DH pulled my skirt up - AIBU to feel angry?

[Undecidedandtorn]

Just before getting indoors from a trip out today my husband pulled my dress up and flashed my pants. He said that he had checked and there wasn't anyone coming down the street who could see (which I of course didn't know) but when I turned around there were some people up the road - he said they were too far away to see but I'm not 100% sure this is true (I'm 99% sure its true).

Its been about 3 hours and I am still really angry about this even though he has apologised. AIBU?

Why did he do this?

YANBU and entitled to how you feel. I hope he's genuinely sorry that he upset you and knows not to do it again.

Why did he do this? That is school boy (bad) behaviour. I would also be angry, it isn't funny just embarrassing.

What's he usually like - is he usually respectful towards you?

Why? Does he usually mess with your clothing in public? What was he trying to achieve?

Really sorry OP. That sounds really uncomfortable and just quite strange! Did he explain why he did it? Was it to give him ‘a thrill’ (not that this makes it okay!) or because he thought you’d enjoy it too??

Apologising is not a get-out-of-jail-free card to deliberately try to humiliate your spouse. Is this out of character?

Who on earth has voted that @Undecidedandtorn is unreasonable to be upset at this?

Regardless of whether there were other people there or not, he shouldn't have done that.

Is he 6?

Jesus how old is he? Who does that after the age of nine?

What an arse.

That's seriously creepy OP, how long have you known this arsehole, has he always been this way?

WTF? Why would he do that?

I would be fucking fuming. Hours, days, weeks, years later.

Incredibly creepy . I'd be incandescent at anyone, never mind my dh, imagining I'd be entertained by that.

@SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius

Who on earth has voted that *@Undecidedandtorn* is unreasonable to be upset at this?

I haven't voted but there are shades between upset and 'still angry after an apology and several hours'... It was a stupid and immature prank but what - now he can never be forgiven?

You’re entitled to feel the way you do and just because he’s apologised it doesn’t mean you have to forgive and forget if you’re not ready to.

Does he have form for treating you like a piece of meat? He’s out of order either way but wondered if this was out of character.

now he can never be forgiven?

Not if she doesn't want to forgive him.

Bodily autonomy is a red line for me. If may be for the OP. Sometimes sorry doesn't cut it.

I do think that pranks often mask behaviour that is unacceptable and nasty. Then if you don't laugh it off you're a joyless harridan. Instead of pointing out that humiliation isn't funny and pranks where only one person is laughing are mean.

What a fucking twat. Has he apologised or just made you feel silly for caring?

I’m sure he won’t do it again OP. You’ve made this clear to him so now I’d move on, to be entirely honest.

I voted yanbu but when will you forgive him?

He's apologised now but it's too bloody late! How dare he do this!
It's not OK and if you are staying with him you need to do childlike boundaries Op because an adult would know this isn't OK.

Why did he do this? Has he done things like this before, or things that make you feel uncomfortable?

YANBU

Why would a grown adult who is meant to care about you do that?

Thinking about the PP’s asking how long till you forgive him. Personally if DH did that he’d have to grovel long and hard.
Does he do things like this often? Where you feel humiliated and upset and he dismisses it as ‘messing around’ and a sorry?

@Vallmo47

I’m sure he won’t do it again OP. You’ve made this clear to him so now I’d move on, to be entirely honest.

What makes you sure?