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Two week holiday, family room, no sex

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Timetheworldsaysicantafford · 22/05/2021 22:40

We are looking to book a special holiday for 2022 to Walt Disney World - two young children, and after researching I think the best option for us would be a family room onsite rather than a villa with separate bedrooms. Husband is grumpy because that would mean no sex for two weeks. I'm frustrated because I don't see how that should be the main factor deciding this type of holiday?! Perspective needed!!

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IHaveBrilloHair · 26/05/2021 06:46

OMGGrin

Itstheprinciple · 26/05/2021 06:54

It is a amazing holiday. Yes it's busy because there's so much to do and it's so expensive to get there and most people only get to go once in a blue moon so try to cram as many experiences in as possible, but we also factored in pool time and mall time as a chill out away from the parks. We went to the Kennedy Space Centre, gosh that was amazing. It actually made me really emotional at times. I went to Seaworld in 2001, but we chose not to go in 2019 as we felt much more aware of the issues.

Mumofsend · 26/05/2021 07:14

My experience of WDW is being far too tired and disgustingly sweaty and sticky for sex to be even remotely appealing

Littlefluffyclouds13 · 26/05/2021 07:24

@Mumofsend

My experience of WDW is being far too tired and disgustingly sweaty and sticky for sex to be even remotely appealing
Sounds bloody awful!!! 😂
knittingaddict · 26/05/2021 08:02

@Mumofsend

My experience of WDW is being far too tired and disgustingly sweaty and sticky for sex to be even remotely appealing
Air con? It's everywhere in Florida.
Quartz2208 · 26/05/2021 08:04

Its the exact opposite it is actually so amazing and so much to do (in Orlando not just WDW Universal's Harry Potter is just like being there) that you kind of go you know what I am here for two weeks I can do all the other things for 351 days of the year that the priority is making sure you experience everything there is to offer - including some amazing dining experiences.

DH and I have been together long enough to know that 2 weeks is nothing in the grand scheme of our relationship and we can easily catch up when we are home and the children are catching up on their sleep

SwimBaby · 26/05/2021 08:27

We went for a week, we stayed at a universal studio hotel for a couple of nights for the early entry (definitely worth it). We also went on airboats and saw alligators and did a day trip to the Kennedy Centre which was amazing. We then went on a Caribbean cruise.

rookiemere · 26/05/2021 08:59

I suppose it depends on what your priorities are. DH and I have busy lives ( not so much over the past year) so we see holidays as a chance to reconnect as a couple as well as a family.

I'm genuinely shocked by posters who seem to think that a faithful DH is some sort of disgusting predatory pest because he'd like to have intimate relations with his DW when they are on holiday. To us - and that includes me as well - being on holiday includes having sex together.

Branleuse · 26/05/2021 09:00

On the basis of this thread, i looked up taking my kids to DLP for a couple of days and it was already looking to be around the 2k. 2 weeks in frorida to be exhausted, cramped into one room amd apparently dirty and sticky and no sex sounds more like an expensive endurance test.
I quite like a theme park but why the hell for so long and so expensive?

rookiemere · 26/05/2021 09:03

@Branleuse £2k ( hollow laugh) ? That's before the park tickets, you'd be very frugal indeed to do WDW for under £5k. Park tickets to WDW alone are £439 for the over 10s for a fortnight ( same price for a week).

Branleuse · 26/05/2021 09:10

[quote rookiemere]@Branleuse £2k ( hollow laugh) ? That's before the park tickets, you'd be very frugal indeed to do WDW for under £5k. Park tickets to WDW alone are £439 for the over 10s for a fortnight ( same price for a week).[/quote]
Not surprised. That was just the paris one too.

I wouldnt mind going one day, but when you can do a fortnights (decent) holiday that the entire family will enjoy for less than two nights at disney, I just cant see how majority of people on an average wage could do it and not feel ripped off.
Theres some really good theme parks out there too

SwimBaby · 26/05/2021 09:28

More like 10k

theleafandnotthetree · 26/05/2021 10:00

@Serpenta

This thread has made Disney holidays seem like the least appealing thing. No sex, no relaxation, no fun.
Agreed...heat, exhaustion, 'shattered' tired, too tired for sex, etc, etc. Jeez if you're going all that way why not sign up for a chain gang and be done with it.
theleafandnotthetree · 26/05/2021 10:02

@Wearegoingtoneedabiggerboat

Has this Prince amongst men ever actually been on a two week holiday to Disney world before. It’s a flippin endurance test not a relaxing romantic holiday. Number one priority is to collapse In bed and get a good night sleep before walking up ridiculously early to relive the torture again for another 12 hours. He’s being ridiculous alone for thinking sex is any where on the list of priorities
And now it's an endurance test! Why the hell do people put themselves through this, at enormous expense to boot.
Loveacoseynightin · 26/05/2021 10:24

Believe it or not Disney is actually a fun holiday. There is plenty to do and see across central Florida.

Disney
universal
Sea world
Busch Gardens
Kennedy Space Centre
gator land

4hr drive to the Everglades.

I would always go with the Villa option for space alone.

Branleuse · 26/05/2021 10:26

would he be more or less of a bastard if he refused to do this hellish family holiday at all, rather than just insisted he wanted to stay off site in an apartment rather than a family room?

Blossomtoes · 26/05/2021 12:06

I'm genuinely shocked by posters who seem to think that a faithful DH is some sort of disgusting predatory pest because he'd like to have intimate relations with his DW when they are on holiday. To us - and that includes me as well - being on holiday includes having sex together

Same here. And nothing on this thread would sell this “holiday” to me. It sounds like a fortnight long endurance test. I’m really glad I never had the money to do it when my kids were young.

Serpenta · 26/05/2021 12:09

some people are so repulsed by the idea of an adult who would like to have sex whilst on holiday.

IHaveBrilloHair · 26/05/2021 12:21

Husbands who want to have sex with their wives on holiday fucking nasty bastarding creeps.
Oh no, hang on...

Quartz2208 · 26/05/2021 13:44

An Orlando holiday is like eggs there are many different ways of doing it, on site/off site (Disney and Universal), hotels. villas, split stays, visits to the beach. In which (including onsite) there are options that arent just family rooms. There are many ways of doing it that can get sex in if you wish.

It isnt a hellish family holiday at all. Indeed if you get a good flight deal and hotel (of which there are many suite hotels) it is cheaper than the Balerics/Canaries and has good weather all year round. It is n't just the parks

Lavender201 · 26/05/2021 13:52

I’ve not read the whole thread, so I’m sure many people have already said this...

You have sex in the bathroom while the kids are sleeping. They usually have really nice bathrooms on Disney property. It’s not an issue!

bigbaggyeyes · 26/05/2021 14:03

Is he going to be a grumpy arse all fortnight and ruin the holiday because he can't have sex? If that's the case I think the holiday is the least of your worries. His attitude stinks tbh.

There are always ways round it. A quickie in the shower, kids clubs, when they are asleep etc.

Kteeb1 · 26/05/2021 14:17

Everyone's relationship is different. The way mine is, the children's happiness it important, but we make sure we have quality time together too. It's so easy to lose each other and focus on other things. Holidays are a way to reconnect, so for me, if this was the only holiday we were having that year (and it would be given the cost) then ensuring you have provisions for adult time. That would mean not all sharing a room if we could possibly help it. Or if we couldn't, which had actually happened when we went to Greece, we ensured we had a balancony to go to. This isn't just about sex, but alone time talking, having a glass of wine etc. Ensuring we have that is just as important as giving the kids a great holiday. In fact, making sure we have adult time makes us better parents.

FaceAcher · 26/05/2021 14:24

Also this seat in the shower served us quite well.....

Two week holiday, family room, no sex
rookiemere · 26/05/2021 15:02

@FaceAcher the mind boggles Grin!