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Two week holiday, family room, no sex

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Timetheworldsaysicantafford · 22/05/2021 22:40

We are looking to book a special holiday for 2022 to Walt Disney World - two young children, and after researching I think the best option for us would be a family room onsite rather than a villa with separate bedrooms. Husband is grumpy because that would mean no sex for two weeks. I'm frustrated because I don't see how that should be the main factor deciding this type of holiday?! Perspective needed!!

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OnTheBrink1 · 22/05/2021 23:30

@KittyKatChonky

All these people who can’t handle sleeping in the same room as their children for a short period of time Grin get a grip
I really can’t because I just can’t sleep when they are in the same room. Literally am laying awake all night. It’s horrible
user1471457751 · 22/05/2021 23:32

@AugustMummyxo yes the OP says she has research and this this room is the best option but that doesn't mean her husband has to agree with her. He is allowed a difference of opinion and to think a villa is a better idea.

We went to WDW when I was 6. We had a villa and it was fantastic. We spent a couple of days not in the parks just playing the pool. The children will probably need a couple of relaxed days

user1487194234 · 22/05/2021 23:33

Also we go to WDW every 2nd year,and really although we always have a great time,let’s be honest it’s for the DC
I need a bit of us time at night

Ginandplatonic · 22/05/2021 23:34

@AugustMummyxo who made you the thread police? OP asked for different viewpoints and everyone else’s is just as valid as yours.

Here’s mine - I’m in the “2 weeks crowded into a small family room tiptoeing around the kids all evening sounds like he’ll on earth” camp. I would do half on site, half in a more spacious villa. And I (and my kids) would need a few relaxing pool days in between the park madness.

But we’re all different - if you think this will work for you tell your husband to grow up and deal with it.

partyatthepalace · 22/05/2021 23:42

Well you are going on holiday, so it’s reasonable to imagine that you will be relaxed and having more sex than usual.

If there’s a sitting room is there a pull out you can use? Otherwise can you stay close by rather than on-site?

AugustMummyxo · 22/05/2021 23:42

@user1471457751 the difference being the OP has weighed up what's best for their family holiday. The husbands different opinion is based on how much sex he can get...

FinallyFluid · 22/05/2021 23:43

In the voice of Mrs Merton...........

And was this the moment you realised you were married to a man child....

AugustMummyxo · 22/05/2021 23:44

@Ginandplatonic ooooh I must have missed the post where I was awarded the role!! Thanks for informing me Smile

GabsAlot · 22/05/2021 23:50

we always went away and stayed in the same room as our parents i dont see the big deal abut being squished in youre hardly there

HollowTalk · 22/05/2021 23:53

But it's pretty obvious that most people have more sex on holidays because they're relaxed, perhaps had a couple of drinks, no worries about work or housework etc. And it's not just sex if you're sharing a room - you can't chat, watch a movie together... Why shouldn't he want some adult time on his holiday?

CherryBerryx · 23/05/2021 00:01

I can't believe how many people think going two weeks without sex is torture. There's nothing quite like discussing a family holiday and making the priority about how often the adults can have sex.

OP I suggest you pick whatever room you think will be better for your kids and not for the greater good of your husbands penis. It's not going to fall off.

AntiSocialDistancer · 23/05/2021 00:01

I don't really think his desire to have sex should trump the value you all have over your holiday.

Having said that if the kids are very young and exhausted after long thrilling days the evenings might feel very tiresome if you have to turn all the lights off and sit in the dark drinking wine at night!

Perhaps you might be able to find some compromise?

Flibbitygibbit · 23/05/2021 00:03

Two weeks at Disney /universal you’ll be asleep as your head hits the pillow 🤣 anyway if he’d ok with driving look at Bahama Bay in Davenport. Two /three bed apartments. Absolutely fab. On Facebook you so book direct with the owners for around £1000 for 2 weeks. Just saying 🤷‍♀️

pointythings · 23/05/2021 00:04

We did 2 weeks in WDW in 2013 and had a family room. We were in it so little that it really didn't matter at all.

CimCardashian · 23/05/2021 00:10

You’re going to Disney.... you’ll be way too knackered for sex!

bellsbuss · 23/05/2021 00:13

Ok couldn't go 2 weeks without being intimate with OH, bedroom away from the children for me.

UrAWizHarry · 23/05/2021 00:16

@KittyKatChonky

All these people who can’t handle sleeping in the same room as their children for a short period of time Grin get a grip
Two weeks sleeping in the same room as two young kids would be fucking dreadful. Constantly having to be careful about noise/light etc, having to basically be silent from 7pm/8pm? Yeah... no thanks.
HoppingPavlova · 23/05/2021 00:17

We used to get a family room as preference when kids little and we could all fit. When they got older right through to end of teens we would always book 2 family rooms and 1 parent would stay in each room. Our holidays were generally 4-6 weeks (preference was for one long infrequently rather than several short). DH didn’t sulk.

Even if we go away now and can persuade a kid or two to join us we try for a family room rather than 2 rooms.

What if you became ill, had cancer treatment or similar and didn’t feel up for it, would he carry on and sulk? Doesn’t sound good if he’s childish over 2 weeks now.

IHaveBrilloHair · 23/05/2021 00:18

Oh I could handle it if I had to, but its far from a holiday and I wouldn't want to.

ArcheryAnnie · 23/05/2021 00:18

OP, is your DH grumpy if you don't have sex for any other reason, too?

sweetypop · 23/05/2021 00:19

We're off to Disney and I'm dreading the room situation.
I love my family but fuck me they drive me mental especially when in a confined space... 5 of us sharing one room. Believe me if I could upgrade (which would actually be downgrading to a value hotel for a suite) it would cost another 3- 4K on top of the 5.5k it's already costing... and that's without the dining plan

AugustMummyxo · 23/05/2021 00:19

@bellsbuss

Ok couldn't go 2 weeks without being intimate with OH, bedroom away from the children for me.
Can I ask why? Why can't you go 2 weeks? It's a fairly short amount of time, what are the implications for you. I'm not being funny here I'm genuinely curious.
TokyoSushi · 23/05/2021 00:19

I wouldn't be bothered about the sex, we've shared a room with the DC before and we just go without, no big deal.

But, I do avoid sharing directly with the DC if possible, it's nice to have a bit of space and when they wake up early they can have a bit of tablet time or whatever rather than you having to wake up the second they do!

Meatshake · 23/05/2021 00:33

That sounds shit, not just for the lack of sex but what do you do once the kids are in bed? Sit in the dark in silence?

MsTSwift · 23/05/2021 00:36

Sharing a room with the kids for two weeks?! Christ That’s not a holiday. And our kids are very “good” and well behaved and we enjoy their company, Not just sex we like to read / chat / watch box sets when they are in bed