Huge row with sister on holiday

[Honey12346]

I'm on holiday with sister and cousin and we are going today to a small cute little island to spend two nights there. I have booked us a rent a car for this that I have paid (I can afford it) to make our lives easier, rather than taking the bus...

My cousin has went to pick up the car as she is driving and they asked for a security deposit that she cannot afford. She called my sister and I overheard the conversation. Instead of asking me if I can pay for the security deposit they started discussing can they cancel the car etc. So basically acting as if I'm not going on this trip, not even asking for my input. When I could solve this problem in 2 seconds as I can afford the deposit!

Then I overheard my sister saying the fact that I even booked this car was stressful for her???

So let me get this straight, I have booked and paid for a car and my cousin is driving. All my sister literally has to do is sit in the car and this is stressful for her???

I ran out after hearing this and I am now sitting in a park crying. My sister is calling me.

Yabu - I did something wrong
Yanbu - my sister is being a bitch

The fact they left In the car that you paid for would be it for me.

They obviously had the deposit and it obviously wasn't as big of a deal as they made it out to be and they OBVIOUSLY wanted to go on the trip otherwise they wouldn't of gone...

An awful lot of childish behaviour on all sides to be honest OP. If you hate your sister so much why have you gone on holiday with her?

It can be pretty crap when you've made plans but someone comes along splashing the cash and 'improving' them with their wads of money. It is hurtful and makes people feel like a charity case.

I feel exhausted just reading this

I find it really manipulative when people run off. Clearly you wanted more than an apology you expected them to go off looking for you and then persuade them to forgive you. Suspect you have form for it if they’ve given up and gone off without you.

I'd ring the rental company and cancel the rental. Your sister is a cheeky fucker. Time to get your money back from them both

@Peoniesandpeaches

I find it really manipulative when people run off. Clearly you wanted more than an apology you expected them to go off looking for you and then persuade them to forgive you. Suspect you have form for it if they’ve given up and gone off without you.

Bold assumption there. I assume OP stormed off because she was upset and wanted to get away from the situation and cool down?

Yes they tried calling and OP didn't answer but they could've texted to say they were going to go ahead and take the car whether she comes back or not - seeing as OP paid for the car.

Really dislike when people reply to posts like this in a patronising way - dismissing it all as childish. Unfortunately people aren't perfect and adults do have disagreements like this!

You lost me at small cute little island 🤨 how is an island cute?

Good luck OP

@Dumbo18

You lost me at small cute little island 🤨 how is an island cute?

It's the Island of Dreams. Or Fantasy Island.

I'd ring the rental company and cancel the rental. Your sister is a cheeky fucker. Time to get your money back from them both

Quite tricky to cancel a rental for a car that is already being driven to the "cute little island" with cousin & DS in it.

I really don’t understand why you didn’t just say - hang on I’ll sort that out’ ??? Why did you increase the drama rather than nip it in the bud completely ??
Sounds as though you’re all stressed for some reason and you didn’t just deal with it ! Hope things improve. We’ve al done things we then look at and think ‘bloody hell what was I thinking?’ Just apologise to your sister check she is ok and move on.

@Honey12346

Yes they have left in the car, no idea who paid the security deposit. As for the people who asked what did I expect, well I did not expect they will leave in the car that I paid for!

I feel like I've just been shat on, but apparently I deserve it because I cried and stormed off after someone treated me like crap. Why is it up to me to be the bigger person when a family member treats you like you're worthless. I'm human after all

OP, I feel so bad for you. You're right, whatever you said/did you wouldn't expect that they'll just desert you like that. And I'm sure 90% of the posters who say it's entirely your fault, wouldn't expect such a treatment either, had they been in your place. It may sound overly dramatic, but these things can easily happen amongst relatives, especially when the relationships are volatile. If you are not sharing a suite or flat with them, you should stay and try to have fun on your own (I know, easier said..) Or if you find that's too much, cut your losses and leave. Either way, i wouldn't holiday with them again.

@Honey12346

I'm on holiday with sister and cousin and we are going today to a small cute little island to spend two nights there. I have booked us a rent a car for this that I have paid (I can afford it) to make our lives easier, rather than taking the bus...

My cousin has went to pick up the car as she is driving and they asked for a security deposit that she cannot afford. She called my sister and I overheard the conversation. Instead of asking me if I can pay for the security deposit they started discussing can they cancel the car etc. So basically acting as if I'm not going on this trip, not even asking for my input. When I could solve this problem in 2 seconds as I can afford the deposit!

Then I overheard my sister saying the fact that I even booked this car was stressful for her???

So let me get this straight, I have booked and paid for a car and my cousin is driving. All my sister literally has to do is sit in the car and this is stressful for her???

I ran out after hearing this and I am now sitting in a park crying. My sister is calling me.

Yabu - I did something wrong
Yanbu - my sister is being a bitch

YABU for describing an island as 'small cute little' and stating 'my sister has went'......teeth itchingly annoying and incorrect grammar. It all sounds tedious, to be frank....... Oh...and you didn't mention; can you afford it?!

Are you ok op?

Why didn't you go upon hearing about cancellation that you can pay. Your sister probably thought you've already paid for the car and perhaps unfair to ask you to pay the deposit as you may not be able to.
You seem very young. Make up and Enjoy your holiday,

What I'm wondering is why, when you booked it, did your cousin ring your sister regarding the security deposit. Surely the cousin should have rang you. The booking was in your name.

Do you feel left out? Are they closer to each other?

Are you younger than your sister?

I have to say people guessing that all 3 of us are in our teens and going on our first holiday is so funny considering I know hold old we actually are and how many holidays we have been on lol. It kind of makes me feel better after all this drama

@RainbowStarsForever

What I'm wondering is why, when you booked it, did your cousin ring your sister regarding the security deposit. Surely the cousin should have rang you. The booking was in your name.

Do you feel left out? Are they closer to each other?

Yes

@hellogem

Are you younger than your sister?

Yes, is it that obvious lol

Am sorry they left without you. That's not nice especially seen as your in a different country, very irresponsible of your sister to leave you like that, what if something happens to you.
Were you refusing to come back to the hotel or take their call, is that why they left, it is their holiday too, it's not nice to leave them hanging because of a tantrum.

Have they definitely left or just gone for a drive? Hope your ok op, try calling them and sorting it out, the longer you leave it the more harder it will be.

I'm a bit surprised you're old enough to be able to hire a car if your response to this was to 'run outside and cry'.