DH pulled my skirt up - AIBU to feel angry?

[Undecidedandtorn]

Just before getting indoors from a trip out today my husband pulled my dress up and flashed my pants. He said that he had checked and there wasn't anyone coming down the street who could see (which I of course didn't know) but when I turned around there were some people up the road - he said they were too far away to see but I'm not 100% sure this is true (I'm 99% sure its true).

Its been about 3 hours and I am still really angry about this even though he has apologised. AIBU?

At least he will be back in primary school tomorrow.

Pull his pants down next time. See how he likes it.

Can't vote as on phone but it would've been YANBU.

That was really imbecile and weird behaviour. Was he drunk? Has he done this sort of boundary-violating behaviour before? I'd have angrily not let him in to the house.

There's a lot of up-skirting going on at secondary schools at the moment. Boys taking photos under the skirts of girls going up the stairs and uploading to websites. I hope you don't have sons that saw that behaviour.

That was a dickish thing to do and I'd still be angry too. How does he know nobody was watching from a netted window? Even if he did know, it would have worried and embarrassed you.

Is he usually a prick? Be honest.

What A strange thing to do, very odd. He has apologised, try not to get too upset, he acted like a tit and hopefully he feels embarrassed.

It could be classed as assault. If a stranger came down the street and did it it would be.

Does he understand how serious this is?
Id be raging.

I think he thought it was a thrill? Like a bit sexy? He's never done this before (and won't ever again) in 20 years and normally not a jerk. Perhaps I'm also feeling a bit hot and not in the best of moods.

I’ve been with my husband for 16 years and he’s never done anything like this - not even in the house. We don’t even allow our children to ‘moon’ due to body autonomy.

I think it depends on what your relationship is normally like. Say a couple regularly did this sort of physical thing in a fun, sexy, playful way, and then the above incident happened and the affected party really didn't like it this time. They'd make that clear (which OP has) and the other person would apologise sincerely and never do that particular thing again. And that would be that.

Depends on how your relationship is.

If dh did that indoors he'd get a bollocking, let alone outside. How dare he. How would he feel if you sudenlty pulled his shorts down on the street?

That's seriously not cool.

You reacted far calmer than I would have done.............

YANBU. What a dick.
If my husband did this, I'd be furious and wonder what's next - bra strap twanging?

A bit juvenile but hardly a LTB situation.

@Livelovebehappy

A bit juvenile but hardly a LTB situation.

Nobody said it was? It's bloody pathetic though .

I think my reaction would have been to kick him in the cock

Yanbu. I'd be annoyed if DH did this in the privacy of our home let alone in the bloody street. Not cool

Assuming that you are normally not okay with this sort of behaviour then I’d have a talk and assume the dp misjudged the situation and let it go. If he does anything similar again (or has ignored your clear boundaries in the past) then that’s really disrespectful.

Side note: I wouldn't mind if my dp did this to me and he has definitely done similar, but he knows I’d be alright with it.

I'd be telling him very firmly that he is never to do that or anything like it ever again. And if he does, he'd be out.

@oioisaveloy108

Oh FGS

As usual MN over react

It totally depends on what your relationship is like.

No wonder so many men have affairs if women clearly turn into total fun sponges!

Op was supposed to be cool with this to avoid being a fun sponge? Ffs

If, in order to not become a "total fun sponge", I have to be subjected to my DH unexpectedly flashing my underwear to the neighbours, I'd rather be a fun sponge actually.

Fun for who exactly ?

No wonder so many men have affairs if women clearly turn into total fun sponges!

Wowowowowowowowowow!!

He sounds like a childish creep.

What a prick. I’d be really angry if my DH did this. Luckily I don’t think it’d ever cross his mind.

What an arse. He would have been in grave danger of a kick in the bollocks from me.