To ask DH not to poo in our en-suite

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For several months now DH has had a bit of a dodgy tum. He’s under the GP and it’s looking likely he has IBS.

On top of excessive (foul smelling) wind and very frequent toilet trips, his shit absolutely stinks.

I’m not expecting roses, but it’s far far beyond a normal smell.

He can easily fill the whole house with a stench when he goes to the toilet, which could easily be mistaken for a rotten dead animal.

I’ve asked him very kindly, and considerately, if for the foreseeable, and whilst he’s tum is still causing him issues, if he could hold off using the en-suite for a poo.

It’s just awful when he goes and our bedroom stinks for hours; even with the windows open and lots of air fresheners.

He’s told me it’s easier to use out en-suite in the middle of the night and he prefers that toilet in general, but when he goes there have been times the smell has woken me up and I have to sleep on the couch because I’m gagging!!!

Poo-Pourri. Seriously. It will change your life

We have a no poo in the ensuite rule

This is why I never want an en-suite!

I feel for both of you in this situation

My grandma banishes my grandad downstairs for a poo. She (rightly) hates the smell. YANBU.

You are being unreasonable purely because with IBS/IBD time is often of the essence in getting there. Especially when it’s night time. It’s exhausting enough having to get up multiple times a night without having to go somewhere else.
There are things that can help, such as striking matches helps neutralise the smell.

Fgs no he can poo elsewhere. Would you want to sleep in a public loo?

Does it have a window?
If not he should strike a match.

Get some VIPoo spray.

Unreasonable to expect him to not use the most convenient loo in his own home when he’s suffering from such a condition as IBS.

@Trekkerbabe

Does it have a window? If not he should strike a match.

@Trekkerbabe

Yes, it does.

@OwlBeThere

You are being unreasonable purely because with IBS/IBD time is often of the essence in getting there. Especially when it’s night time. It’s exhausting enough having to get up multiple times a night without having to go somewhere else. There are things that can help, such as striking matches helps neutralise the smell.

Shes hardly making him go in the garden. Plenty of people don't have an ensuite

@HadaVerde

Get some VIPoo spray

Unfortunately even that is not enough to
solve this issue.

My DH has IBS and we have an en suite. Our toothbrushes are in there. He always has a really long morning poo in there :( I did get him to temporarily stop when I was pregnant and literally throwing up at the smell but he doesn't like being kicked out of the bathroom (as it's ours not his) so it seems I have to live with it. Luckily the smell doesn't leave the en suite with the door closed just horrible going in after!

Dear lord. Get over yourself.

For better for worse. In sickness and in health.

Buy better odour neutralisers.

Light a joss stick.

If he can make it elsewhere, he should, but if not then he needs an armoury of things to neutralise the smell. I know you say he's under the GP but has anyone started looking at his food triggers or suggested trying a fodmap diet?

YANBU he should show more consideration for you and use the main bathroom nit attached to your bedroom. No one wants to sleep in a room smelling of shit. If he won't change then I would make sure that you sort out comfortable alternative sleeping accommodation (bed in the dinning room etc) and use it. Any complaints from your DH tell him he knew how you felt and put his convenience before your ability to sleep comfortably in your own room.

Ugh I feel for you. My DH absolutely stinks at times. It foul.

My husband is only allowed to poo in one of our toilets. He has severe ibs too.

I literally couldn’t stand the smell of him so yea.

YANBU

@steff13

Poo-Pourri. Seriously. It will change your life

It's good stuff!!! Certainly worth a shot

If he can make it to another loo yes of course he should. I have IBD and unless I literally couldn't I wouldn't use the loo near somebody's head!!!

I don’t understand the point of having an en-suite you’re barred from pooing in

This is why DP would never want an en-suite. I feel for you though, mine farts constantly and sometimes if I go into a room he's in and he's had the door closed, I'm literally gagging on the smell 🤢

YANBU, I have IBS and I don't have an en suite. If I did I would try my best to make it to the main bathroom. I can't help having a dodgy tummy, but it's just basic manners to try to minimise the smell.

Have you tried Febreze spray? In my experience, it removes all the unpleasant smell, assuming the source of the smell has been removed/flushed away.

I have IBS and it is urgent, but I wouldn’t go in the en-suite overnight unless I was really ill. During the day I use the en-suite on purpose because it’s out of the way and keeps the family bathroom nicer for everyone else, but on a night I do the opposite. There has been a couple of occasions where it has been very frequent and urgent and DP has slept on the sofa so that I can manage it privately.

I wouldn’t take IBS as an excuse regularly!