To think referring to your partner as your fiancé is a bit naff?

[RosieGuacamosie]

Lighthearted

I have no idea why I find this irritating 😂 I suppose I just find it a bit naff when people refer to their boyfriend/girlfriend as fiancé in general conversation as in “oh my fiancé is a teacher too”. The majority of people I know say boyfriend/girlfriend/partner until they actually married.

Is it a bit cringe or am I a miserable bitch?

@doadeer

Those who hate partner, what do you call someone if they've been together 10 years plus etc but not married? Surely not boyfriend?

Why not, if not married that’s what they are? It’s just dating and either can walk away at any point.

I really don’t like the word fiancée/ fiancé! I’ve no idea why either.

I guess because it sort of isn’t anything - you can’t sue for breach of promise any more, so in a way it’s kind of “it ain’t over til the fat lady sings” iyswim.

I also hate using french words for things when speaking english!

I don’t mind partner on the other hand.

It made my mother so happy when we got officially engaged. Until then she didn’t know how to introduce the 65+ year old lover of her 65+ year old daughter.

@bloodywhitecat

I'd piss you off then. I refer to my partner as my fiancé because he is, we are getting married in four weeks because he is dying. You can cringe all you like but I am glad we have been able to have a short engagement before we marry and I want to celebrate that fact in an otherwise really shitty time.

Oh I'm so sorry. I hope you have a lovely wedding day and make memories you can treasure for ever.

I don’t like it either. It’s partner before husband/wife for me. Boyfriend/girlfriend is very teenage, that also makes me cringe.

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But what else do you call them? I’m not sure ‘my intended’ or ‘my lover’ are any better. I did call DP my fiancé once and my best friend burst out laughing as I clearly could hardly bring myself to say it!

He referred to me as ‘Parsley, my wife-to-be’ when introducing me to someone. Not sure about that either.

I say fiancé because that’s what he is. He refers to me as his wife already though, guess he’s keener than I am

I don't really like any of the titles really. In real like I think I've referred to my boyfriend as a boyfriend maybe like 10 times in the past 10 years. I just use his first name and people can make their assumptions of our relationship.

I do especially dislike fiance but if you want to say it and lime it, go for it! I don't like partner but I also a knowledge that it's the best neutral term since I'm not keen on lover either. In a weird way I like the way my grandmother pointedly says 'friend' about any of the parents of the grandkids.

I saw a car yesterday with a private plate that looked like fiance. I wondered whether it had been bought and gifted as a proposal.

I loath the word partner and am never quite sure of the nature of the relationship always assuming first of all that it means business partner.

He referred to me as ‘Parsley, my wife-to-be’ when introducing me to someone. Not sure about that either.
There's nothing wrong with that, it does exactly what it says on the tin.

Presumably you know that “fiancé/fiancée” are is not another way to refer to your partner. It means you are engaged to be married. My education and career have taught me the importance of clear communication so I always try to the most accurate word I can find to describe something. For this reason I would never use words like “hubby” or “little man.” Also they sound incredibly stupid.

I don’t mind fiancé. I don’t like partner, or even worse, ‘other half’ especially when it’s used by people who have only been together a matter of weeks.

I really don't mind care what words people use for someone they're in a relationship with - it takes a lot to make me cringe. Anyway, in reality all of the available words tell you very little about the length, stability and actual commitment in the relationship.

Also I'm surprised at the number of people who avoid using 'partner' because it makes people assume they're in a same-sex relationship. It doesn't for me, and I'm gay.

Erm... what? Fiancé means man you’re engaged to, partner is nondescript and could be a boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife. Fiancé is the correct word for a man you’re engaged to. Odd.

Everyone must be cringing all the time.

I like partner BECAUSE it is nondescript. It doesn’t belie my sexuality, marital status, or give any clue as to my level of emotional or financial commitment to anyone. I don’t like husband or wife at all. They have associations and connotations I’m not prepared to

Partner isn’t a term for before marriage, or under/below husband or wife. It’s not lesser-than. And the comments here that you have to sprog with each partner and they are short term relationships are a bit shitty. You can be married partners, long term partners, life partners. But good to know that I’m looked down upon as a partner of 20+ years.

I’m going to start saying lover instead.

The whole engagement and fiance thing makes me cringe and always has done. It belongs in Jane Austen novels. It goes together with weddings that are planned down to the last detail years in advance. Just go and get married if that's what you want to do.

Unreasonable imo. I think fiancé is lovely, usually quite a short part of one's life to celebrate before the never ending dreariness of marriage. I suggest everyone enjoys the nomenclature before it shrivels up and dies a slow and vacuous death.

I really struggled with how to vote! I voted YANBU because I find it cringy for some reason as well, but equally it is the correct term so I don't think it is that reasonable for either of us have a problem with it.

Hubby is horrific, in real life and on SM 🤮

Why do you not like it?

I always referred to my husband as my fiance once we were engaged.
There is nothing wrong with it.

There is also nothing wrong with referring to your other half as your other half or your partner or your old man or your better half or your ball and chain...

it's cheesy

If someone says they have a partner, I assume they have no intention of getting married, but if they have a fiancé, I assume they have made the commitment to get married. It’s certainly not naff, just a statement of fact.

I have a fiance...i love it when he tells other people i'm his fiance....makes me feel like he's committed.