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Two week holiday, family room, no sex

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Timetheworldsaysicantafford · 22/05/2021 22:40

We are looking to book a special holiday for 2022 to Walt Disney World - two young children, and after researching I think the best option for us would be a family room onsite rather than a villa with separate bedrooms. Husband is grumpy because that would mean no sex for two weeks. I'm frustrated because I don't see how that should be the main factor deciding this type of holiday?! Perspective needed!!

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Castlepeak · 22/05/2021 23:13

That’s just a normal holiday with kids. Especially with Disney you will be exhausted from the parks anyway. By the time you get back to the room you will want showers and sleep.

DareIask · 22/05/2021 23:14

My only experience of a family room is an 8 year old projectile vomiting off the top bunk....

knittingaddict · 22/05/2021 23:14

And this is why we always book villas and cottages. Even at my age holidays are about being relaxed and more sex. Late 50's and married 35 years.

MajesticWhine · 22/05/2021 23:15

Wouldn't you be able to have a quiet one when the kids are fast asleep? Young kids sleep very deeply. I don't really blame your DH. I would be a bit fed up with no sex on holiday.

PreferToSitInTheShade · 22/05/2021 23:15

I'm surprised so many people think sharing a room with their children would be hell. The novelty is half the fun. As for tiptoeing round in the dark. Never happened. They were so knackered they were spark out in a heartbeat. My daughter just mentioned that she remembers falling asleep easier hearing the hum of our voices. It was nice. I miss it.

knittingaddict · 22/05/2021 23:16

Also don't see what Disneyland has to do with anything. Done that twice and had villas both times.

Returnoftheowl · 22/05/2021 23:17

I'd be a bit annoyed to be using half of my annual leave and spending a lot of money to spend all my days at Disney doing kids stuff AND all my evenings tiptoeing around in the dark because they're asleep and getting no adult time - regardless of whether sex is on the menu

I agree with this. Even ignoring the sex issue you'll be tiptoeing around sleeping children and have no privacy. Disney is an expensive holiday, but it's a holiday for everyone in the family, not just the children. Everybody's views and wishes should be considered.

Have you looked into a family suite at Art of Animation? More expensive, but more space, more separation.

bellie710 · 22/05/2021 23:17

We usually do 3 or 4 nights on site then stay in a villa, the rooms that they allocate for a family of 4/5 are absolutely tiny and always just have 2 double beds. The amount of stuff you will have for 2 weeks you will all be falling over yourself, the sex isn't even an issue the lack of space will be!

Castlepeak · 22/05/2021 23:17

Totally worth staying onsite with Disney, even with needing to stay in one smallish room.

BlackElephant · 22/05/2021 23:17

@knittingaddict

And this is why we always book villas and cottages. Even at my age holidays are about being relaxed and more sex. Late 50's and married 35 years.
I don't think being relaxed and having more sex is why people go to Disney.
AgeLikeWine · 22/05/2021 23:18

Bugger that. Two weeks without sex certainly is not my idea of a holiday.

Leave the kids at home, and shag as much as you want. Problem solved.

AugustMummyxo · 22/05/2021 23:18

@BlackElephant 👏👏 you would think we were talking about a beach hut in the Maldives!! Thank you for also having some sense x

HairyFloppins · 22/05/2021 23:20

We have always shared rooms with the kids and just didn't do it while we were away. I was always more excited to be on holiday. Now they are older teens they have their own room. If it's important to you book a separate room but don't be pressurised.

AugustMummyxo · 22/05/2021 23:21

@AgeLikeWine

Bugger that. Two weeks without sex certainly is not my idea of a holiday.

Leave the kids at home, and shag as much as you want. Problem solved.

Not really the solution OP was looking for but what a brilliant insight you have. Bet your kids love you
MaryShelley1818 · 22/05/2021 23:21

WDW is the most amazing holiday and sharing a room with your kids is fun and part of the holiday for lots of families. We'd always choose this option.

I'd be really put off DH if him getting a shame was more important than other factors on a family holiday and we enjoy a very good sex life.

Quartz2208 · 22/05/2021 23:23

It’s 2 weeks nothing is going to fall off or fail from lack of use

Orlando tends to be divisive between those who love it and those who can’t stand it

Then within the those who love it there are the on-site people, off site hotel people and villa people. Use Facebook and thedibb to find your group

We always go onsite and I love it but it is intense and very easy to fall asleep! I’m normally the first to go even before the children!

VienneseWhirligig · 22/05/2021 23:23

We've done two weeks in the same room in Orlando a couple of times when DS was younger. It was fine - not annoying or claustrophobic. We had quiet bathroom sex when DS was crashed out asleep, but generally we were both so knackered we weren't that fussed about doing it much.

DarkDarkNight · 22/05/2021 23:25

Going by my experience of Orlando you will be too knackered to even think about sex so it may not be an issue 😅

WinterBabyof89 · 22/05/2021 23:26

Disney isn’t a typical holiday - it’s not like going to Italy for a sexy little weekend. If you’re doing it right it’s a graft, leaving very little excess energy to worry about fitting in sex.

I went with my parents to Disney Land as a child with my sister and we shared a family room - no issues from a child’s perspective as we were out early, back late, tired and went straight to bed.
Not sure what my parents did but I’m pretty sure they would have been just as exhausted as us as the days are long, or they got creative and we were none the wiser. As others have said, the bathroom is a good option.

I have great memories of that holiday - hope your family have the same.

MiddleParking · 22/05/2021 23:27

I think it’s reasonable and very normal - nice, actually - to expect a two week, very expensive holiday in a hot country to include decent opportunity for sex with your spouse. The fact he’s sulking and being grumpy about it though would really turn me off.

SionnachGlic · 22/05/2021 23:28

What ages are kids? They'll be tired after being out & about all day so if they are isound sleepers, then sex v quietly undercovers...in the dark! Or in the shower/bath. I do empathise with yoyr DH though...holiday time is family time but also for you together too & for relaxation, closeness etc. I would be pissed off too if sex was being ruled out before we went away as though it was just fine & dandy & I was being made feel unreasonable for being annoyed. Try for a bit more space.....a mini suite with a separate sitting room e..or an apartment.

KittyKatChonky · 22/05/2021 23:28

All these people who can’t handle sleeping in the same room as their children for a short period of time Grin get a grip

user1487194234 · 22/05/2021 23:28

We have always booked something that gave us our own room
We both want to have sex every day on holiday

OnTheBrink1 · 22/05/2021 23:29

Oh poor man- no sex for 2 weeks, how would he cope. Jeez. It’s a kids Disney holiday- not an adults romantic trip to the Caribbean! You will all be absolutely shattered every day because Disney in the heat with 2 small children is absolutely and utterly exhausting.
I’m sure he can hold it for 2 weeks.

Birminghambloke · 22/05/2021 23:29

I stayed in a villa and then on site at Universal. Much preferred being on site. A boat in was lovely, beating a car journey, queues and walks/ trains from car parks. The children will be shattered and will go straight into deep sleep. You’ll be the same ... or will be creative as to what you can do in a small room, full of luggage! If you can stretch to it, go adjoining rooms (with the foot in between).

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