Offered a new job, DH walked out

[NorthSew]

AIBU?

I have been working from home for the last 3 years.

Before this, my DH and I ran a business together for 6 years (I was more a silent partner.)

Recently, I've been offered a job at the local university- a job I think I would really enjoy and excel in.

I told him over dinner and he said "oh I am sure you will make lots of new friends and meet new people."

To which I responded "it's not really about that, but, yes, it would be nice to make some friends."

I don't have many here.

He got up and walked through to the kitchen. Then left the house. When I heard him leaving I asked him where he was going but he didn't answer. It's possible he didn't hear me.

I feel stupid now.

Why do you feel stupid? It’s not clear op?

I mean it’s clear your husbands a wanker. But not why you feel stupid?

If that reaction to you getting a job , you absolutely need to take the job.

He should be pleased for you.
He should have discussed any practical concerns
He should communicate.

Anything else is abusive and designed to make you second guess yourself.

You are not responsible for his reaction

Well there's clearly a back story here (that probably involves him being a a*hole) so what is it

Does he want you at home isolated from other people ?

Is this usual behaviour from him?

Congratulations on getting a fantastic new job. Please don't let this jealous arsehole put you off taking it. I WFH for many years and it was really lonely. Get out and meet a load of lovely people - make old misery guts even more jealous - he's a big ole fucking baby.

Why did he walk out? Is he not pleased for your successes?

What wonderful news.

Pity your husband doesn't see that.

If that is who he is, this will be a wonderful first step away for you.

That’s pretty poor OP. How are things generally with him?

He's jealous and insecure. Congratulations on your new job, make sure you take it. This is his issue, don't let him spoil your achievements.

Is there any chance he has gone out to get you some flowers or a bottle of wine to celebrate?

Has he popped out for Prosecco? Or
Had you already mentioned you'd run out of milk/cat food?

Did he know you applied for the job?

This is very odd.

Maybe he's gone to buy a bottle of champagne?

He sounds like a bit of a dickhead

I would be very happy of OP posts that Dh has come back with a bottle of bubbly.....

How likely is that OP?

Does he have form for being a jealous controlling arsehole?

Has he done anything like this before?

Did he make the comment sarcastically or was it just said like normal conversation?

Very weird of him just to walk out either way, fingers crossed its tl buy 🍾

He sounds very strange.

I’m so confused, am I missing something? Why would he be annoyed about you meeting new people/ getting a new job? Why do you feel stupid? What could you have done differently to make yourself feel less stupid?? I don’t get it. Is he normally controlling?

Wow! What's his problem??

@Lndnmummy

You should not feel stupid but you should be livid at his response. What the hell is that about? Does he feel threatened about you “meeting new people”? Would he prefer you to be lonely? This was a lovely moment for you. It should have been a lovely moment for him too. A moment for you both to share, a success, a milestone. Instead he ruins this for you, walks off and doesn’t answer you. We don’t need to tell you how very odd this is. I hope you know that you deserve so much more.

Could not agree with this more. What a pathetic, controlling man child.

Are you sure the two events are connected? Based upon your post I wouldn't connect the dots. Congrats on the new job!

Wow he sounds supportive. I think if that was his reaction to you working independently from him then you definitely need this job.

Congratulations

Your husband is a controlling arse who is punishing you for daring to live your life

Why do you feel stupid OP, not sure why that's the first emotion you mention