DD wants boob Job

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DD is 19 years old, very upset at being flat chested and is wanting implants. She is pretty but is only focusing on this issue she can’t afford it anyway, but is thinking of a loan cries about it. Any advice WWYD ?

If its making her that miserable then she should go for it. She will end up doing it at some point anyway

I'd support her. Help her get good information about her options, what it would cost and ensure that she used a reputable surgeon and ensure that if she got a loan she could afford repayments.

If it’s making her miserable then I’d agree to it. Life is for being happy not being self conscious and upset over something you can change.

Why does she attach so much value to breasts? Surely she must have something else in her life to focus on than a secondary sexual characteristic.

I would support her. I wanted a reduction that age and never did it. I so regret not doing it when young. Life is too short to be so unhappy. Breasts are emotive things!

I know it doesn’t help her and if she wants a boob job she should do it, but I do find this sad. It depresses me that people feel down about having a perfectly natural (and imo beautiful) body type.

I would support her to look at costs and find a reputable surgeon, ensure she gets subtle implants that she won’t regret in future.

If it was Dd I would support her by offering to pay for therapy first to see why she places all of her happiness upon her breasts, and once she’d worked that out with herself probably pay for the surgery if she still wanted it.

At 40, I still want one and have been saying this since I was 17, I've just never saved for it, I wouldn't get a loan for it but I do believe some companies do payment plans.

Just ensure she does her research, goes to a couple of different consultations and really feels com with who she chooses

*Comfortable

Boob jobs aren't benign, they carry risks and side effects - some women can't breastfeed and it's harder to detect breast cancer with implants. You need a GA so there's a small risk of death and other complications from anaesthetic. The operation could go wrong and cause deformity. She could bleed post op, have a wound infection or a blood clot.

Honestly my view would depend on how flat chested she is. Totally flat like a boy - I might well consider helping if I could. Very small boobs - help her embrace them.

My dd knew she was having surgery from a teenager. She had hers done at 22.. She is 32 now and no regrets.. Obviously I had to support her choice.. I went to all appointments..

It's so common .. tell her to wait until she's a little older and can afford a top notch plastic surgeon. I wanted one since I was 16 and finally took the plunge when I was 23 and unexpectedly came into a little bit of money. Best decision ever, seriously no regrets. I didn't get anything huge, just proportionate to my body size. Most people have no idea I've had it done. For all they know I'm just a tiny girl who got lucky in the boob department haha. I was still able to breastfeed 3 babies and my boobs still look great now in my late 30's ;)

I've had a boob job. I waited a year from seeing first consultant I saw to getting surgery. I wanted to make sure I really wanted it done and found the right person to do it. I'm very happy I had the surgery but also glad I didn't rush into it.

What’s the point if she can’t afford it or is she expecting you to pay for it?

My friend works in medical malpractice litigation and the numbers of boob jobs that go wrong either from complications, side effects, or not getting the desired result is high.

I'd also focus on why breasts mean so much to her. Basically its men in western society who have socialised breasts - why does it matter to her so much.

Also, not just for this but for anything, surely it's a really bad idea to get anything on credit that's not necessarily (eg car to get you to work) or not going to appreciate in value (eg house). Surely she can just save up or she will basically just be paying it back until she needs them redone

Dd got 4k inheritance and payed the rest in monthly instalments.. About 6k all in.

I have and always had small breasts. I was very self conscious when young, maybe 15-20, due to a couple of asshole comments, but by the time I was in my early twenties I had reached a peace with it and rarely have I thought about it since. Now I am glad that I didn’t change my body - I can wear pretty much anything and feel comfortable and I genuinely am glad that they are smaller now. I would second the person who said counselling first before surgery; it seems so invasive when there may be a psychological fix first.

I hated my A chest,got a boob job at 27 to go up to a D cup and was so happy with my decision.
13 years on after childbirth they needed replacing which cost me 4 grand more than the original operation.Its not a one off operation.

One thing to consider would be that they will likely need replacing at some time.
They can last 20+ years but some don't.
So at 19 she is signing up for a lifetime of monitoring and further surgery.

Oh and forgot to add I couldn't breast feed

I would support her. I had cosmetic surgery that I had wanted since I was a young teenager. I decided to wait until I was 21 and "fully developed" before making a decision. I felt exactly the same so booked in. It was worth it.

I would make sure she is well aware of the risks and illness caused by implants.

If she wants it, it's her body and her choice.