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Huge row with sister on holiday

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Honey12346 · 23/06/2021 15:45

I'm on holiday with sister and cousin and we are going today to a small cute little island to spend two nights there. I have booked us a rent a car for this that I have paid (I can afford it) to make our lives easier, rather than taking the bus...

My cousin has went to pick up the car as she is driving and they asked for a security deposit that she cannot afford. She called my sister and I overheard the conversation. Instead of asking me if I can pay for the security deposit they started discussing can they cancel the car etc. So basically acting as if I'm not going on this trip, not even asking for my input. When I could solve this problem in 2 seconds as I can afford the deposit!

Then I overheard my sister saying the fact that I even booked this car was stressful for her???

So let me get this straight, I have booked and paid for a car and my cousin is driving. All my sister literally has to do is sit in the car and this is stressful for her???

I ran out after hearing this and I am now sitting in a park crying. My sister is calling me.

Yabu - I did something wrong
Yanbu - my sister is being a bitch

OP posts:
roarfeckingroarr · 23/06/2021 18:06

You sound ridiculously difficult. You cried and stormed off... how old are you?

NeverMetANiceOne · 23/06/2021 18:11

I'm so interested to hear the other side of the story right now

BingBongToTheMoon · 23/06/2021 18:11

Can’t you just get public transport to the “cute” island and bloody well apologise for storming off howling in the huff?

MyDcAreMarvel · 23/06/2021 18:12

I am guessing you are 15/16 year 11 and your sister is 17/18 ? Probably a good idea not go without your parents until you both mature a bit.

billy1966 · 23/06/2021 18:13

OP, you say your sister has form?

So why go on holiday with her?

Take responsibility for this and learn from it.

Life is too short.

Holidays can be very stressful when differing characters go on them.

Better to stay at home than bother going with clashing personalities.
Flowers

squiglet111 · 23/06/2021 18:16

How come you aren't the one driving it?

Maybe their problem is your cousin doesn't want to do the driving? And feels awkward because you paid. What if you go on a night out? Will you expect her to drive then and not drink too? Possibly they have discussed it and don't really want the car but haven't told you

BirbofDre · 23/06/2021 18:16

I hate these threads where you know there's another side to the story.

I'd like to hear the sister and cousins perspective.

And storming off/refusing to answer the phone never goes well.

RubyGoat · 23/06/2021 18:17

Is there a specific reason why you didn't go to collect the car yourself OP? As you'd paid the deposit etc? It would presumably have been simpler - it doesn't sound much like either of them wanted to drive. I'm not judging, BTW - I don't actually drive myself, I'm just wondering.

Seesawmummadaw · 23/06/2021 18:17

Are you okay @Honey12346

WorraLiberty · 23/06/2021 18:18

@Cryalot2

BrewFlowers Families can be so hurtful. I sadly know. Is there a big age difference or something? Sounds like she is very jealous of you. Hoping you have a nice time even you go alone.
Sounds like she is very jealous of you

I'm intrigued.

Could you say why it sounds like that to you?

mamaoffourdc · 23/06/2021 18:18

Drama llamas 🦙

TheoMeo · 23/06/2021 18:20

Sibling relationships last a life time.
Your pesky little sis will always be that even if she's 55.
Your Dsis won't like that you are the well off one. She will always have a chip on her shoulder about that.
Plus 3 isn't a good number for hols.
Do your own thing and enjoy it.

Hawkins001 · 23/06/2021 18:21

All the best op, seems very odd they did not ask you for your assistance and to then still use the car, that takes the biscuit, and seems odd but from a psychological perspective, why was the sister saying it's stressful when they are not ment to be handing any of the arrangements ?

Thisisus909 · 23/06/2021 18:22

@5566rfghh

You're both being ridiculous. Why didn't you just say to your sister "oh I'll pay the deposit"...
This
PurpleyBlue · 23/06/2021 18:22

@NeverMetANiceOne

I'm so interested to hear the other side of the story right now
Me too.

Did they even want the car OP?

squiglet111 · 23/06/2021 18:23

Just seen the update that they left. Honestly do you want to ruin your holiday like this? Why don't you call your sister and ask them to come back?

I think you over reacted a bit. Stormed out as she didn't answer you straight away then ignored your sisters calls. Maybe she's done this before, but you have ruined your own holiday by letting this be the time that you get annoyed about it

Blackredblack · 23/06/2021 18:29

Op I’m sorry you’re having a shitty time and I’m sorry so many on here are being so fucking mean while you’re upset.

If your sister is like mine, constantly talks over you, never listens to you and only needs you for money or lifts then they are not worth your energy.

Go and have fun without them. Enjoy your holiday.

PurpleSunrise · 23/06/2021 18:30

Sorry OP, maybe don’t go on holiday with your sister again, or cousin.

AnUnoriginalUsername · 23/06/2021 18:32

Jesus christ I'm amazed any of you are old enough to drive!
Clearly there is more to this story, and how long did you want them to sit about waiting for you when you've said whatever you've said that you dont want to repeat here and refused to answer your phone.
My best guess is, you're 14, your cousin and sister are 18, you've tried to play the grown up, they're annoyed at their childish younger sister/cousin trying to control everything.

You've missed out on the trip because you made a mountain out of a mole hill. Next time you need to communicate better.
I absolutely hate when people go off sulking and expect everyone else to cancel their plans and wait around for them to get over their tantrum. I'd have left you after two missed calls no matter where we were.

diddl · 23/06/2021 18:33

Paying for a car that you can't drive yourself when the others are happy to take the bus is quite cheeky isn't it?

I can imagine the cousin was extremely pissed off to find out that extra money was needed & vented to your sister.

Of course they then wanted to cancel as had been happy to use the bus anyway.

MiniCooperLover · 23/06/2021 18:33

Where are you all ??! OP you all sound ridiculous. Just enjoy a couple of days and then see them when they get back. Maybe they don't like you constantly 'oh I can pay it, I can afford if'. Maybe they wanted to get the bus ??

Viviennemary · 23/06/2021 18:33

Pull yourself together. Did you discuss this trip. A lot of people aren't comfortable driving around in a hired car visiting islands. Is there a ferry involved. Whose idea was it to go for two nights. All sounds like a bit of a misunderstanding to me.

debwong · 23/06/2021 18:34

I'm on holiday with sister and cousin and we are going today to a small cute little island

Is it Love Island? It seems like there are similar levels of brainpower involved.

diddl · 23/06/2021 18:36

Why didn't you go to collect the car with your cousin Op?

Really though if she had have cancelled & come back & said it hadn't worked with the car-so what?

thatsnotgoingtowork2 · 23/06/2021 18:39

This sounds so hurtful and perhaps not the kind of holiday you need. I hope you have good friends who don't make you feel this way.