happy when it's not meal time.
It's frustrating me souch as she won't even try it if she tried it and spat it out I would give her something else
I'll just give her wheetabix and hope she will get bored of it in a few weeks

I once gave my teething toddler cottage pie with strawberry yoghurt on it. My DMIL suggested it saying ‘it’s all going in the same hole and coming out the same one’.

Why would you even begin to think that is a good idea? What are you trying to achieve? Punishing her? Teaching her a 'lesson'?
YABVVU

Are you serious? You don't put a baby to bed hungry!

When you say '1 year old' do you mean recently turned 1, or nearly 2? There's a huge difference developmentally.

A just 1 year-old, just give them whatever they will eat so they go to bed with a full tummy.
An almost 2 year-old, offer an alternative but make it boring and perhaps have a bit of a time gap between them rejecting dinner and being offered something else so they don't see it as a reward.

Remove your emotion from this!
She could be unwell or teething.
Give her toast and a spoon of something else next to it at the same time.
Food should never be a battle or you are just storing trouble up for the future.
I didn't mind feeding in front of the tv for distraction now and again and my teenager always eats at the table now so that didn't do any harm.

She's not old enough to understand, so yes YABU

She will just wake up crying. I'd try giving her toast with her meal so she has something you know she will eat.

Try giving the food you want her to eat with a food you know she’ll eat, so toast and cottage pie?

Do you think it could be teething? Maybe the toast is soft on the gums and it's comfort? It is also warm (at least where we are) and that can really put them off food.
If she's refusing meals could you make her a wee picky plate with some toast cheese cold meat fruit etc.
I would say putting her to bed hungry would only make you all miserable if she starts getting up in the night

She's 15 months today, she just refuses to eat her dinner then cries in the kitchen standing pointing at the cupboard that has her baby crisp and baby biscotti biscuits so she's hungry just won't eat whats good for her

Far too young to do that. You really think a 1 year old can understand the concept of consequences? YABU.

I think one is too young to learn the lesson you're trying to teach tbh.

I'd give her toast but with other stuff too, maybe let her feed herself from a plate rather than using a spoon? She might be more interested (fingers crossed).

I would make cottage pie and make lots of mini ones extra to freeze in small portions for her. Do the same with other meals. That’ way you haven’t always slaved over cooking a meal each day for her to not eat.

Give a small portion of the cottage pie. At 1 year she probably wants to try and feed it to herself ( my 1 year old does, or will accept spoon if he has one also). Then clear up and offer toast/ fruit/ yogurt after. Repeat each day

I still remember the food battles with dc1, and that was over 20 years ago I really wish I had just gone with the flow more. Give her her tea, and if she eats it - great, if not, move on. She won’t associate what she did or didn’t eat then with her bedtime toast, so I’d give that regardless.
You might also want to try meals where she can eat the different components separately.. so instead of shepherds pie, small pieces of meat, potatoes, and vegetables, that she can pick up and feed herself.

Maybe it’s a texture thing? Does she like finger food? I’d keep offering a range of items that she can try. I’d also be sitting and eating with her so she can see the family eating. Babies love being around a table eating with everyone - especially if there are older children there.

she is so young. your family and friends are out of order.
do not let them push you on this.
1 year old, just 15 months. Let her have toast.
not the crisps but biscotti if it doesn't have sugar is fine too.

Just so you're all not worried my baby has gone to bed hungry she's now eating cottage pie mixed with chocolate ready break sounds disgusting but she's happy 😂
I really would not have put her to bed hungry I asked for advice off 5 people and 3 told me to not let her have her own way as she will still only be eating breakfast food at 18.

She used to eat anything I gave her now she will eat her breakfast and refuse lunch no matter what it is it could be chocolate and she wouldn't eat it and she refuses dinner most days now but childminders is a different story.

My eldest was the same. Which is why he always went to bed after some supper of toast and milk/hit chocolate or whatever. He has asd, adhd and was extremely picky. I told anyone who said I was making a rod for my own Cabo to politely fuck off and did what worked. You cannot punish a child by withholding food.

My eldest is now 19 and still fairly choosy but he eats what he needs and doesn't need supper any more because he developed standard eating habits and is just fine.

It's a very common problem and it will pass. Just give her the toast!

Food until 1 is fun so it doesn't matter what she eats as long as she gets as much milk as she wants.
Don't give toast if you don't want to (that doesnt sound like a great habit to pick up), offer the cottage pie and give her as much milk as she wants.

No way would I do this, poor baby, even if the child was older I've always believed never punish a child with food or sleep, she's so little she won't understand what you're trying to achieve..it's only a phase, she'll grow out of it.

Turn the telly off. Don’t give her that to focus on. Try giving her her main meal at lunchtime and let her have a light tea, you might find she eats it better that way round.

She's one!!!! So so sad. You should be so ashamed of yourself

Aww that poor poor baby you can’t make her go hungry to teach her a lesson at that age . Poor wee mite that you would ever think this was ok .

Maybe not unreasonable but you'll be the only one suffering if dd wake up through the night or early...

Just go with the flow, she's tiny and things will change.