To think referring to your partner as your fiancé is a bit naff?

[RosieGuacamosie]

Lighthearted

I have no idea why I find this irritating 😂 I suppose I just find it a bit naff when people refer to their boyfriend/girlfriend as fiancé in general conversation as in “oh my fiancé is a teacher too”. The majority of people I know say boyfriend/girlfriend/partner until they actually married.

Is it a bit cringe or am I a miserable bitch?

I was engaged for a year before I got married, took until about a month before the wedding to start saying Fiance because it was just cringe!
I'm in Dublin and it's quite common for people to say Himself/Herself when talking about their significant others to people who wouldn't know them by name.
Works well, gives enough information to convey the type of relationship without going into unnecessary specifics.

Isn’t that the correct term for someone you’re engaged to?!!

@LyingWitchInTheWardrobe

I don't think about any of this until I see these daft threads... what are people supposed to call their shag-ee then? I think the term wife/husband is a bit smug and awfully naff, but other like to use those terms so what?

The Italians do it best; I prefer inamorato. I'll use that from now on.

If you live with your shag-ee, the correct Scots term is "bidie in".

(Pronounced "bye-dee-in".)

Not quite as romantic as inamorato, but specific and helpful. :)

I kind of (lightheartedly) agree. The terms fiancé/fiancée seem naff and for some reason a bit 1980s to me. It reminds me of contestants on awful Saturday evening gameshows presented by Les Dennis. 'Hello, Les. I'm Gail and I'm here with my fiancé Paul, my sister Melanie, my uncle Jim and my cousin Lisa Marie. We're hoping to win a speedboat'

It always reminds me of Lennie Godber in 'Porridge' with his fiance Denise.

I think the term wife/husband is a bit smug and awfully naff
😂. I think that's just you, somehow.

I quite like bidie in and inamorato. It sounds like something nice to eat.

Partner is awful. Fiancé, fiancée, boyfriend and girlfriend are fine.

@DdraigGoch

Isn't the use of French words generally considered naff and try-hard? Hence why the upper classes don't say "pardon"?

But there is no word in English which adequately describes 'the person you have agreed to marry' - so I think it's fine and rather a lovely word actually!

I loved calling my DH fiancé but only because it was a novelty that wouldn't be around long

Couldn't agree more OP! Like you're inviting congratulations every time!

It's definitely naff. But, I think "being engaged" is naff. And, "I wish he'd propose" stuff is naff. All in the same basket to me.

It’s funny isn’t it, everyone’s different, as for me it’s the term ‘partner’ that I find naff! In my view fiancé/fiancée is a short term novelty and also factually correct.

I loathe the word fiancé. It’s right up there with moist!

I can't remember if I used this word or not during the 6 months I was engaged before getting married.... but I don't really see the problem with doing so?

@MagicSummer try 'betrothed'.

Yeah YANBU, I think I would either say partner or husband! Fiancé sounds a bit poncy

@newnortherner111

If you are engaged, fiancee is the phrase to use. I'm not keen on the term 'partner' for a romantic/domestic relationship myself, although understand why it has become commonplace.

Only if you are referring to a female. Otherwise it's fiancé.

30 years ago engagements were usually about 6 to 12 months tops. DH proposed in mid June (Ballgown, silvery moon, rose garden, champagne) just in the moment. We booked the church a couple of months later, chose the ring, etc, at leisure and announced the engagement 6th months before the date of the wedding.

He was first my boyfriend, then my fiance, then husband. We maintained separate residences until about a month before the wedding when there was no point in him renewing the lease on his flat for 6 months.

[quote FangsForTheMemory]@MagicSummer try 'betrothed'.[/quote]
Oh yes - forgotten about that!

We are 41 and 44... I think boyfriend/girlfriend sounds a wee bit juvenile.

Does anyone refer to their 'intended' anymore, or did that fall out of fashion in 1952?

I think people feel odd saying it because it’s a french word so it can sound either pretentious or like you have a bad french accent! Also as some PP have mentioned, it does sometimes lead to questions about the proposal, the wedding etc which you might not want to get into.

But I used it and don’t mind others using it. Makes that time a bit more special IMO! (As long as it doesn’t last for years!)

Even worse when they’re not married and refer to partners family as in laws
As Marilla Cuthbert in Anne of green gables said I don’t believe in calling people names they’re not ..(something like that when Anne wanted to be called Cordelia )

@ShoppingPrecinctPrincess