DH pulled my skirt up - AIBU to feel angry?

[Undecidedandtorn]

Just before getting indoors from a trip out today my husband pulled my dress up and flashed my pants. He said that he had checked and there wasn't anyone coming down the street who could see (which I of course didn't know) but when I turned around there were some people up the road - he said they were too far away to see but I'm not 100% sure this is true (I'm 99% sure its true).

Its been about 3 hours and I am still really angry about this even though he has apologised. AIBU?

@oioisaveloy108

Oh FGS

As usual MN over react

It totally depends on what your relationship is like.

No wonder so many men have affairs if women clearly turn into total fun sponges!

Not every woman wants to live in a shitty Carry On film.

No wonder so many men get left by women because they act like cunts.

OP is 99% sure there was no one around.
They were about to go inside.

Hardly as if he's pulling her top up in the middle of town packed with people.

God help your relationships if you can't have a bit of fun with each other

Reminds me of the time I was randomly walking down a busy london street with my now ex and out of nowhere he slapped me really hard on the bum! It was so weird and random even a man we was walking past went "ooohh wow" practically drooling, i was fuming! was very out of character.

Yeah, women should absolutely be ok with their partners trying to publicly humiliate them, otherwise they’ll just have an affair.

He didn’t moon you as your arse wasn’t on show. Just your pants.

It depends entirely on what the relationship is like but I actually laughed when I read your post.

Sorry OP but I think you’re over reacting a little. Maybe it was just a joke ? No one saw. 🤣🤣

He’s your husband not Mr bloggs from across the road

@waterlego

Yeah, women should absolutely be ok with their partners trying to publicly humiliate them, otherwise they’ll just have an affair.

Publicly humiliated?

Christ, I've heard it all now

Not every woman wants to live in a shitty Carry On film.

😆 👏🏻

I understand why you were upset to start with but all this seems like a massive over- reaction to me. He clearly misjudged a joke but was any real harm done?

If he did something so silly again, I would quite understand you being very angry. What exactly do you want him to do?

I would of pulled his trousers down in retaliation.

The only way I can possibly imagine Dh doing this is if he saw a massive hornet fly up there and was trying to rescue me. And even then I think he'd shout omg a hornet has gone up your skirt first!

In what possible way could it be sexy?!!

What an utter dick.

@oioisaveloy108

Oh FGS

As usual MN over react

It totally depends on what your relationship is like.

No wonder so many men have affairs if women clearly turn into total fun sponges!

Do you actually think it's acceptable for a man to have an affair because his partner objects to him publicly humiliating her?

I would possibly be mildly irritated by this

@JesusInTheCabbageVan

If a woman wants to remove all fun from a relationship, and start to jump to conclusions of public humiliation from a simple joke, then I'm not shocked at all if men stray.

I've never said it's acceptable or ok, but I'm not shocked

@oioisaveloy108, yes, I would find that humiliating, absolutely. I don’t think I’m the only one either.

I couldn’t be with someone with such an underdeveloped sense of humour. Personally, I like wit. Pulling someone’s dress up ain’t it.

I'm sure you'd enjoy it oioisaveloy. Very porn filmy

Some of us prefer a slightly more dignified and adult approach to life - which doesn't invoked flashing our underwear unexpectedly. I don't find my relationship has suffered

YANBU that is perverted and he was getting off on the idea that someone might see (without your consent.) Otherwise, he would've waited the few seconds until you got in.

He shouldn't do that without your consent even indoors, anyway.

Do you have a daughter op?
I wonder if he (and the oh so cool mners that think that you are overreacting) would feel the same if this was his daughter?

Oh ffs! I'd say, "oh ffs" if my partner did this and get him back later on with another prank. There was nobody to see.
But then again we have a sense of humous and we can have a laugh and act immaturely occasionally on our relationship 🙄

@Ilovegreentomatoes

🤣🤣 I have visions of this now

I can see both sides of this argument and it totally depends on the relationship, the context etc.

OP it was clearly a SHIT joke, when are you going to forgive him? If he’s a bit of a twat on the whole then this could be the final straw……

If he’s otherwise a great bloke and had a moment of madness just tell him never ever to try that again and just forgive him 🤣

And my relationship with my husband is full of fun and humour. We laugh together every day and have done for the 23 years we’ve been together. This has never involved trying to reveal each other’s underwear for larks.

I guess it depends on your relationship and context.

We're both pranksters so it's not something I'd be overly upset about, I'd laugh and plot revenge. I'd not see it as assault or humiliation, that sounds a bit extreme to me.

However, that's MY relationship. We both know what's within our own boundaries. What's okay for us, might not be okay for others.

@oioisaveloy108 so affairs happen because women aren’t ok with being exposed?
Are you a man?

If a woman wants to remove all fun from a relationship
That's a hell of a reach 🤔🤔. Are you privy to more intel than op has disclosed, perhaps? Are you the gobshite dh?

That’s really poor - from an adult it doesn’t feel like schoolboy thoughtlessness it feels like deliberate humiliation - or at the very least an attempt to make you feel sexually vulnerable. And quite frankly women have enough of that to put up with from men on the street.

I would reiterate this tomorrow in the cold light of day so he really fucking clear.

@SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius

Who on earth has voted that *@Undecidedandtorn* is unreasonable to be upset at this?

People who have VERY low bar when it comes to men’s behaviour.