Offered a new job, DH walked out

[NorthSew]

AIBU?

I have been working from home for the last 3 years.

Before this, my DH and I ran a business together for 6 years (I was more a silent partner.)

Recently, I've been offered a job at the local university- a job I think I would really enjoy and excel in.

I told him over dinner and he said "oh I am sure you will make lots of new friends and meet new people."

To which I responded "it's not really about that, but, yes, it would be nice to make some friends."

I don't have many here.

He got up and walked through to the kitchen. Then left the house. When I heard him leaving I asked him where he was going but he didn't answer. It's possible he didn't hear me.

I feel stupid now.

@Branleuse

Why did he walk out? Is he not pleased for your successes?

Exactly this question.

I think more context is needed

YOU feel stupid? You feel stupid after your dh walked out when anyone normal would be cracking open the champagne?

Does he do things like that often?

Well done, op! I hope you really enjoy your new job.

I wonder if your husband is jealous.

There seems to be massive chunk of the story missing here.

Did he have no idea that you were applying for jobs? Was this a bombshell of sorts? Absolutely not excusing his behavior, but I'm trying to fathom his behavior. Guessing there's a big backstory as others have suggested.

Seeing his response to OP's great news..

there may be a good reason OP didn't share this interview with him.. he could sabotage her interview anything..

or...

maybe OP is like myself, and doesn't like to say anything until the jobs in the bag..

either way.. great news OP 🎉

Does he have issues with you having friends normally ?

Has he come back yet?

He's the stupid one but it looks like we're not going to find out what happened!

@MasterPretender

There seems to be massive chunk of the story missing here.

My thoughts too !.

I don't even really understand what happened here?

Is the issue he had no idea you were applying / accepting jobs? Is this a communication break down?

Was he upset you would meet new people and make friends because you are each other's only friend and do everything together?

Does he often just get up during dinner and leave the house? Did he come back? Was it maybe not even related - as in he just forgot he had left the car lights on?

Why do you feel stupid?

I feel like I am missing a lot of moving parts to this story...it certainly has mystery!

What is it with men nowadays, they all seem to behave like children. If he cannot be happy for you tell him he can keep right on walking. Pathetic behaviour from a grown supposedly adult man. Don't you dare feel bad, enjoy your new job and let him sulk like a toddler. If you let him away with this, he will ruin the rest of your life.

I'm taking it that he's controlling in other ways, too.

Take the job.
You might well need it, for your own security and money down the line.
If you don't have your own private bank account, you should open one asap.

Why do you feel stupid, that does not make sense.

He sounds like a complete and utter dick.

Congrats on the job!

Don't think the op is coming back.

Hopefully OP didn’t catch any trouble when he got home.

Congratulations and hope you’re ok this morning.

Congratulations on the job! What’s wrong with your husband?! Does he not want you to meet people or make friends?

Has he come back yet?

Has OP?

Will the OP come back or was this a wind up?

I think maybe the OP followed him and neither of them have come back.

What a prince among men! I would be unsure how to interpret this, but I am pleased for you being offered a job, and am sad he couldn’t see it that way.

Come back OP and tell us the rest of the story!