To think referring to your partner as your fiancé is a bit naff?

[RosieGuacamosie]

Lighthearted

I have no idea why I find this irritating 😂 I suppose I just find it a bit naff when people refer to their boyfriend/girlfriend as fiancé in general conversation as in “oh my fiancé is a teacher too”. The majority of people I know say boyfriend/girlfriend/partner until they actually married.

Is it a bit cringe or am I a miserable bitch?

Tbh I normally refer to my fiancé as his name or 'my other half' if people wont know who I'm referring to when I say his name. Or refer to him as my husband to people who are strangers, like the postman or a shop assistance, if it comes up that is. I've used the word fiance a couple of times but never really got into the habit.

If you are engaged, fiancee is the phrase to use. I'm not keen on the term 'partner' for a romantic/domestic relationship myself, although understand why it has become commonplace.

If they are engaged, that's correct. If not than it's weird

Yeah I find it weird too.

I don’t find it weird.

It doesn't bother me at all, its factual.

That said, 'hubby' irritates the shit out of me and I cant stand it when people use it, maybe I'm miserable too op 🤣🤣

It’s odd if you’re not engaged. But I find it weird you think it’s naff because ‘fiancé’ is a much prettier word than ‘partner’ in my view! Horses for courses I guess.

But if the person is their fiancé, surely it’s fine to call them that? I’m not sure I’d notice this.

I don’t like it either, but using boyfriend makes me feel about 12. I use other half/ partner, looking forward to getting married just to start using husband so I don’t feel as awkward!

It depends if there is a wedding planned. My head tilts a little when someone refers to their fiance of 10 or so years with no wedding in sight.

I thirty-year-old people referring to girlfriend or boyfriend, like a teenage romance, is a bit crass. If they have committed to marry they are a fiancée or fiancé

I think adults using boyfriend/girlfriend is worse tbh.

I wouldn't use it, and i don't think actually that i've heard anyone in real life saying it.

However - it wouldn't annoy me to hear it.

The reason i personally wouldn't use it is because i have a London accent and i feel i would sound a bit of a dick using a french word when boyfriend/partner would do. (i don't like 'other 'arf').

'Ees my luverly fee 'arnsay !

I think there isn't a good answer if you're a grown up. Boyfriend, partner, other half, they all sound a bit naff. Actually fiance is probably the best of a bad bunch. I use his name and just expect people to know who I'm talking about

I don't see anything wrong with it - a fiancé isn't just any boyfriend.

Oh sorry you mean if they're not engaged. Yes that is a bit odd!

I hated using the words boyfriend and girlfriend, it just sounds very teenage to my ears.

I has happy to use fiancè but agree with other users that it sounds odd if you're a fiancè for years on end.

Wife/husband now keeps it all simple and straightforward!

I understand why 'partner' is in common usage, and the implications of it for many people, but on a purely personal level, I find it far more 'naff' than boyfriend or girlfriend or fiancé / fiancée. I have no idea why and am completely prepared to be told IABU!

Yes I find partner annoying (and misleading) too. Partner in a law firm/other firm? Partner as in close relationship?

I don’t like the term either, not sure why. Dislike partner even more though to describe a BF/GF.

I didn’t like fiancé and kept using partner until we got married. It felt clunky and weird. I also didn’t like fiancé because it had a known end date on it which no other phase of your relationship has.

I find it weird when people get engaged and suddenly their fiancé(e) looses their first name. So when Sarah and James are dating, Sarah shares James’ just giving page because he’s running the London marathon, she says “James is running the London marathon for [worthy charity]”. Sarah and James get engaged, Sarah still shares James’ just giving page but now it’s “my fiancé is running the London marathon for [worthy charity]”. It’s still James running the marathon. We all know who James is, we figured out James was Sarah’s boyfriend because they tag each other in (dating) anniversary posts, dates and they bought a house together. We saw the FB announcement that they were engaged but now they have to reaffirm that they’re engaged but James can’t be James anymore, just Sarah’s fiancé.

I'd piss you off then. I refer to my partner as my fiancé because he is, we are getting married in four weeks because he is dying. You can cringe all you like but I am glad we have been able to have a short engagement before we marry and I want to celebrate that fact in an otherwise really shitty time.

Partner is much worse

There is something cringey about the word - can’t put my finger on why but there is.

Me and ex were engaged therefore he was my fiancé and that was how I introduced him, we were both late 40s - far too old to use boyfriend/girlfriend and partner is too formal. Nothing wrong with fiancé/fiancée