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Huge row with sister on holiday

221 replies

Honey12346 · 23/06/2021 15:45

I'm on holiday with sister and cousin and we are going today to a small cute little island to spend two nights there. I have booked us a rent a car for this that I have paid (I can afford it) to make our lives easier, rather than taking the bus...

My cousin has went to pick up the car as she is driving and they asked for a security deposit that she cannot afford. She called my sister and I overheard the conversation. Instead of asking me if I can pay for the security deposit they started discussing can they cancel the car etc. So basically acting as if I'm not going on this trip, not even asking for my input. When I could solve this problem in 2 seconds as I can afford the deposit!

Then I overheard my sister saying the fact that I even booked this car was stressful for her???

So let me get this straight, I have booked and paid for a car and my cousin is driving. All my sister literally has to do is sit in the car and this is stressful for her???

I ran out after hearing this and I am now sitting in a park crying. My sister is calling me.

Yabu - I did something wrong
Yanbu - my sister is being a bitch

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Original poster
Honey12346 · 23/06/2021 16:46

Update: they have left on the trip without me

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Flowers500 · 23/06/2021 16:49

I…what? Are you all 12? What is going on?

WhenISnappedAndFarted · 23/06/2021 16:49

This all sounds so childish - did they take the car to go on the trip?

AnnieSnap · 23/06/2021 16:50

I agree with the others who say, there is a lot of unnecessary drama here. It seems as though you and your sister are very sensitive. Do you usually push each other’s buttons? If so, that sort of thing is always worse on holiday, at Christmas etc, because expectations of ‘a wonderful time had by all’ are unrealistically high!

Iknowtheanswer · 23/06/2021 16:50

In the car?

tallduckandhandsome · 23/06/2021 16:51

Yes have they taken the car?! Shock

lazylump72 · 23/06/2021 16:52

so you hired a car and paid for it and they have gone without you? omg call it a draw and just come home.

Aquamarine1029 · 23/06/2021 16:52

Update: they have left on the trip without me

You stormed off to the park crying. What did you expect them to do?

toocold54 · 23/06/2021 16:53

I’m sorry they left you but you completely over reacted and if you have form for running off crying like that I’m not surprised They left without you.
You also said your sister was trying to call you did you answer it?

480Widdio · 23/06/2021 16:54

Three is not a good number of people to be on holiday together.

You sound as if you are behaving like a spoilt child,you must be very young.

Go off and do your own thing.

diddl · 23/06/2021 16:55

How far away was the car?

Why didn't you all go together to collect it?

Where were you when yur cousin came to collect your sister?

So who paid the security deposit?

PuppyMonkey · 23/06/2021 16:55

Are you still in the park OP? What do they expect you’ll be doing now? Confused

Pinot4evs · 23/06/2021 16:55

@Honey12346

Update: they have left on the trip without me
Well you did storm off and refuse to answer the phone whilst posting on MN…
BirbofDre · 23/06/2021 16:56

Nope.

wildeverose · 23/06/2021 16:56

How bloody dramatic.
To be fair, you yelled and stormed out and have been sat crying in a park ignoring the phone, like a child. I'd have left without you too.
Utterly ridiculous.

KeepingTrack · 23/06/2021 16:56

@Honey12346

Update: they have left on the trip without me
Hmm…. Plenty of opportunity for more drama etc… now…. With the possible issue of refunds etc….
FeatheredHope · 23/06/2021 16:57

And it's not like I rented this car and told them to cough up the money, I told them it's my treat!

But you didn’t transfer the money ahead of time so it left them struggling to sort it.

This is all so ridiculous.

LotLessBovver · 23/06/2021 16:59

Is the cousin the only one who's old enough to drive?

SaltAndVinegarSandwiches · 23/06/2021 17:02

I can kind of see why the hire car is stressful, unless you have a super easy going relationship (which you clearly don't) it's awkward to have one person paying more and making more decisions on a holiday. I would prefer just taking public transport and all paying equally and maybe they would too. If you were adamant about having the car you probably should have been 100% that it was all sorted so they didn't have to keep asking you for money which would be awkward. It was perhaps a little ungrateful of them to behave as they were but your reaction was OTT and overly dramatic.

VettiyaIruken · 23/06/2021 17:03

Maybe you shouldn't have yelled whatever it was you yelled then run away to cry 🤷‍♀️

A couple of days apart is probably a good idea. Sounds like you need a break from each other.

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Honey12346 · 23/06/2021 17:04

Yes they have left in the car, no idea who paid the security deposit. As for the people who asked what did I expect, well I did not expect they will leave in the car that I paid for!

I feel like I've just been shat on, but apparently I deserve it because I cried and stormed off after someone treated me like crap. Why is it up to me to be the bigger person when a family member treats you like you're worthless. I'm human after all

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Bluntness100 · 23/06/2021 17:06

Op. Is there a back story here? Do you have mental health issues? Crying storming off, saying you’ve been shat on, treated like crap, not human etc when all they did initially was discuss paying the deposit and not asking you is all very very over emotional and dramatic.

youshallnotpass9 · 23/06/2021 17:06

Depending on the car hire, means that you should have transferred the money to your cousin before she went and collected the car, as the main car driver needs to pay the deposit.

I would have been annoyed because you then didn't answer the phone.

LalalalalalaLand123 · 23/06/2021 17:06

I don't think you should go on holiday with your sister and/or cousin anymore.

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Honey12346 · 23/06/2021 17:07

@VettiyaIruken

Maybe you shouldn't have yelled whatever it was you yelled then run away to cry 🤷‍♀️

A couple of days apart is probably a good idea. Sounds like you need a break from each other.

We will be getting a much longer break than that as I've just arranged to be gone before they come back from the trip
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