Two week holiday, family room, no sex

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We are looking to book a special holiday for 2022 to Walt Disney World - two young children, and after researching I think the best option for us would be a family room onsite rather than a villa with separate bedrooms. Husband is grumpy because that would mean no sex for two weeks. I'm frustrated because I don't see how that should be the main factor deciding this type of holiday?! Perspective needed!!

Ltb

You will be fine in a family room. Loads of people do it- that's why disney have these rooms! You'll be that knackered after your theme park days anyway, I bet you won't care! I wouldn't give this issue too much attention. Politely tell your husband he's welcome to cough up for another room if he wants but you'd rather the money be spent on nice meals or theme park tickets or whatever!
I'm hoping to go this year too, was cancelled last year so moved it and now still not sure if we will get. We are staying off site on international drive. Lots of people say it's crap staying off site but i still think it will be a brilliant holiday. Its your holiday, with your family so just book what works for you and your budget!

So your kids crash out at 7 and that means that the two of you then sit quietly until your own bedtime?

And you do this every night for a full fortnight?

Sounds majorly unappealing. A holiday should be a holiday for ALL members of the family.

@Stompythedinosaur

Christ, how unattractive! He's perfectly allowed to have a wank if he really can't bear it, but expecting his cock to come higher up the pecking order than your dc on a holiday to disneyland is pretty special.

such a weird response

@PremierSmeage

I couldn't be arsed with paying extra for a bedroom shag.

Floor? Balcony? Bath??

Balcony? That would get them a second degree felony in the state of Florida, and if it was seen by a minor would have an aggravating factor too.

Your children will have such exciting, happy and active cays they will sleep like logs, op, so no need to worry. I expect your bathroom will be warm and comfortable. You could put a duvet and bath sheet on the floor and have some fun or, if the room is a reasonable size and the children's beds are not right next to you, have a quiet but intense one in bed while they sleep.

Having said all that, your husband sounds extremely immature and lacking in self control, I'd find it very difficult to cope with that sort of attitude, as if sex is a' right'. Two weeks without sex is nothing for many married couples with young children. Think how much you will enjoy it when you get home (I hope).

Having a family room makes sense when kids are small.

I hope you have a lovely time, it's my idea of a nightmare to go to Disney but I know most kids really enjoy it.

Sometimes you have to take one for the team, tell your husband that. Then remind him that sex is only one part of a marriage and sulking about temporary lack of it is very unattractive.

So your kids crash out at 7 and that means that the two of you then sit quietly until your own bedtime?

We had a balcony in our Disney hotel room, I think all the rooms did.
We sat out watching the sunset, having a drink and looking at the safari animals roaming around.
It was very pleasant.
We go to bed pretty early because we were v tired and the days were very busy though!

Absolutely bizarre to see people accusing your husband of prioritising his penis over his family.

It’s entirely normal and healthy to love and desire your spouse and prefer to be able to have sex than not. I can’t imagine what relationships people are enduring where simply expressing that is disgusting or selfish.

If there’s no other option that’s fine. But if there is - I’d prefer a separate bedroom for a range of reasons, including being able to have sex in the context of a loving, healthy marriage.

We plan to take our 2 to do Disney/universal in years to come and had the same convo. DH assumed they’d be in a separate room but honestly the price difference of having 2 rooms for a 2 week stay really puts me off! Easily £2.5-3k extra and that’s in a mid range hotel like yacht club. Not taking into account trusting 2 under 11’s and extra tips for cleaning...etc

Suggested we drop down to one of the budget hotels like AOA or pop century where you can get family suits with living spaces but DH not interested.

I’d honestly rather go 2 weeks without sex than pay up to 4K more. Plus all the parents I know who have been said they same thing, it’s a fab but totally exhausting holiday and they were passed out as soon as the kids were on a night 😂

There are a million kids clubs though so maybe suggest to DH that you stick the kids in a couple of those over the course of 2 weeks and give yourselves a couple of hours free in the room

I’ve stayed in a Disney hotel for a week - space issue is fine. You’ll be too tired anyway!!!

@hippopootamus

You are supposed to have more sex than normal on holiday, not less!

This! I can't believe some of the responses. Poor bloke, why is he wrong for being disappointed that he can't have sex while on holiday? I'd be gutted!

I would hate it! Not just because of the no sex but what exactly are you meant to do once the kids are in bed? Unless they are going to be going to bed at 10 every night or whatever time you do, you can’t even sit and have a drink together (I’ve missed how old they are). It will be reading silently with a night light. Holidays should be fun for everyone.

[quote AugustMummyxo]@hippopootamus

On a holiday to Disney which is mainly for the kids? [/quote]
Jeez, unclench a bit! I don't suppose they were planning to leave the kids by the pool while they had a three some

I much prefer a villa in Florida - I couldn’t cope with a small hotel room for 3wks (which is how long we go for). Having a washer / dryer is so helpful as don’t need to take loads of clothes and kids love the pool / pool table. Means we can eat in some nights too and spend less on meals. I can see your husbands point, if there’s another option like a villa why not go with that? Everyone’s happy then

I've been to Disney quite a few times, with children, when I was married. For two weeks I'd highly recommend a villa or apartment with a pool, so you can have some more chilled out days. As well as more space, and laundry facilities in a villa. And your own bedroom so some privacy. And sex! Sex is lovely on holiday.

People mentioning heat - there's air conditioning! Don't underestimate the amount of walking you'll do, the parks are vast. If your children are young and not used to walking that much, they'll need a break. I highly recommend Thedibb site and the accompanying book for planning purposes, and the maps.

I can remember sharing hotel rooms with my parents when I was a child and I hated it.

Just be quiet, subtle and discrete. How did people DTD in the old days when everyone was in one room for a large % of population?

Hahaha love it. I'd rather be on site as it's literally going to be a base for you all saves alot if messing as your no spending a fortune to go Disney just to have sex sorry !

BUT I will say, you do have a bathroom when kids are occupied and busy or even kids club once or twice if they have it. This is what we kind of worked out ! Mind you it wasn't every day but it worked for us.

I'm with husband- holidays are a time to relax and reconnect even if it's Disney it doesn't need to be all about the kids. Not just the sex as you might be too tired some days anyway with such a holiday but even sitting having a drink and a chat together or read a book in each other's company once the dc are in bed. Can't really do any of that stuck in one room in a hotel.

I wouldn’t be happy with the prospect of no sex for two weeks. I’m not happy now, cause I fancy some and he’s still asleep😂

But, I’m pretty inventive and have used the bathroom previously.

Must admit the very idea of Disney is not great for me personally, so I’d definitely need sex to take my mind off it.
I also think if we’re equating fancying fish and chips with sex, we’re doing it wrong😂

@tara66

Just be quiet, subtle and discrete. How did people DTD in the old days when everyone was in one room for a large % of population?

Everyone just pretended it wasn’t happening. But they knew

Regardless of sex, a fortnight in one room sounds about awful and no holiday at all. We had a couple of long weekends like that when DS was young and we all hated them. Since then every holiday we have had at least two rooms

@MsTSwift

We had a California holiday our self catering apartment was a short drive from Disney. We went for 2 days and all agreed that was more than enough. It wasn’t the highlight of the holiday either.

Somewhat related to the thread, since I see people referencing California and Disneyland, OP stated she’s going to Walt Disney World, which is in Florida, and over 50 times the size of Disneyland. So no worries about OP trying to spend two weeks at Disneyland.

Also, re: Florida heat. Maybe OP is booking in winter. I couldn’t go there except in the winter, as I’d be ill. People mention how much walking you’ll be doing in the heat, but Florida is hotter than it was even 10 years ago. Now in summer, the average temperature in Orlando where Disney is located is 33 and with humidity, it’s a heat index of 38 to 39; with that type of heat and humidity, you can end up with headaches, dehydration (drinking even endless water isn’t enough, you have to rehydrate like a sport), and serious heatstroke.

@Ericaequites

Florida is Hell with worse food and less interesting people. Why not go to Boston, visit civilized historic attractions, and enjoy a much better climate?

"Sorry kids remember that holiday you're really excited for? Well we've changed our mind on our destination because of some sneery rando on mumsnet! We're now going to see some MUSEUMS! Yay!"

Behave yourself 😂

Would the children be happy sharing a room with mum and dad, being used to a room either together or on their own?

Disney holiday are jam packed busy- you will not be in the room at all, except for sleeping- days will be spent at the parks or by the pool in your hotel, or doing other local sightseeing- NASA space station is a must for any Florida holiday with kids!

It never bothered me saying a family room with my dd- we kept her a bit later and when she was asleep DH and I would either share a bottle of wine and chat or play cards on the balcony or read in bed with the lights down low. When she was old enough to be left alone in the room we might have had a drink in the hotel bar. If we fancied a bit of a kiss, cuddle or sex etc. then we did it quietly when she was fast asleep.

Not a big deal.