Offered a new job, DH walked out

[NorthSew]

AIBU?

I have been working from home for the last 3 years.

Before this, my DH and I ran a business together for 6 years (I was more a silent partner.)

Recently, I've been offered a job at the local university- a job I think I would really enjoy and excel in.

I told him over dinner and he said "oh I am sure you will make lots of new friends and meet new people."

To which I responded "it's not really about that, but, yes, it would be nice to make some friends."

I don't have many here.

He got up and walked through to the kitchen. Then left the house. When I heard him leaving I asked him where he was going but he didn't answer. It's possible he didn't hear me.

I feel stupid now.

Why do you feel stupid?

What do you think he'll be like when he gets back? Is he a sulker? Is he controlling?

Congratulations on your new job! is your husband always a dick?

Eh? Why would you feel stupid when he’s the one behaving really weirdly.

Congratulations OP! The new job sounds like a great opportunity for you. Ignore your killjoy jealous husband.

Don't feel stupid. I realise that is not the best advice ever - but just don't .

Eh? Are you sure his leaving the house was related to your job offer?

Imo your job is a step closer to getting rid of the deadweight...

Congratulations on your job offer. Why would he leave the house because of that though?

Has he always been a controlling and jealous man?

You should not feel stupid but you should be livid at his response. What the hell is that about? Does he feel threatened about you “meeting new people”? Would he prefer you to be lonely? This was a lovely moment for you. It should have been a lovely moment for him too. A moment for you both to share, a success, a milestone. Instead he ruins this for you, walks off and doesn’t answer you. We don’t need to tell you how very odd this is. I hope you know that you deserve so much more.

Oh for heaven's sake, what's he playing at?

Well you sound far from stupid.

Has he come back yet? Can you call him? Is he normally a freak?

Congratulations! It can be hard being isolated when wfh. Sounds like a great opportunity for you.

There must be more to his reaction than you getting a new job where you’ll meet new people? (That’s assuming he’s not usually a massive dickhead).

Was this the first time you had mentioned it?

Why do you feel stupid?

He’s being stupid. And weird and controlling and basically behaving like he’s either having a MH episode or he’s a nasty childish little dickwad.

Take the job. Meet new people.

He obviously wants a silent partner forever.

That’s a really strange thing for him to do but if it is connected then it reinforces to me that you should definitely take the job.
Please don’t feel stupid. You have done nothing wrong.

I take it he is the jealous type?

Has liked you inside not meeting new people?

Or seemed to be ok with it, then got moody so you felt bad about it?

That's about the most insecure behaviour I've ever heard.

You say you don't have many friends, us that because of him?

So for the last 3 years have you been employed by someone else, not your husband?

Perhaps he just went to the shops or somewhere else and it is nothing to do with you getting a job. That's what I would assume anyway.

Surely there is a major back story here?

Has he gone to buy some fizz and flowers? I know that may be clutching at straws....

WTF. Unless he has some rational explanation, this is a real concern.

Well done on getting a good job you'll enjoy.
Now, how could you improve your life in other ways?