To think referring to your partner as your fiancé is a bit naff?

[RosieGuacamosie]

Lighthearted

I have no idea why I find this irritating 😂 I suppose I just find it a bit naff when people refer to their boyfriend/girlfriend as fiancé in general conversation as in “oh my fiancé is a teacher too”. The majority of people I know say boyfriend/girlfriend/partner until they actually married.

Is it a bit cringe or am I a miserable bitch?

Is saying other French words pretentious? How do you order a pain au chocolat if you think French words are poncey or cringey? I don’t get that at all. Fiancée/fiancé is factual to me.

Partner makes me feel a bit sick. I think it has overtones of sex therapy or something they’d ask you about at an STD clinic.

Reminds me of the ‘fiancé’ sketch in Seinfield 🤭

Lol never thought about it but yeah that is pretty cringe.

Same level as saying your baby is '42 months' or something.

@SirenSays

I think adults using boyfriend/girlfriend is worse tbh.

This

Partner is fine. The people don’t like it because it’s associated with homosexuality. I don't agree with that at all. Maybe true for some people but I don't mix with people like that so haven't come across it.

It did remind me of the one time I used partner in real life. I got a lecture from my then colleague who was gay about the fact he hated straight people using partner as it meant gay people no longer had their own term to use bla bla bla. I replied that X doesn't mind being referred to as partner as she and I prefer not to have specific terms for the lgbt community as we feel it segregates us more. His face was a picture.

When my DH was my fiancé that's what I referred to him as...

Before that boyfriend. After that husband.

Of course unless people know him. In which case he's just Steve.

I hate if too - it's cringey. I just used "partner" until we were married.

I find it a bit ‘oh no, it’s not just another romance We Are ENGAGED’ a bit try hard ‘look, look, look at my upgrade’ to fiancé.

I’m not a romantic

I’m a true romantic and even I actually felt a little bit embarrassed at using fiance when I was engaged to my now-husband! Couldn’t actually tell you specifically why, though.

There aren't any very good words for all this!

I use boyfriend (not engaged). I wouldn't use fiancé if we were, but don't find it naff. I just hate wedding talk and surely that follows if you use that phrase?!

Partner sounds like a business arrangement. Gah! Who knows.

Fiance is fine.. as long as it's someone you're actually engaged to with intent/ plans to marry within the foreseeable future. Not someone you've been with 10 years who proposed once when he was drunk but has since hoped you've forgotten, has never produced a ring, and you're just living with indefinitely.

I don't tend to hear it often, though, and I like to think the person using it has recently been asked and just wants to talk about it. A bit like how some people get excited about referring to their new spouse as their spouse, or husband, or wife. Just a new term which can be exciting, makes life changes more real I suppose.

It’s not weird. If they’re engaged to be married then it’s correct.