DD wants boob Job

[Neapolitanicecream]

DD is 19 years old, very upset at being flat chested and is wanting implants. She is pretty but is only focusing on this issue she can’t afford it anyway, but is thinking of a loan cries about it. Any advice WWYD ?

@Neapolitanicecream

Are you sure this isn’t smoke from another fire? I think we need to ask why she feels inadequate with small breasts. Surely they are better? No black eyes when out jogging. No back aches and other pains. No weirdos going in for nosedives. Would you advise your son to get pe-Nile enhancement surgery if he was bemoaning that his widger was too small?

Take her I. Holiday somewhere nice instead.

As PP have stated, there is new evidence of illness due to breat implants. Does she also understand that by having them at a young age, she will likely need revision surgery throughout her life?

I have always wanted my breasts enlarged! But now after having a child and currently pregnant, I want them done even more! And probably will do after breast feeding.

But, if I were you, I'd take her to a few companies for the initial appointment. I know Transform doesn't charge for this. And ask them lots of questions and let her understand the risks etc herself.

But, if I were you, I'd take her to a few companies for the initial appointment. I know Transform doesn't charge for this

I would be wary. You may get an appointment with a sales person in a white coat. Do some research on surgeons rather than companies. They may charge a consultation fee but at least you get to speak to the person who is going to do the job.

I felt the same and had a boob job at 23. I have big hips and wanted to even things out. My parents actually lent me the money as they knew it made me unhappy. I paid them back every single penny.

I don’t regret it at all - I’m 6 years on. I went for teardrop implants. Anyone I tell is shocked and I just feel more in-proportion.

Definitely consider it carefully but if she’s generally a sensible girl then I say do lots of research and trust her judgment.

@Whattheactualfk

Boob jobs aren't benign, they carry risks and side effects - some women can't breastfeed and it's harder to detect breast cancer with implants. You need a GA so there's a small risk of death and other complications from anaesthetic. The operation could go wrong and cause deformity. She could bleed post op, have a wound infection or a blood clot.

Neither of your first two points are true. There is no reason (except if something went wrong) that implants should interfere with your milk ducts. Anecdotally I have breastfed successfully.

Also re cancer, your natural tissue is stretched over your implant and so arguably it’s easier and not harder to detect a change.

These were both issues I thoroughly researched before having my op.

My surgeon recommended an MRI scan for breast cancer screening. Extra expense.

This is something that will, or should, be discussed at the initial consultation along with breast feeding, surgery risks, long term implications and ongoing health issues etc.

I think you should be supportive but realistic, I think I would insist she saves up for it herself or half or something and research the procedure. I have friends who have had it done who were shocked at the initial pain and stuff after surgery.

It's possible your daughter isn't fully developed yet. At your daughter's age I was also flat chested and would have considered surgery had it been an option at the time (early 80s). I remember buying bikinis with slide along cups so I could make them look snug instead of empty. But I can't have stopped growing, by the time I was 30 I was wearing a C cup, D cup by the time I was 40. I thought it was general weight gain, but then I lost weight and my bras still didn't fit properly, Went to John Lewis for a fitting and was told I was an F. I've never been pregnant btw. I would advise your daughter to wait a few years.

I have friends who have had it done who were shocked at the initial pain and stuff after surgery.

For balance, I had zero pain after surgery. I didn’t even need the paracetamol they offered me.

This strikes a cord with me because I desperately wanted a breast enlargement for almost my entire 20s but didn’t do it because I was so scared of surgery and the risk of it going wrong.
Now I’m much older and I’m so glad I didn’t get it.
Partly because I now realise the size of my breasts isn’t important in the grand scheme of things but also because its only as I’ve got older that I see there are many benefits to having a smaller chest.
Ultimately you can’t stop her but I certainly wouldn’t be encouraging it.

Isn't the real issue here why a young woman feels inconfident becasue she has small breasts? Same goes for a big nose, or small eyes. Aren't women valued for more than random body parts? If we dont value ourselves for ourselves, how can we ever expect other people to?

@sekactao

I have friends who have had it done who were shocked at the initial pain and stuff after surgery.

For balance, I had zero pain after surgery. I didn’t even need the paracetamol they offered me.

Me neither. I was shocked at just how easy recovery was.

And to people that say 'nobody can tell' - yes we can. It's just that nobody says 'Hey, I can tell your boobs are fake'.

Yes. You can tell.

So fucking depressing how many women are brainwashed into thinking they're less than because they don't conform to some arbitrary ideal.

Think about the example you are setting here.

She's so young she could easily grow naturally in the next few years anyway.

I was very thin as a teenager and my breasts were very small. Now in my 30s they are still growing and are DD! I think it's a myth that they stop growing when you're a teenager. They can carry on growing well into your 20s if not 30s if you don't have kids.

(Not that I'm comparing myself to Rihanna but the same thing happened to her. She was very thin and flat chested in her younger days, and now her breasts have grown larger in her 30s.)

Just a thought that your DD's natural breasts might grow as she gets older.

Cosmetic surgery can be truly life changing in a really positive way. I’d support her.

Some of us take longer to become womanly.

She needs to watched Botched, they have clips on YouTube about how plastic surgery can go horrifically wrong.

It isn't a one off operation as she will need them replaced further down the line.

I think 19 is a bit young. I'd say go for it if she's so miserable as it is her body. I'd just worry maybe she could develop a bit more.

Nothing you can do. I'm not against cosmetic surgery but breast implants seem to cause quite a few problems. So I wouldn't be in favour and certainly wouldn't pay even if I could afford to.

Research is key.I chose a surgeon who was a member of B.A.A.P.S and also did nhs operations

@Yesyoucantell

And to people that say 'nobody can tell' - yes we can. It's just that nobody says 'Hey, I can tell your boobs are fake'.

Yes. You can tell.

So fucking depressing how many women are brainwashed into thinking they're less than because they don't conform to some arbitrary ideal.

Think about the example you are setting here.

She's so young she could easily grow naturally in the next few years anyway.

Did you set up your username for the sole purpose of this thread? I assure you if you have carefully placed, anatomical implants under the muscle it is not apparent to all and sundry that you’ve had implants.

I’ve piped up that I’ve had mine done a couple of times over the years when cosmetic surgery has come up in convo and everyone has been utterly shocked that mine are “done”.

You only know they’ve been done if it’s apparent. Unless you have interrogated everyone women with breasts you have no idea just how obvious some of it is. Some people don’t choose to share it, myself included. My surgeon specialised in reconstruction so discreet was his aim.

Wow 19 is young for cosmetic surgery. Does she know the full risks associated with this .. abd also they they need to be replaced in about 10 years?
A friends mil has had them for decades and in her 70s now, just had to have another op to replace them again.. which is really an unnecessary GA risk at that age.it’s either that or remove and be left with saggy chest from stretched out skin..,

Please let her do it if she's crying about it.

And to people that say 'nobody can tell' - yes we can. It's just that nobody says 'Hey, I can tell your boobs are fake'.

This is the 'obvious wig' fallacy.

"You can always tell if it's a wig."

"Well, except if you couldn't tell, you wouldn't know you couldn't tell, would you?"

"But you can. You always can. I know I can."

"You know you can when you do. But you don't know you can't when you don't."

"I don't know what that's supposed to mean. I'm just saying I can, that's all."

"You represent the major issue with the concept of trial by jury."