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Two week holiday, family room, no sex

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Timetheworldsaysicantafford · 22/05/2021 22:40

We are looking to book a special holiday for 2022 to Walt Disney World - two young children, and after researching I think the best option for us would be a family room onsite rather than a villa with separate bedrooms. Husband is grumpy because that would mean no sex for two weeks. I'm frustrated because I don't see how that should be the main factor deciding this type of holiday?! Perspective needed!!

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Keepitonthedownlow · 22/05/2021 22:41

Two weeks in the same room sounds a bit claustrophobic to be honest

Merryoldgoat · 22/05/2021 22:43

Is it a room and nothing else? Or is it a suite with a separate living area?

tobedtoMNandfart · 22/05/2021 22:43

How sad that his desire to have his sexual demands met outweighs what is best for the family.

Mind you if he stays grumpy he'll be the least sexy man alive so possibly this problem might resolve itself?...

SussexCharm2000 · 22/05/2021 22:44

When kids are asleep take a bath or shower together … worked for us ❤️

FilthyforFirth · 22/05/2021 22:44

We are looking at WDW for next year. Can you stay in one of the suites that I believe have a sitting room separate to the bedroom? They tend to have them at the budget end, so Pop Century etc.

AnneLovesGilbert · 22/05/2021 22:45

Do it in the bathroom.

Hardchoices · 22/05/2021 22:45

One room for a few nights would be hard - for a fortnight sounds absolutely awful. The amount of stuff everywhere, noise, etc is going to be terrible. Never mind the sex issue!

rookiemere · 22/05/2021 22:45

We've always booked somewhere with separate sleeping areas. For WDW have you investigated suite hotels/condos ? Cheaper than a villa but means you get your own bedroom.

Macncheeseballs · 22/05/2021 22:45

Kids clubs in the day?

Lemons1571 · 22/05/2021 22:46

Can’t you find a 2 bed apartment somewhere like orange club vacations, that’s really near to the parks? Probably has a shuttle to the parks as well?

Poptart4 · 22/05/2021 22:46

Sulking because he may have to go 2 weeks without sex would be a HUGE turn off for me. It's a once off 2 week period, he needs to get over it.

WorraLiberty · 22/05/2021 22:47

@Hardchoices

One room for a few nights would be hard - for a fortnight sounds absolutely awful. The amount of stuff everywhere, noise, etc is going to be terrible. Never mind the sex issue!
This!

If you can afford something other than a family room, do it for your own sanity.

Taswama · 22/05/2021 22:47

I agree with him. I'd rather have 1 week with my own bedroom than 2 weeks sharing. I don't understand why people go on holiday to somewhere where things are worse than their normal living accommodation.

SunIsComing · 22/05/2021 22:48

If it’s a Disney hotel, it will be fine! No issue at all being with kids. They’ll be knackered and fall asleep and you can have shower sex. Don’t compromise by staying off site.

iknowimcoming · 22/05/2021 22:48

Are you looking for holiday advice or marriage advice OP?

fairynick · 22/05/2021 22:48

I don’t think having sex should be the main factor, but it would be a factor for me.
I love my DP very much, and I love having sex on holidays abroad.
I would obviously rather go on holiday and not have sex, than not go on holiday at all - but surely you can come to a compromise?

Branleuse · 22/05/2021 22:49

2 weeks, all in one room. No way. Whats the price difference?

AugustMummyxo · 22/05/2021 22:49

Eughh, this had actually made me say FFS out loud. How incredibly childish does he sound. I'm sure he won't die of depravation Confused

hippopootamus · 22/05/2021 22:50

You are supposed to have more sex than normal on holiday, not less!

AugustMummyxo · 22/05/2021 22:51

@hippopootamus

On a holiday to Disney which is mainly for the kids? Hmm

HermioneWeasley · 22/05/2021 22:52

We always go villa - 2 weeks even in a large room is too claustrophobic

JM10 · 22/05/2021 22:52

We stayed 2 weeks at wdw last year all in one room and we barely spent any time in the room, so I wouldn't worry about the people saying being stuck in a room will be miserable anyway.

I did think about not being able to have sex and I saw people saying do it in the bathroom, but to be honest 2 weeks is nothing really and we were tied every night anyway.

IHaveBrilloHair · 22/05/2021 22:52

I wouldn't, not because of the sex thing but you'll be squished in.
Could you do a week on property and then a week off?

ittakes2 · 22/05/2021 22:52

Its really better to be onsite.
Its really just how your family works - we have 14 year old twins and we still get one bedroom family rooms because its much cheaper than two bedrooms. Its what we have always done and always worked for us.

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Timetheworldsaysicantafford · 22/05/2021 22:53

I think it's actually just helpful to see a variety of responses - which help me step back a bit! It's not a general issue in our relationship. I really want to stay onsite so willing to compromise on the room as I figured we'll barely be there... He'd rather compromise on location

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