Offered a new job, DH walked out

[NorthSew]

AIBU?

I have been working from home for the last 3 years.

Before this, my DH and I ran a business together for 6 years (I was more a silent partner.)

Recently, I've been offered a job at the local university- a job I think I would really enjoy and excel in.

I told him over dinner and he said "oh I am sure you will make lots of new friends and meet new people."

To which I responded "it's not really about that, but, yes, it would be nice to make some friends."

I don't have many here.

He got up and walked through to the kitchen. Then left the house. When I heard him leaving I asked him where he was going but he didn't answer. It's possible he didn't hear me.

I feel stupid now.

Congratulations on the job offer! Does he have form for sulking?

This is very confusing. Is it because he doesn't want you to make new friends or leave the home? If so, you need to leave him, that's no way to live.

If there’s a backstory or a history of similar behaviour then please clue us in because there’s not enough info.

Is he sulking? He needs to grow up and congratulate you!

Well unless he's popped out to buy you chocolates, flowers or champagne to congratulate you. He's an insecure dick & you deserve more respect

Congratulations on your fantastic news

Controlling, although I am sure you know this. Best of luck OP, I expect he will sulk and guilt you to the point you don't accept

Congrats on the job.

Sounds like he doesn't want you leaving the house and mingling with other people/potentially men.

He's the one being not just stupid, but controlling.

Seems like the OP has gone out to find him

How very peculiar.

Don't feel stupid. If he's any good he'll be out buying fizz, flowers & chocolates.

Don’t feel stupid. He is the one behaving oddly.

I got a new job recently. I did a morning of tasks, was sent home to wait. When they called me back to interview later that day, my husband put a bottle of champagne in the fridge without me knowing to be prepared. That is how normal people work. They are happy for one another’s successes. Unless he’s come back with flowers and champagne, you need a little chat.

Congratulations on your new job!

5 pages and still no op?

Congratulations on your lovely news OP

Did he know you were applying for the job? If so was he supportive then?

Congratulations OP, I'm so sorry you got this reaction from him. I really recognise his behaviour from my ex so I know just what you are feeling right now.

I wish there was something I could say that would make you realise you don't have to live like this anymore, maybe today or maybe tomorrow but sometime in the future you will realise you are awesome and you life can be too

Has he come back?

Well, if he’s sulking, this shows why you need an independent source of income - because you have a husband problem.

gone to get a ball and chain to attach you to the kitchen sink...

Congratations OP. Can you let us know you are OK?

@JoyOrbison

Do you know how many middle aged men nip out the shop for wine and never come back?

Not enough.

Hope you're drinking some wine.

What a cock

So weird

He feels threatened. Ignore it.

Congratulations on your new job!

Sadly it sounds like your husband has enjoyed keeping you working from home for the last 9 years and is now very put out by you having any potential for a social life and friends outside his control.

Unless you're missing some info in your post

@Lndnmummy

Congratulations on your new job! is your husband always a dick?

Just what I wanted to write!

Huge congrats op!

Re you dh...unless he came back with champagne and flowers then I'm tempted to tell you to lock him out

Job is amazing news and you should go for it, live for yourself not just your husband. Is he always so condescending? Does he know its not the 1960s?

Whatever you do, op do not let him be the barometer of your self worth. He's punching and he knows it.